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Old 06-24-2013, 08:14 PM
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What are the pros and cons of both a polyamorous and monogamous relationship?
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:19 PM
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A "pro" is someone who gets paid for it and does that for a career.

A "con" is like someone who takes your money under false pretenses.



A "mono-pro" is someone who marries a rich person for their money.

A "poly-con" is when a bunch of poly people go to a hotel or to the woods and talk about what it's like to be poly.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:31 PM
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That is a subjective question what is a pro to one person may be a con to someone else.
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totally subjective. Different people have different perspectives and those will color their responses.

What I find to be pro of poly-I have poly friends who find the same things to be cons.

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Old 06-24-2013, 11:29 PM
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When I ask this, I mean "what are your answers personally?"
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Old 06-25-2013, 06:41 AM
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For me, a definite perk of being poly over being mono is that it increases your chances of enjoying adult company in your free time. I'm not saying that's why one should be poly, but it's a definite perk. Disadvantages, hmm, I can't think of one that would be true for everyone and aren't the product of imperfect poly, shall we say. One thing I've thought about is that of my contraception failed, and I got pregnant, I'd have no idea who the dad was. That scares me.
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Old 06-25-2013, 02:47 PM
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They have these things called "paternity tests" where you compare the blood type and/or DNA of your kid and you and all the guys you fucked during that ovulation cycle, and it will tell you which one got you knocked up.

This not-knowing-who-the-babby-daddy-is can happen to monogamous people too, by the way.
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They have these things called "paternity tests" where you compare the blood type and/or DNA of your kid and you and all the guys you fucked during that ovulation cycle, and it will tell you which one got you knocked up.

This not-knowing-who-the-babby-daddy-is can happen to monogamous people too, by the way.
A paternity test can only take place a significant way through the pregnancy and the procedure also causes risks to the pregnancy. Who the father is might be instrumental in my decision to continue the pregnancy and ideally, I'd like their input. I'm nice like that, see. If I got pregnant now, I'd have to wait until at least 16/40 before I could determine who the father was, more like 20/40, and then I'd have to endure them injecting a drug into the fetus to stop it's heart beating and then the ordeal of the fetus being expelled from my vagina after going through what is pretty much labour. The thought of that is not appealing. If I was going to terminate a pregnancy, I'd prefer to do it as early as possible (preferable before 9/40) so I could minimise the amount of medical intervention I have.

This wouldn't have happened to me when I had monogamous relationships because I either slept with nobody, or one person at a time. Definitely, one person per ovulation cycle anyway.
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Old 06-26-2013, 09:11 AM
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Maybe you should consider being sterilised London? Or put off being non-monogamous until after menopause? Or maybe only sleep with men you don't mind blending genes with?
Since accidental pregnancy by the 'right' person is so important to you?

I know single parenthood isn't for everyone but if your only criteria for continuing a pregnancy is 'which man did the deed' you might end up making some pretty big mistakes.
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