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Old 06-06-2013, 12:02 AM
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"I do have friends, but I don't think I would have them for long if I revealed myself to be polyamorous."
That's pretty sad. It's like saying that if you had to out yourself, you'd find out who your real friends are, and that might turn out to be no friends at all. No one should have to be devoid of real friends, I wish people would be a little more open-minded.
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Old 06-06-2013, 12:49 AM
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I think its just the same as getting over any breakup, except you have to make sure to not lean too heavily on other partners unless they are ok with it, and up for the task.

I'd just say google "getting through a breakup" and read a few articles, there's a bit to glean from each one that should help. Such as this.
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Old 06-06-2013, 04:30 AM
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I do have friends, but I don't think I would have them for long if I revealed myself to be polyamorous.

Kim xxx.
Time to make some different friends, no? The ones you think you have are not much use to you when it really matters.
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Old 06-06-2013, 08:18 PM
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I probably am guilty of that to a certain extent. I did ask him about the nature of his open relationships. Perhaps I should have enquired a bit further, but I didn't want to frighten him off.
I've found that it's better to "frighten them off" before things get serious, rather than leave things ambiguous that can turn around and bite me later. Any time the truth would frighten someone off, it's a sure bet that they aren't a good match for me anyway.
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Old 06-08-2013, 07:04 PM
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I would like to thank everyone for their support and advice

SchrodingersCat - yeah, I'm being quite upfront about being polyamorous to any guys that message me on OkCupid now.

Kim xxx.
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