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Old 08-15-2013, 08:29 AM
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The Triad vs. Vee thing works because the lines show the (sexual/romantic) relationship links. You need to draw diagonals if everyone in a quad is involved with everyone else, but for that you also need to move the visualisation into 3D in order to get a one-word name. A tetrahedron, perhaps? Does anyone want to try for a tesseract?
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Old 08-15-2013, 12:52 PM
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So the word essentially means "closed couple partner exchange, or any variation of four individuals in which members may or may not be romantically involved" lol
thats how i was using it marcus I actually was laying in bed thinking about this last night. lol. drawing lines in my head between people...its easy to connect/draw a V, and a triad is just a trianlge....but then when you get to quad the geometry could get confusing. Say, Im married to J1, I date J2, J2 is married to M, M dates J1, and maybe M and i have some intimate time with the guys. I guess why i said "quad" is because you could connect us into a square, which closes.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:18 PM
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I guess why i said "quad" is because you could connect us into a square, which closes.
You should try for Flowerchild's "full integration". That way it's a box with an "X" in the middle - everyone shagging everyone.
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Old 08-15-2013, 01:52 PM
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You should try for Flowerchild's "full integration". That way it's a box with an "X" in the middle - everyone shagging everyone.
lmao Marcus.
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Old 08-15-2013, 04:36 PM
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We tried a quad. Didn't work when the guy of the other couple was really possessive and manipulative. He also wanted polyfi which we found unacceptable.
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Old 08-15-2013, 04:51 PM
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Does anyone want to try for a tesseract?
Ooooo! *waves hand* Me me! I love tesseracts!

Even though my only exposure to them was in the awesome 'A Wrinkle in Time'.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:37 AM
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I can share a relationship configuration I am a part of. Me and my SO met a couple 3 years ago. She is bi and was interested in having a woman in her life. I was looking for a girlfriend too at the time but my SO and I were meeting a lot of people at the time, and to be honest we had certain things we were looking for, so we didn't follow up with them. I saw the couple at a club 2 years later and found that I was attracted to both of them. I still didn't have a girlfriend so I asked if she would be interested in pursuing that. I consider myself to be in a "dating" triad that is still forming with this couple AND she is attracted to my SO also, so the four of us have done things together too! There is an understood hierarchy of the different relationship configurations. I would put them in this order of importance and this also represents the amount of time we devote to the relationship configurations.

1-She and her husband
2-Me and my SO
3-She and I
4-She, I and her husband
5-She, I, her husband, my SO
6- me and her husband

These configurations will probably never happen

She, her husband and my SO
She and my SO
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:05 PM
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You should try for Flowerchild's "full integration". That way it's a box with an "X" in the middle - everyone shagging everyone.
Wow, judgmental community much?
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:36 PM
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Well we tried asking for clarification Flowerchild, and all we got was defensive attitudes and back tracking. Read around, a lot of times people ask for clarification because with language we can be using the same words and meaning different things.
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:40 PM
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Wow, judgmental community much?
Hmmm, I kind of took that as being cheeky, not judgemental.
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