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Old 06-22-2010, 10:44 PM
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I'm poly because...hold it You almost tricked me
Bored at work my love?
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Old 06-23-2010, 12:19 AM
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Old 06-23-2010, 01:01 AM
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I'm poly because...

... I'm not capable of ethical monogamy and personal happiness simultaneously.

... I tend to be mistrustful of dominant paradigms.

... I want to live my life as myself and without regrets.

... sexual intimacy is one of the most pleasurable ways of growing closer to the important people in my life.

... it dovetails neatly with the cooperative living tangle I've created.

... I enjoy the challenge of it all.

... I'm free to relate to each person in my life in the way that makes the most sense for the two of us.


How lucky we are...
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Old 06-23-2010, 02:40 AM
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Default I am Poly because.........

Well as i stated in my intro (as someone stated I'm 2nd generation poly) I was raised to understand that love is not a limited emotion.but the following is why i do it "my way"
My wife is my everything and she is bi .she deserves to be her self. Once she told me she couldn't see her self loving another let alone a women. well shes on her third long term lovin relationship with a women "told ya so".
hope that sums it up...
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Old 06-23-2010, 04:05 AM
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@Rocsolid- Interesting that you identify as poly when it is your wife that has other lovers.
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Old 06-23-2010, 04:21 AM
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@Rocsolid- Interesting that you identify as poly when it is your wife that has other lovers.
Never mind... Just read your intro.
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Old 06-23-2010, 04:28 PM
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@redpepper sorry i think i wasn`t clear i`m talkin about only my current reasons to cover the entire reasons would take a book the size of War and Peace
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:21 AM
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Now I know the truth: Institutionalized Monogamy, and Capitalism. We nick those, we'll be good to go!
YES!

I don't know if it's possible for me to give a "reason" why I'm poly as it isn't really something I decided to be so much as it's something I could never really deny. The main things that lead to actually living this lifestyle instead of trying to repress it were: 1. A realization that my marriage was never really going to work as long as it was monogamous and I was trying to fit a model that was all wrong for me, and 2. Falling for my boyfriend and fully realizing my ability to be in two romantic relationships simultaneously.
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:07 PM
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@Rocsolid- Interesting that you identify as poly when it is your wife that has other lovers.
As someone who is in the exact same position(only change wife with girlfriend), could you clarify?

And for me, the main reason I identify as poly is out of necessity. My current SO is unable to meet all of my needs(and I would say that no single SO I can have will meet all or even most of my needs). Some of these needs are ones that I view as critical. The only ways to meet these needs are to date other people. So I could either be poly, drastically change my needs, or be unhappy.

Being poly simply seems to be the most efficient way to get more of my needs met while causing as little collateral damage as possible.
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:30 PM
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I`m poly, because sex, or D/s relationships with people I don`t care about/feel something for, (and also having them feel something towards me. ) bores the shit out of me.


Yep,...that`s it in a nutshell.
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