why "poly women" are bisexual ???

it is very funny

it is very funny

whatever I write here, in this forum, there is always someone that comes to say that I am stupid.

Or, in the opposite, is it "the stupid" (= the person that only understands his/her own brain) that comes to show he/she is the stupid one ?

big philosophy problem.............
 
Maybe it'd help if you don't post such sweeping generalizations. I know that's what I reacted to in your posts. The one was better because it did acknowledge that this is the case in your poly family but you don't know about other poly families.

I still ask curious what you meant by installing harmony. It's a phrase I haven't heard before.
 
what you meant by installing harmony

installing harmony...

whatever the human group, tensions arise.
Normal results of normal differences.

We noticed (our company gives trainings) that "100% male groups" are sometimes very close to heavy disputes.

And "it is just enough to put a woman inside" and all tensions go down,to a level of "mutual a acceptance"

= the woman installed/brought harmony.

Persons = music instruments.
Different instruments may play a nice music. If YES "harmony is installed"
 
IAnd to state that bisexual women are smarter and more creative is insulting to those of us that aren't bisexual.

Very much so.

Then going on to say those who disagree with your thoughts might be stupid and incapable of understanding anything but their own brain... :confused:

(I'm sorry, I confess I only skimmed, but I didn't see anyone call you stupid; I only saw people having some different opinions from yours. Hopefully no one is calling anyone stupid.)
 
it is very funny

whatever I write here, in this forum, there is always someone that comes to say that I am stupid.

Or, in the opposite, is it "the stupid" (= the person that only understands his/her own brain) that comes to show he/she is the stupid one ?

big philosophy problem.............

Funny - I didn't see anyone on this thread write that to you (can you please direct us to to where you saw that?)

And actually, the only possibly disparaging remarks I saw were those that stated that people like me weren't as adaptable (because I'm not a female bisexual). And I think you made those remarks if I'm not mistaken.

Now I've got no problem with you making those remarks (I agree and think women in general are better at many things BUT also worse in other ways then men). They're your opinions. But what's with the victim thing? No one's havin a go at you mate, just a good discussion where each others opinions might be respectfully challenged.

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hellooooooooo friends

it is interesting to notice that almost all women here, real "polys" or "thinking about it" are bisexual.

(I am going to say it shortly, I could write a book, poetry, on this matter...)

In my opinion this relies on a "female universal psychology" :
the woman is much more able to adapt herself to "changes".

Since millions of years she leaves her house, parents, friends, her personal family name, and even her city. This is a strong push to "change/adaptation".

And this "ability to change" relies on what ?
on "generosity"...

on a much complex "emotion/feeling" system than the male one.

This is essentially why I became a teacher :
apart the (normal) pure teacher's pleasure of "building the progresses of the other one",
I discovered that "the woman is a violin",
and I see my role as "playing the most wonderful symphonies she may sing"...

Additionally I discovered that a woman “loves better” the man that has this skill…

So, back to the point, the woman may easier be BISEXUAL, because she may adapt herself faster/better than a man...

Furthermore (no insult, no offense, it is just something I noticed), bisexual women are "more clever" and "more generous", and have a faster brain.

I could continue for hours on this interesting subject.

Tell me your thoughts, please

If it is NOT interesting, say it.
Thanks

You made the statement that most women here, feel free to read your original post, are bisexual but have provided no evidence to support that claim. Then you made a few sweeping generalizations about the superiority of bisexual women, once again without any supporting evidence. Now you are claiming that people who don't agree with your opinion are stupid, or closed minded. That's pretty un-nice of you.

You might stimulate more productive dialogue if you had phrased your question more accurately and, rather than make broad generalizations, present more factual supporting points.

You know for fact that the women in your poly family are bisexual. Good point to make. Who can argue with that?

You have noticed the bisexual women who you are involved with are sharper (or however you care to describe them) than other women you know. Also an acceptable statement without coming across as potentially arrogant. One could assume you make good choices in partners, yay you.

You even went so far as to try to equate "real" polys with bisexuality, ruling out at least most straight women by default.

Just my humble opinion: If you are going to make careless statements, be a bit more willing to weather the, what so far have been, relevant and respectful reactions to your statement without implying, however passive-aggressively, that those people are stupid or small-minded.

Phoenix.
 
it is very funny

whatever I write here, in this forum, there is always someone that comes to say that I am stupid.

Or, in the opposite, is it "the stupid" (= the person that only understands his/her own brain) that comes to show he/she is the stupid one ?

big philosophy problem.............
As you know, I have had reason to look at your personal profile, read your description of yourself, and we have entered into personal correspondence. I would leave it at that, and have no intention of quoting from that private correspondence. But you are saying things openly on this forum that I feel need to be addressed.

Frankly, you come across as incredibly arrogant. YOU are philosophical. YOU have all the answers. YOUR role is "building the progresses of the other one".

WE are all stupid shmucks if we don't appreciate your wonderful lessons on "Life as it SHOULD be lived". Some of your other quotes:
I discovered that "the woman is a violin",
and I see my role as "playing the most wonderful symphonies she may sing"

Well, if I love you (it is YOUR ROLE to install in my heart a deep love for you ... :p)

So, please my darling, don't be afraid to become bisexual, I will help you.
I find those really condescending - and self-adulatory! I realise that English isn't your first language and this might be part of the reason, but I think that you should become aware of just how you come across to other people.

You started off an interesting discussion here, then said "Tell me your thoughts, please"
Then, when people don't see things the way you do, you criticise them, or pretend that you're on some higher level of illumination.

As far as I can see, nobody here has been abusive, aside from you. (I enjoyed redpepper's gentle sarcasm - but it was gentle.) I don't want to be abusive either, but I can't help imagining that poly family of yours...

(screen starts to wobble or mist over)​

a) Judging by your avatar, you're a handsome [attractive], middle-aged man. Judging from your expression, you are well aware of that.
b) From your statements, you're in the teaching profession.
c) You say that all the women in your poly family are bisexual.
d) You say that you prefer bisexual women, that you find them more intelligent, more open, etc. etc.
e) You say to another member here: "So, please my darling, don't be afraid to become bisexual, I will help you."

I put that all in the blender and ask you:
1) Are any of the women in your family [ex-] students of yours?
2) How many men are in your family? Are they also alphas? Or are you the only one?
3) Do you just invite into your family the kind of woman who is likely to be bisexual?
4) Has it ever occured to you that some of these young, impressionable, hero-worshipping women in your family might be practicing bisexuality as a way to "please the teacher"? I mean, if they find you attractive and want your approval, and ALSO know that you think less favourably of women who AREN'T bisexual, don't you think that JUST MAYBE that might influence their behaviour?
5) Aren't "adaptable", "able to change" sometimes pseudonyms for "pliable", "easily moulded"?

I LOVE women: straight women, bi women, lesbians, young women, old women, women my age. But I'd never think to offer to "help" a woman to become bi - or lesbian or straight. I would certainly offer to support her through any shit that she was going through from people [friends and/or family] who rejected her choices... And if I suggested to a woman that she was a violin on which I was going to "play the most wonderful symphonies she may sing"... Well, I hope that she'd either laugh in my face or give me a smack in the gob.
 
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It is a honour to receive such a nice collection of interesting mails

thanks to

MrFarFromRight
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polychronopolous
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BreatheDeeply
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Just to increase the friendship of this forum, I give here some short answers to questions


I put that all in the blender and ask you:
1) Are any of the women in your family [ex-] students of yours?
NO, NOT AT ALL

2) How many men are in your family? Are they also alphas? Or are you the only one?
ALL MEN HAVE THE SAME STYLE, no "guru"


3) Do you just invite into your family the kind of woman who is likely to be bisexual?
WE INVITE ONLY A WOMAN THAT WANTS TO BE/LIVE WITH US



4) Has it ever occured to you that some of these young, impressionable, hero-worshipping women in your family might be practicing bisexuality as a way to "please the teacher"? I mean, if they find you attractive and want your approval, and ALSO know that you think less favourably of women who AREN'T bisexual, don't you think that JUST MAYBE that might influence their behaviour?
WE ALL TRY TO PLEASE TO THE OTHER ONES (it is a "basic rule")


5) Aren't "adaptable", "able to change" sometimes pseudonyms for "pliable", "easily moulded"?
FAST/BAD INTERPRETATIONS ARE FREQUENTLY IMPERFECT AND FALSE
 
It's not just women. I meet a lot of bisexual or heteroflexible men in poly situations as well. Maybe they're quieter on here... but I think the fact that a person can explore and enjoy more facets of their sexuality in poly bring this out regardless of sex. I definitely felt that as a draw myself even though my initial poly relationships were with men (I always liked women, I just was had no practice and was nervous as can be).

Not saying you have to be bi to explore facets. That's just one way.
 
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I recently read an article in Psychology Today regarding the differences between men and women when it comes to bisexuality. One part of the study interviewed women and who defined themselves as gay or straight. Not only were straight women much more likely to have had sexual experiences with the same sex than straight men, but gay women were also much more likely to have had sexual experiences with the opposite sex than gay men.

The second part of the study involved measuring the sexual arousal of straight men and women when shown homosexual porn, and vice versa with gay men and women. (This was done scientifically, not subjectively, by measuring blood flow to certain regions.) Again, straight women were significantly more likely to be aroused by the same sex, as well as gay women by the opposite sex.

The study seemed to indicate that in general, female sexuality tends to be more fluid, while male sexuality more rigid. Often people think this might be because of men's social conditioning, i.e. is less socially acceptable for men to have same sex experiences. However, this would not account for the fact that gay women were much more likely to have opposite sex experiences than gay men.
 
Interesting points. I'm curious, couldn't there also be rigid social conditioning in the gay male community that is similar to the rigid heterosexual male social conditioning?
 
The second part of the study involved measuring the sexual arousal of straight men and women when shown homosexual porn, and vice versa with gay men and women. (This was done scientifically, not subjectively, by measuring blood flow to certain regions.) Again, straight women were significantly more likely to be aroused by the same sex, as well as gay women by the opposite sex.

I think I read about that same study in Sex Before Dawn. It also found that women had increased blood flow and wetness when viewing any sexual act from things they claimed interest in, to no interest in, and even to those they claimed disgusted them. It was suggested to be somewhat of an auto injury prevention attempt in the case of rape. If that is the case then it wouldn't necessarily indicate women are more likely to be bi.
 
Yes, I too have read studies in which they compared physical "arousal" effects (such as in the genitals) to the brain, and noticed that generally, if the person said they were not attracted to something, then it was reflected in their brain in different areas, even when their genitals were "ready" for sex. It could happen to men, as well, they could have an erection without being actually aroused intellectually.

It is also absolutely true that the female body can protect from rape by lubricating, etc when the person is rape, no matter how horrifying it is and how much they're unwilling. It can also happen in clinical contexts, such as at the gynecologist, even if the person has no medical fetish and is absolutely not aroused.
 
I think it may be wise to point out that the 'protection' from rape that is stated is protection from physical damage from rape.

That is not really very clear and might confuse some people who have not read the papers that have been referred to.
 
Yes, of course. Emotional trauma remains the same, and the potential for getting pregnant is actually increased by the increase in lubrication. So it's neither protection from the emotional effects nor from pregnancy, only from some of the physical damage.
 
Yes, of course. Emotional trauma remains the same, and the potential for getting pregnant is actually increased by the increase in lubrication. So it's neither protection from the emotional effects nor from pregnancy, only from some of the physical damage.

Which is rather interesting, from an evolutionary point of view... Nature doesn't care about consent, it cares about making babies. Anything that facilitates making babies provides a species-survival advantage. Also, physical damage from rape reduces chances of making babies: species-survival disadvantage.

Could even take that in the other direction: girl-on-girl action stimulates men and lubricates women? Increases the probability of coitus, and of that coitus leading to reproduction: another evolutionary advantage.

Curious.
 
Could even take that in the other direction: girl-on-girl action stimulates men and lubricates women? Increases the probability of coitus, and of that coitus leading to reproduction: another evolutionary advantage.

Curious.

According to Sex at Dawn, one of the best ways to increase sperm production/sexual desire in males is more akin to what we would colloquially call Hotwife or cuckoldry.
I understand your idea it is very interesting from an evolutionary standpoint but I do think it is interesting that the most profitable way to increase sperm is the most culturally fought against even amongst Poly's. The strength of the OPP probably elevates girl on girl sex as being the most desirable for male observers but actually men get more turned on by MF sex but tend to be disgusted by it wrt their own partners due to cultural sexual jealousy, GonG is seen as less of a threat to the man.

Interesting

Natja
 
Being a bi woman

I am very new to the poly life so I am joining in not based on what I've seen but based on being the bisexual woman. :D I am just going to talk about what brought me to this life. I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember, although I did not come out to anyone (including myself) until after the end of my 1st marriage almost 10 years ago. Part of the reason that marriage ended was due to the fact that I was forced to act only straight. My ex was not interested in me being with anyone else, female or not. I moved on and made sure my next partner (now my husband of almost 7 years) was ok with me being with women. However, even with an open relationship I was not happy. I feel that, for me, I am both attracted to men and women. Therefore, I want and need both in my life simultaneously. However, I still want the stable long term partner, not just a FWB. So keeping in mind that I am bi and need both and the fact that I want the long term relationship with both parties, it is natural to me to want a situation where both of my partners live with me and are involved with everyone involved. (Hope that made sense to you guys.) :)
 
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