Bunch of poly songs...
...over the years:
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To me any love song that isn't explicitly expressing exclusively monogamous sentiments is poly-friendly, so that songs like Katy Perry's "Unconditional" and Demi Lovato's "Give Your Heart A Break" fit under the poly banner. Or maybe I'm just making excuses because I really like those songs.
David Crosby (of Crosby Stills and Nash fame) wrote a song in the 60's when he was with the Byrds, called Triad. He recorded it with the Byrds, but it wasn't released by them until the 1990s. Apparently the other members of the group found it distasteful.
Crosby gave it to Jefferson Airplane and they did an awesome job with it. There's a Heinlein reference in it: water brothers.
You want to know how it will be,
Me and her or you and me.
You both sit there with your long hair flowing
Your eyes alive, your minds are still growing
Saying to me
What can we do now that we
Both love you? I love you too
And I don't really see
Why can't we go on as three?
You are afraid, embarrased too.
No one has ever said such a thing to you.
Your mother's ghost stands at your shoulder
Got a face like ice, just a little bit colder,
Saying to you
You can not do that it, breaks all the rules
You learned in schools.
But I don't really see
Why can't we go on as three?
We love each other, it's plain to see.
There's just one answer comes to me--
Sister lovers, water brothers,
And in time maybe others.
So you see what we can do
Is: we try something new, if you're crazy too.
And I don't really see, why can't we go on as three?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, 37
Listening to Ani DiFranco's double album Reckoning/Revelling (2001) again today, it sounded like the chronicle of a poly/mono relationship that hasn't been entirely ironed out yet (though perhaps that's mere projection?).
The song "whatall is nice" sounds like it's about realizing that one can inadvertently start merging with one's partner even if one has political objections to doing so:
"you were not a dot dot dot / waiting for me to complete you
and it was like I just forgot / to measure everything that I do
we woke up with the notion that enough is not enough without more
and then we pushed with one motion like the ocean heaves a wave at the shore
and you were not a dot dot dot / leaning forward expectantly
and I was not in such a rush / to insure my autonomy"
The song "reckoning" wistfully asks "remember when it was just you and me stepping up to bat?," then goes on to muse about how it stinks to realize you're more possessive than you thought you were:
"we thought we left possession behind / but truth was I was yours and you were mine ...
cuz nothing is as it appears / in the funhouse mirrors of your fears...
just tell me baby, that when you're done / with your marathon / you still got cab fare home
cuz the finish line is a shifty thing / and what is life but reckoning
and, you know / you are still the song I sing / to myself / when I'm alone"
The way that the song "grey" muses (in a way I find very familiar) about how difficult it is to quantify exactly what you want when your life has suddenly and significantly changed:
"what can I say / but I'm wired this way / and you're wired to me
and what can I do / but wallow in you / unintentionally
what kind of paradise am I looking for?
I've got everything I want and still I want more"
The entire song "School Night," which is also on this album, is about giving up a relationship due to prior commitment. This song is the reason that I'd describe the album as chronicling a poly/mono album, rather than a poly one. The "you" who's addressed in most songs is legible as poly; the "I" who's singing is not. I started to type representative line, then realized I was typing the entire song. So here you go: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dih3n_6b8X8
And the song "revelling" seems like an illustration of NRE:
"you were so in love / that it was all you could talk about
and I think I felt a little left out / you were on cloud nine all the time
while I was levelling / I was wringing my hands and you were revelling
but then why shouldn't you? it was such a beautiful thing to do
would that I could get me some / of your yum yum delirium
I could level off the ground that we stand on
but with you down on bended knee / always looking up at me
that feeling of standing up together is gone
and though I love you through all time and space
my love always seems to take second place"
Mid 30s, mono.
Partnered with Xicot (poly-curious) since 2004.
I want your girlfriend to be my girlfriend too...
Just heard this one...
Reel Big Fish
- cute, except for the "killing you" part:
"I Want Your Girlfriend To Be My Girlfriend, Too"
there's a little girl i know you
might know her to, she
looks so good she looks so
cute standin' next to you
and i don't know
to do i want
she's so %#&$!^
cute, i wish that she
she's so %#&$!^ cute,
i'm gonna lose my mind
i don't know what to
do maybe i could kill you
i want your girlfriend to
be my girlfriend ...too.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
IMO, all love songs are poly friendly unless specifically written to exclude poly.
In an evolving V with:
VioletLight, 40, Bi Fem. Hinge.
Katla, 45, (unsure) Fem.
My musical obsessions
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Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"