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Old 05-31-2013, 03:29 PM
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Oh wow. OK. When you said you were upstairs sleeping with the kids, I imagined like, you and a baby and a toddler co-sleeping while he and your so-called friend S cheated on you downstairs.

Now, if they were in the living room and your 12 year old walked in! Yikes. Or like you said, an Aspie 7 year old wandered down to get a drink or whatever. Not good. How can people be so careless?

You 2 do have a history, all right. Cheating on both sides, "domestic disturbance," 2 years to heal after that.

Also, when you said you had a baby in March, I thought you meant a month after you got married, but do you mean, this year? You've got a newborn and are out dating around, first as a couple and now singly? How on earth do you have the energy or drive or brain power, with 5 kids, one who is 2 months old?

Also, is there a OPP or not? You had sex with a man when you weren't supposed to, then you say you only want a woman anyway, then you say the OPP might be discontinued... Yeah, confusion is a good title for this thread!
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Old 05-31-2013, 03:55 PM
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Red face To clarify....

No I do not have a newborn baby. The baby in March was right after we got married in 2006. She is now 7 and has Aspbergers.

The OPP hit after I slept with a man in 2007. It was not the fact that I slept with him but the fact that I did something with him that I wasn't allowed. That's when we started the OPP. We should have worked it out but we didn't know how then so we just changes the rules. I know.... Not the best way to handle it.

But you nailed it on the head hun. It was the complete lack of forethought that hit me as just so wrong. That's the part that I need him to fix for future encounters and I don't know how to explain that to him. Hell I'm barely managing to explain it to you guys. Yes confused about covers it. :-P
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Old 06-02-2013, 03:11 PM
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I have asked her about the OPP rule quite a few times. If she would like to get rid if it. B would dance around the answer. I don't think, or feel, that it is fare. Today we are going to take our lump of iron and hammer it out in to something beautiful.
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