Unicorn?

Okay, this is gonna sound stupid. lol All this talk about the unicorn. It sounds like me. I've fallen in love with a married couple. I've only got bits of the definition from a few posts.

Mind you, none of us were seeking each other, or the love we fell into. I'm just curious if I would be considered one. lol

Okay, stupid question over.

Okay, someone fill me in on this unicorn thing. What the heck? What is that?

I believe a unicorn the same as a hot bi babe. You are so not a unicorn, aussielover.

HOT BI BABE (HBB): Colloquial; often derogatory, condescending, or ironic A bisexual person, usually though not always female, who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple. The term is often used to be dismissive of a couple seen to be only superficially polyamorous, as They're just looking for a hot bi babe. Such a person may be referred to as a "mythical hot bi babe." Some members of the polyamory community self-identify as hot bi babes as a form of tongue-in-cheek intentional irony.

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I may be wrong...

Ohh maybe not....
http://knol.google.com/k/james-oneill/polyamory/3czmgkncteg8o/2#

golden unicorn-- slang term for the bisexual female that is desired as an intimate and sexual partner for both members of a dyad, most likely with the intent to form a triad. In most cases, with an established MF dyad, where the female is bisexual.

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But we didn't search. We found you when we were not looking.

hehe That didn't help, babe. lol Thanks, though. I guess it depends on your definition.

I'm pretty sure that a unicorn is exactly what we're looking for.

Well, honey, that was the best definition I could find.


Nadine, think so, too.

That's ok. I'm down with fairy tales.

Doesn't have to be a fairy tale.

*pinch* *poke* Nope. I'm pretty real. They can attest to that.

Aussielover, your story (along with sunshinegirl and aussiebloke) is very inspiring. I'm so happy for the three of you!

Thanks, Amalthea.

Thanks for the info. What would a man be called? Is there a term?

No, because you typically don't see a couple searching for a male version of a HBB under such idealistic circumstantial criteria. I suppose it does happen, but not often enough for it to become a cliche.

It is rather a cliche, isn't it? When I was searching on dating sites for my ever-elusive other (so glad to not have to do that any more!), I came across two things most often: cheating men, looking for women who were also cheating, or in an open relationship, and men who wanted a unicorn to give some experience to their bi-curious females (and of course have fun themselves!). I didn't fit any of that, although I did try it all on for size.

I look now for women experienced with dating other women. There are never any that are interested in a bisexual (I actually identify as polysexual), experienced woman who is with three men. None! Women don't seem to be on the forefront of their sexuality unless they are single or their men have expressed an interest in something more. Of course, I am generalizing here, but I have noticed it to be true and experienced it as reality. It makes me concerned when women come on here and say their man wants to be poly and they will try it because of him.

Am I just a novelty because I have taken my own sexuality into my own hands? Am I just overly-sexualized? What? I feel sometimes as if I am, especially as I come across judgement and disagreement with how I live my life.

I dated a bisexual woman while in college. She got on AOL. (I use to pick on her by calling AOL the trailer park of the internet.) Anyway, she once added "bisexual" to her profile and she got constantly spammed by all sorts of IMs. It was 95% guys who wanted to get her and some other yet to be named bisexual woman up for a threesome. Sometimes it was a woman who wanted to test her bi-curious nature with her boyfriend/husband watching or helping. She finally removed that tag so she could surf the net without constant IMs.

Sad but true, Quath. Still, what do you do unless you put it out there? If a spaceship landed of bi women who wanted no attachments and to be mauled by couples, then we would be set!

redpepper said:

If a space ship landed of bi women who wanted no attachments and to be mauled by couples then we would be set!

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...and THAT is why they have a nickname which is also a mythical creature. You might as well call them "Amazon Women from the Moon" but it's just easier to write "Unicorn".

LMAO. I don't even know what to say to any of this. Can I order a sexually monogamous lesbian for a V with myself and the hubby while we're searching for mythical beings? Now I know why I was chased down before being married. Learn something new every day.

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Can I order a sexually monogamous lesbian for a V with myself and the hubby while we're searching for mythical beings? .

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Hey! How come you don't see much demand for a sexually monogamous straight guy for a V?? Oh yeah...cause they are such a pain in the ass, that's why