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Old 01-12-2011, 08:48 PM
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if he can't even converse with others, how's he going to think on a deeper level about showing partners the "courtesy" of freedome of sexual expression.
That is very astute of you to see that corollary! His "windbag ways" are indeed a red flag.
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Old 01-13-2011, 05:10 AM
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Thank you for your input, dear friends. I've decided what I going to do about this: nothing.

At least not for the time being. His feelings and whatever issues he may be experiencing are not my fault, my creation or my responsibility. The fact that I know one valid solution to his dilemma concerning his attraction to a married woman does not obligate me in any way. And the same God who lead me to polyamory can lead him too, and do a better job of it. And if I open that can of worms with him, I create a problem for myself, potentially a gigantic hairy monster of a problem that devours the city, or at least certainly ends with somebody getting hurt.

If he were ever to ask me a direct question, I'll answer truthfully and directly, same as I would for anyone else.

As for his habit of speaking over people, and the other similar behaviors, it's not for me to fix him. I have a full time job trying to fix myself! If he ever seeks my advice, I'll give it.

Thanks for the help, everyone. I sincerely appreciate it. Sometimes the wise, compassionate and loving thing to do is what you're already doing.
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Old 01-13-2011, 12:38 PM
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Thank you for your input, dear friends. I've decided what I going to do about this: nothing.

Thanks for the help, everyone. I sincerely appreciate it. Sometimes the wise, compassionate and loving thing to do is what you're already doing.
Good for you. I think there would be a lot less grief in the world if more people followed this example.
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