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Old 04-07-2013, 12:40 AM
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Old 04-07-2013, 06:25 AM
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First off, you say you've realized just how mono you are, are you working past this? Or are you going to attempt to remain very dead set on mono?
Not sure if it's what you intended, but "working past this" comes across to me like the OP should try to stop being mono, as though it's a bad thing that should be fixed.

There's nothing wrong with being mono, even within a non-monogamous relationship. Perhaps "this" referred to the jealousy, but that's not how it read to me.
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There's nothing wrong with a little healthy jealousy but not too much.
Healthy jealousy? I'd say that is an oxymoron.

Furthermore, the subject line of your post from which I pulled the above quote really rankles me. "Mono jealousy vs poly healthy" -- what exactly do you mean by that?
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Old 04-13-2013, 11:06 PM
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Wow! Look at all this action.

I went on vacation for a week. We had some family time throughout (man and oso's).

Malfunktions, I don't see mono equating with jealousy. I like having one partner because I like doting on one person. Although, this relationship has helped me to see how someone can be totally present individually with many partners.

At this point, I might shift this thread to a blog.

I was on vacation this week and we had a lot of family time. On Monday, we went out together for happy hour. On Wednesday the man and I had an alone night. Thursday, his "primary" joined us at the beach. We spent Friday and most of today altogether with his other OSO.

I love the family aspect of this relationship.

I find that I do want to feel special. In my mind that is equated with just the two of us. He needs all of us though. We enhance his life and we all enhance each others lives. There are kinks to work out, but we are moving forward together.
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Sounds like good news overall.
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