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Old 07-31-2009, 06:50 AM
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Through all of these conversations and postings I have read I have learned so much, and I have come to one very uncomfortable and disturbing conclusion...

When it comes to "Elric" I have been very selfish and manipulative. I can't go into all of the details, but I know that it is true. I have sent him an apology and now await his response.

I can only hope that I have learned from this experience and have not lost a very dear friend due to my own errors and insecurities.

Thank you all for helping me and for although inadvertently, showing me the error of my ways.
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Old 07-31-2009, 04:57 PM
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Van, this is good.....we all are continually learning about ourselves. This is a long and winding road, to steal some Beatles mojo......what scares me is when people fail to see/learn along the way. How terrible to remain stagnant or stuck in our evolution with eachother whether friends, co-workers, lovers or family members. What a waste of our life's journey, IMO.
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:11 PM
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I'm not aware of my ex thinking there was anything wrong with my marriage that I'd be interested in her, too. I know she was never comfortable with identifying as poly in any fashion. That she was involved in a poly tangle wasn't something she could bring herself to admit; she told her closest friends that I'm in an open marriage and my wife knew we were dating--yet couldn't actually say it was a poly arrangement. She obviously had no problem having the relationship, just couldn't ever bring herself to identify it for what it was.
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:13 PM
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We aren't helped by the dearth of terms for specific types of love in the English language, are we? Where the Greeks had several, we limp along with one.
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:17 PM
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Matchmake, matchmaker, make me a match!

As long as you don't begin posting spam, child porn, or otherwise not playing nice, I doubt anybody's going to have an issue with your thread.
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:20 PM
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What? Oh, that hurts, dear lady!



(I just paid attention to the dates to find this more recent than what else I just responded to. D'oh!)
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:23 PM
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I was kinda tryig to figure out what you were referring to at times... got most of them figured out though...I think.
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Old 08-02-2009, 09:26 PM
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I use the threaded view and don't pay close attention to the dates. I was getting involved with your story, jumped to a new section of thread and suddenly found I was behind times. Sorry!
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Old 08-03-2009, 12:06 AM
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No worries. At least I know someone is reading my topic again.

What were you referring to when you said "What? Oh, that hurts, dear lady!"?
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Old 08-03-2009, 03:32 AM
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No worries. At least I know someone is reading my topic again.

What were you referring to when you said "What? Oh, that hurts, dear lady!"?
That was in reply to:

"It's over.
It's done.
My heart is in pieces."

I was surprised at the quick turnaround because I'd just read the older part of the thread where everything was looking up. It was only when I hit that message that I thought to look at the posting dates.
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