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Old 02-19-2014, 02:33 AM
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Hindsight is 20/20. Even Bold didn't anticipate how poorly his father would treat me. I underestimated and overestimated a lot of things - I've never immigrated anywhere before and I muddled through it mostly on my own.

I was concerned about the possible outcomes before I left home and I sought advice from friends, family and people in a support group I belong to. I felt I had built something with Bold worth fighting for and I took a chance. A big chance. A huge risk, if you wish, but all life is risk of varying degrees. The support group I mentioned actually started in the USA so I knew I had that to go to. It's not always easy to follow plans when in a stress situation but I don't blame myself for what happened.

If you're going to insist on doing so then please stop. It's not helpful.
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Old 02-19-2014, 03:37 AM
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I've been to NZ - and didn't want to go back home to the states. Lots of times I think I'd rather be there than here in NYC!!
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Ok, let's blame Madonna
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Old 02-19-2014, 12:22 PM
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Nycindie: I've heard that a lot since moving to the US - people either want to visit or have and loved it. I knew a few people back in NZ, a few Americans and someone from the UK, who did move to NZ and said it was a dream come true.

Bold wants to take me to visit NYC sometime, since we're not all the far, but I think I might drown in such a huge, concrete place. Wellington, NZ is tiny by comparison!
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