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Old 01-30-2011, 11:10 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by nightwalker View Post
She was unhappy and felt that poly was the solution to keep us together as a family.
That's a major problem. Adding more people to the mix is no way to fix a relationship that isn't working.

This--and not your child--is an actual *reason* to put things on hold. You'll have to settle the issues in your marriage before you can ever hope to have a successful poly tangle.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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Old 01-31-2011, 08:09 AM
nightwalker nightwalker is offline
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Hi Polyaine, welcome to the forum my love and thanks for posting and reading this discussion .

Yes everyone Polyaine and I did get married in December and we are still working on finding a way to make poly work in our relationship. I know a lot of my concerns are my own family of origin stuff but we all have baggage coming into relationships. How parents are emotionally makes a big impression on young children and this is important consideration for anyone planning to become poly. Poly has been a journey for the two of us and although it is painful at times it is also teaching us a lot about each other, about being a family, about being parents and also about life in general. One thing we have learned is that I find change challenging while Polyaine thrives on it and we have also discovered that we have different ideas about what polyamory means to us. I like the idea of it being about community and tribes while Polyaine likes having seperate relationships.

Hopefully we can learn from those who have already traveled this path and add our own experiences to the forum as our relationship evolves.
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