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Every decission we make in life, marriage, children, school, career, etc. requires change and compromise. Even when the pluses outway the minuses, we still find that we miss or long for the things we willingly chose to give up or compromise on.
When we get married we give up a lot of the control we once had, we loose privacy, the laundry has doubled and we have to use a bathroom after someone forgot to put the seat back down. I challange anyone to tell me they have never spent some time wondering/wishing they were single again, no matter how much they may love their spouse. Of course, eventually we realize that the sacrafice is worth all the compromises and we find some way to re-gain a balance. |
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Because the picture of your face when you post here isn't a give away as to who you are
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Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules. Monogamy might just be in my genes ![]() Poly Events All Over |
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Your welcome! Glad it made sense.
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They're probably all thinking,
"damn what a cute mono-leprechaun!" hehehehehe!
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In my head that was said with an Irish accent.
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Redpepper, here is how I would feel as the mono in such a situation as you are facing. Note I am NOT trying to say this is how (your) mono thinks and feels; but it is definitely how I would think and feel.
Please bear with my possibly childish analogy; you will see where it is going. Long ago, I meet my wife. She gives me her unique flower. She says: "Look after this flower ; it is unique and special. I am giving it to you because you are special." So I cherish the flower. ![]() Much later, she tells me that she wants to give the flower to someone else too. I am sad at first, because I think that maybe I am no longer good enough for her to hold her flower; but I try and I do see that actually it is beautiful that she wants to share her flower with someone else too. ![]() I see that truly nothing has been lost. But then she tells me that she wants to give her special flower to another, and then another; in fact she tells me that there is possibly no limit to the number of people she might want to give her special flower to. ![]() So I begin to not want her flower. It is NOT because I feel that I am not good enough; it is no longer about me. I am strong in myself and know that I am fine, there is nothing wrong with me. It is just that I can see that her flower is no longer very special at all, because she wants to give it to so many people. It is not worth very much. I will still love her as a friend, but I don't want her flower. ![]()
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i think that is pretty well said. sex can be just sex and little if anything is lost. love is love. if the flower is love and all that is being shared with others is sex, that the flower is still just as special as it was when it was first given to you.
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