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View Poll Results: What type of poly origin did you have?
I've always had poly tendencies and never really took to monogamy 20 10.99%
I've always had poly tendencies and tried to be monogamous before 64 35.16%
I fell in love with a poly person and have adapted to the lifestyle 23 12.64%
I read or heard about someone else's poly experiences and thought it could work for me 18 9.89%
Other 57 31.32%
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Old 04-24-2013, 05:27 PM
elle elle is offline
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I found it when I was trying to figure out how to be honest with my partner about who I am. I was just googling around and found the Wikipedia definition. Thank goodness!
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Old 04-25-2013, 01:22 AM
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MoonElf MoonElf is offline
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I feel atracted for more than one person at a time since I remember. I was taught by others that "if I love more than one, I love no one", though, and shunned myself for a long time.
I had a lot of guilt feelings about this. When I began my relationship with Peaches we were mono. After a fews years of watching me struggle with atraction for other people, desire to flirt and things like that (I never lied to him and always shared this feelings, even if it was to say I was sorry I felt that way), he showed me a lovely documentary about poly, proposing that we tried non-monogamy so I could pursue my desires and be happy.
Peaches always wanted me happy. Life's a lot better since he did this for me, even in the early years when I did nothing but research and theorize about it.

Things now seem just... right.
Me, female in a V with Peaches, live in boyfriend and CC, boyfriend.
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Old 04-25-2013, 02:48 AM
1of4 1of4 is offline
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I haven't read through all your responses yet, but I feel compelled to answer anyhow. I learned I was poly and learned about poly at the same time, when I "fell for" the man I was supposed to be swinging with. My husband and I briefly experimented with swinging after 20+ years of marriage before we met this couple, both fell for them, and began an exclusive relationship. That was almost two years ago now and we haven't looked back.

I had never really heard of poly before, but I am definitely that. Now that I'm in this quad and love them all, i couldnt change it if I wanted to. And i wouldn't change a thing about how all this has happened to us. But I have to admit that poly found me, not the other way around. I didn't choose it. It chose me. But if I ever find myself in a monogamous relationship again, I think I'd choose to stay that wat! I love our quad, but its a lot of work and sometimes very complicated to be in a poly relationship!
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Old 05-05-2013, 09:28 PM
EdmCouple EdmCouple is offline
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Our first "real" encourage terms with poly was with friends of ours. We have known them for a long time, and always knew she was bi. Originally we thought they only just played with other females but found out in discussion that they were in fact looking for a full time gf for a poly relationship. The other half being bi this last one led to discussions between us about it, as well as research about poly and the lifestyle/community. Low and behold, we found our way here to this amazing community.
While our journey is still pretty young. We have been having a great time so far.
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Old 05-15-2013, 11:33 AM
Rosque Rosque is offline
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Iíve always felt poly I hope that answers it.
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Old 05-15-2013, 03:28 PM
DBannister DBannister is offline
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I only recently discovered the 'concept' of polyamory after learning about a local triad, who have become our mentors.

In retrospect, I'm pretty sure I was always polyamorous because of my potential to fall in love with new people despite being in existing relationships, yet not feeling like the existing relationship was lacking or anywhere near being over. What an emotional strain that was, trying to be monogamous with those feelings!

I tried swinging and FWB but they don't meet my needs. My wife is also poly so we both crave that emotional connection more than just sex.
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Old 05-16-2013, 12:50 AM
Eponine Eponine is offline
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Location: New Mexico
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It's funny that I actually discovered poly from a very mainstream and mono-dominant relationship forum. Before that, I had a vague idea of what open relationship is, but never thought I could do anything other than monogamy.

So about three years ago, my boyfriend (now husband) introduced me to that forum, and over time, we both became interested in the stories of a few poly posters there. At first I still found it difficult to wrap my head around the idea of poly, but one day, I was struck by a post which described an experience of compersion. It was so beautiful and made a lot of sense to me. I started to realize it's possible to love and be loved by multiple people without jealousy. Meanwhile, I discussed poly with my bf from time to time, and we were both more and more open to the idea. We decided to be poly a few months later and haven't regretted it ever since.
Heteroromantic asexual female, sex-positive, childfree, relationship anarchist.
Married to G, and in a partially non-romantic, completely non-sexual and long-distance triad with A and L.

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Old 05-21-2013, 04:24 PM
onoma onoma is offline
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Originally Posted by NovemberRain View Post
watched his roommate crush a can (from bed) across (three feet?) from us, and we both shivered with delight.

Umm... is "crush a can" a euphemism for something? :?
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Old 05-21-2013, 06:28 PM
BoringGuy BoringGuy is offline
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Location: Nowhere
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I discovered the concept of polyamory when my freezer started blowing warm air and i had to take out all the food. There, long forgotten under some frost-bitten-then-liquified Edy's lemon popsicles and a tube of Pillsbury shortbread instant cookie-dough, was a small plastic ziplock-baggie with a little note in it that said "monogamy sucks. Drink V-8. Purchase butt-plugs." and other things. I said to myself, "what does this mean" and suddenly the answer became clear:

Refrigerator broken. Add people.
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Old 05-23-2013, 08:04 PM
LadySFI LadySFI is offline
Join Date: May 2013
Location: United States
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I first learned about polyamory when I was 20. I tried it with my high school sweetheart, my best friend and my current SO. My high school sweetheart wound up marrying my best friend and I wound up marrying my SO. We weren't ready, we were young and did it for all the wrong reasons. I have avoided it for so long for fear of that happening with my SO. 13 years later, I look back and realize I have been doing it all along. There just didn't happen to be sex involved. I don't think I could ever truly just be with one person. The one time I did do that, it was toxic and unhealthy. I have lots of love and caring to go around
LadySFI- me; Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

C-Boyfriend - Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

Courage isn't the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important than fear. -Ambrose Redmoon
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