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Old 09-04-2010, 09:51 PM
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The trouble is that the job description is up for debate.
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Old 09-06-2010, 07:45 AM
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What does actually caring for the health and relationship of my metamours do for me? It normalizes my own relationship. I don't have doubts about "my place" in her life. I don't feel jealous or greedy or have a need to be the center of attention when we are all together. I worry about the positive health of their relationship with my partner rather than the relationship they have with my partner.

It honestly is what I consider to be the magic bullet for the type of poly relationship we have and desire; one where we can all come together as friends and as a tribe and be completely at ease with the fluidity of affection and attention. You don't build a big tribe like that quickly but the one you do build like that has strength and stability
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Old 12-01-2010, 09:08 PM
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Smile Great feeling about becoming a metamour

I am glad that I stumbled upon this thread. I am a mono and my friend is in a poly relationship with a live-in primary. The friend and I have reconnected after a year or so and I was surprised and a bit skeptical about his one-sided definition of his poly relationship (he's was known to me as a serial lover before).

However, after meeting his primary and finding we have many things in common and get along with each other (she directed me to this site), I feel that this may be the beginning of a great V relationship. I still have questions about the whole mono/poly thing, especially time management, but as I haven't really entered into the relationship as of yet (he just asked me today if I was interested), I'm not too concerned or in a rush.

But I feel positive. Thanks again for the wonderful insight.
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Old 12-01-2010, 09:10 PM
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Woohoo!! I can't wait

Metamours that can bake are the best!
This is true!
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Old 12-01-2010, 09:14 PM
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Mono was baking last night...hopefully there's some left to sample when I see him again
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Old 12-01-2010, 09:35 PM
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Mono was baking last night...hopefully there's some left to sample when I see him again
I think I can handle saving some
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Old 12-01-2010, 11:34 PM
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Metamours love vegan lemon cake...just so everyone knows
omg this is true!
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Old 12-03-2010, 09:47 AM
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Woohoo!! I can't wait

Metamours that can bake are the best!
yes, I like that... yet it still doesn't quite fit. A mix of several things perhaps? I don't know if it's necessary to find a fit really... just realizing that it's a unique relationship that grows into whatever it is suppose to be is perhaps enough...
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Old 12-03-2010, 02:24 PM
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yes, I like that... yet it still doesn't quite fit. ..
I meant it literally...Derby bakes the most awesome vegan lemon cake
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Old 12-12-2010, 03:28 PM
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the friendship w/ my metamour has strengthened when she agreed to share her husband with me. we are close, and it feels...strange to me, but good. my own sisters are far, emotionally. thanks for giving me the chance to appreciate her.

we should have a day just for them!
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