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Old 01-02-2011, 06:40 PM
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Let's say I am very sex positive. If I can't get with the one I love, I love the one I'm with, even just for a couple hours. Now, where's that boytoy of mine? Watching football!
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Old 01-03-2011, 01:42 AM
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Let's say I am very sex positive. If I can't get with the one I love, I love the one I'm with, even just for a couple hours. Now, where's that boytoy of mine? Watching football!
Og's song from Finian's Rainbow comes to mind:

When I'm not near the girl I love,
I love the girl I'm near!

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Old 01-03-2011, 10:19 PM
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Og's song from Finian's Rainbow comes to mind:

When I'm not near the girl I love,
I love the girl I'm near!

It's a Stephen Still song.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5IVuN1N6-Y

And he came over after football! Yay!
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miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
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Old 01-03-2011, 10:23 PM
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If you're down and confused
And you don't remember who you're talking to
Concentration slips away
Cause your baby is so far away

Well there's a rose in the fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can't be with the one you love, honey
Love the one you're with

Don't be angry - don't be sad
Don't sit crying over good times you've had
There's a girl right next to you
And she's just waiting for something to do

Turn your heartache right into joy
Cause she's a girl and you're a boy
Get it together come on make it nice
You ain't gonna need anymore advice


Well there's a rose in the fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can't be with the one you love honey
Love the one you're with

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There's no lying in polyamory!

I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:06 AM
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Doo-doo-Doo-doo-Doo-doo-Doo-doo!

Doo-doo-doo, Doo-doo-doo!
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:12 AM
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I always thought "Well there's a rose in the fisted glove" was "Well, there's a road, and a distant love."
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:45 PM
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I never knew WHAT he was singing there. I just got those lyrics off the web. Your words make more sense, lol.
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Old 01-04-2011, 10:40 PM
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I was singing it today, actually. It seems I have several versions in my brain. Today, it was "There's a road, and the distance long, where the eagle flies..."
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Old 01-06-2011, 03:06 PM
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I am one of those people you described, Magdlyn and its good to know I'm not alone. I'm one of those people where anything less than 3 days a week leaves me feeling like I'm just barely functioning. I'd have sex everyday if i could, but with opposite work schedules and a 9 year old its tough, the best I can hope for is five days a week between my two men. Wolf's drive shifts from sex to cuddles when he's stressed out, which has been alot lately (he works retail and has been in holiday hell) which means I've been stressed, frustrated, short tempered, and feeling less than human for a few weeks now. Wendigo coming over once a week has helped a little, but those nights we've barely had time for teasing or a quick kiss goodnight. Thankfully my husband finally gets that its a real need for me and has taken pity on me a couple times inspite of not being in the mood himself.
In our home its the opposite im the one with the higher drive my wife is on meds that decrease her libido, our newest member has a higher drive then i do, kinda a little scary. my wife used to do the take pity on the penis thing. but for me its not the same I prefer willing and active partners. hopefully with our new arrangement things will be different. still trying to classify what our arrangement really is, but then are classifications really important?. as long as all people involved are on the same page and have discussed and set the boundries dont worry about what to call it. just call it life, your lives, and how you are choosing to lead them. just my two cents.
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Old 01-08-2011, 05:52 PM
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In our home its the opposite im the one with the higher drive my wife is on meds that decrease her libido, our newest member has a higher drive then i do, kinda a little scary. my wife used to do the take pity on the penis thing. but for me its not the same I prefer willing and active partners. hopefully with our new arrangement things will be different. still trying to classify what our arrangement really is, but then are classifications really important?. as long as all people involved are on the same page and have discussed and set the boundries dont worry about what to call it. just call it life, your lives, and how you are choosing to lead them. just my two cents.
Generally speaking, it was only the last couple weeks that he took pity on me because while he wanted to be active and willing he just didn't have the time or energy for it with all the hours he was pulling. I think he felt a little bit guilty about "neglecting" me and with transportation and timing issues, Wendigo and I weren't able to be physical either, so they were dealing with a rather frustrated me. And yeah, I have trouble with the classification too - I mean there are four of us all involved with each other to varying degrees physically and emotionally. *shrugs* But I agree, as long as everyone is happy and healthy than it doesn't really matter what you call it.
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