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Old 03-19-2013, 03:07 PM
Naturalite Naturalite is offline
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Hi I have been reading and reading more about Polyamory. But have a question regarding a definition seen on this site.

"Polyamorous relationships are intimate, meaning that there is some depth to the bond and it's more than just a casual fling."

Can anyone speak more to this. How does one know if this is what two are experiencing mutually. When one knows the other person is and has been in open relationships?

Can someone speak more to intimacy and what this covers. I have friends who I share deeply with but know it is not the same as an intimate relationship as is mentioned here.

I recently met someone who I connect with and we share alot of spiritually and they have shared alot. How do I know if I should bring up the meaning of our relationship? Of is it best to just let it takes its course and be with it as is?

Thoughts and feedback appreciated.
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Old 03-19-2013, 03:58 PM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is online now
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Framing intimacy in general? There was a thread not too long ago on that.

As for your person you met? If you want to know how they feel towards you? You could ask them so you can know their answer.


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Old 03-19-2013, 04:02 PM
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I'm not trying to be a wiseguy, but i fail to see how you could NOT bring that up at some point if you have such an intense connection with the other person. Maybe you are just not ready right now, but you'll be ready tomorrow or next week.
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Old 03-19-2013, 05:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Naturalite View Post
"Polyamorous relationships are intimate, meaning that there is some depth to the bond and it's more than just a casual fling."
You are over-thinking it.

How would you know if someone who had *not* been in an open relationship felt something for you? Would you ask them directly? Would you infer it from how they behaved with you? Would you send a note asking them to check which box would be appropriate?

Don't get hung up on the idea that someone is or has been non-monogamous, they experience love and closeness pretty much the same as anyone else.
Me: male, 40, straight, single
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