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Old 07-10-2013, 10:12 PM
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Default all this and that aside

I am curious to know what people think of the hypothetical situation that a mother and daughter happen to have the same boyfriend.

forget all the job ethics, or that one of them may not be able to deal with it, as all of it is a moot point depending on situations that do not include all the what ifs like a mother daughter threesome or something like the boyfriend having sex with one then exiting the room and immediately having sex with other.

Without all the excuses and reasons, flat out, do you think it is wrong for a mother and daughter to have the same boyfriend, when their relationships with the same boyfriend are completely separate, like metamours who have never met (is that even really a metamour?)

forget that last metamour question, just the one about whether or not you think it is OK for a mother and daughter to have the same boyfriend, without all the silly excuses of why it wouldn't work, just whether or not it is OK
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Old 07-10-2013, 10:16 PM
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Default No it is NOT okay, OKAY?

Oh thank god you're finally here. I know it's mushroom season where you live and i was wondering if you were within range of a mothership or not.

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Old 07-10-2013, 10:41 PM
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Some people are into incest. Sometimes it's role playing, sometimes it's the real thing. Edgey fetishland for sure.

So, this is borderline incest, playing strip poker with your mom and then making out and heavy petting in the same room with her friends, with her there. Most humans don't do this, but again, it's a fetish.

Fetishes are OK, as long as no one is being hurt, you know, either physically or emotionally.

However, leaving all that aside, there's the professional and communication issues that need to be worked out here. Thinks things through with your brains and not your dicks/clits.
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Old 07-10-2013, 11:07 PM
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Default I don't condone incest

and I understand the ethics of why it's wrong to be romantically involved with your boss or employee.

I see how strip poker with your mother is the start of incest, but those are the "excuses" I am talking about, as it seems like they are used as excuses to not answer the harder, more revealing question on a how a person views the boundaries of what is and isn't appropriate ways to love a person.

So I am talking about non-incestuous behavior, such as a man having two completely separate romantic relationships, with a mother and her daughter
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Old 07-10-2013, 11:12 PM
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Fine. You go have a relationship with a mother and daughter. I'll sit and watch.
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Old 07-10-2013, 11:16 PM
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Some people are into incest. Sometimes it's role playing, sometimes it's the real thing. Edgey fetishland for sure.

So, this is borderline incest, playing strip poker with your mom and then making out and heavy petting in the same room with her friends, with her there. Most humans don't do this, but again, it's a fetish.

Fetishes are OK, as long as no one is being hurt, you know, either physically or emotionally.

However, leaving all that aside, there's the professional and communication issues that need to be worked out here. Thinks things through with your brains and not your dicks/clits.
As long as no one is being hurt.

As long as everyone is ok with it.

When do they ever post here because no one is hurt and everyone is ok with it? Are all these poly-incestual families just quietly and happily going about their lives with no drama, just like all the happy triads out there that we never hear from?

Yo! To all the successful incestuous poly families out there! We want to hear from you! Make yourself heard! Speak up! Don't be ashamed of your fetish!

I'm down for it.
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Old 07-10-2013, 11:40 PM
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Yo! To all the successful incestuous poly families out there! We want to hear from you! Make yourself heard! Speak up! Don't be ashamed of your fetish!

I'm down for it.
I've actually chatted with a couple of people into it over at Fetlife. This board is too mainstream for it.
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Old 07-10-2013, 11:44 PM
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Wha wha, wha, wha whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat???

Why would you evn consider causing your own mother such pain OP?

Did she beat you with metal hangers or sommat? Because I would think only severe abuse is the only justification for treating your mother thus.

Shame, shame, shame.....

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Old 07-11-2013, 12:47 AM
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I've actually chatted with a couple of people into it over at Fetlife. This board is too mainstream for it.
I guess i'll have to take YOUR word for it, but are you sure they were for real? They weren't just making shit up to get off?
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Old 07-11-2013, 12:56 AM
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Nope, we werent cybersexing, they were just telling me about their lives. Like, what did you do last weekend? Oh, I did xyz with my mom and dad. Or, the other person, I did xyz with my gf and her husband and their son. I was just curious and open minded about it, and they didnt get to talk about it much, so I just listened. Then we'd talk of other topics. *shrug* People find me easy to open up to.
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