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Old 11-07-2010, 10:52 AM
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It was freakin awesome! Lots of our friends were there; PN, Derby and her hubby and his girlfriend and plenty of others So proud of our brave and sexy Pepper
Wonderful! Next question: how did the book for a week thing go?
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Old 11-07-2010, 04:11 PM
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It was freakin awesome! Lots of our friends were there; PN, Derby and her hubby and his girlfriend and plenty of others So proud of our brave and sexy Pepper
Oh my God! That is so totally cool! Go red!
Details, please! Lots and lots of details! So excited for you!
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. . . how did the book for a week thing go?
Yeah! What happened with that?
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Old 11-07-2010, 08:27 PM
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Oh my do I need to catch up! It's coming, I just have a need to be present in the family right now... catching up on other threads is all I am able to manage... but it is coming.

Off to women's group this afternoon...
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Old 11-08-2010, 07:19 PM
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I thought I wrote about the book event, but I see I might not of.

First of all some back ground on how it worked. The entrance way to the university library had comfy chairs and side tables where we could all take our readers to talk. We sat in chairs to one side behind a desk where there was a binder of all our book titles and an intro. People would come by and look at the binder and decide who they wanted to know more about.

Topics ranged from California same sex marriage laws to someones experience moving from Ontario to Florida during a tornado... and someones experience of ageism on campus to another who was experiencing what it was like to be a Chinese person come to school in Western Canada ...very diverse. I was by far the most taken out book it turned out. Exhausting! My friend was there for a time also talking about poly but from the intro kind of angle and she left early so I was it for the afternoon.

It was so much fun and so interesting what people wanted to talk about. I was willing to share about my experiences as a mistress/domme, my journey of discovery of my sexuality and my journey to get to where I am today in my poly relationships... most people were into hearing about the latter although there were definite over laps. I talked a lot about my experiences as a younger woman and how I created my goals for family and how I began making my dreams come true... true to me, no one else and how we can all do whatever our creative minds decide... there is room for all of what we want to do, regardless of what it is...

What I found most interesting were the students from abroad that were interested in and thought poly made sense, but didn't know how to normalize it for themselves. Why students from abroad I have no idea. I talked a lot about jealousy too and how to handle it. There were some people that just plain looked confused and defensive and that brought up odd feelings for me as I felt myself feeling less assured that I am "okay" and noticed I started closing down. Instead of doing so I asked them questions and brought out their relationship style and marketed the concept of we are all different. That seemed to work.

It was fascinating to be taken out by people who didn't know me and who were brave enough to engage in a process like that. When they flipped through the book they had no idea who they were going to get when they looked a the assembly of people sitting there. It was a bizarre feeling... we all wore shirts that made us all look the same... they said, "don't judge a book by it's cover" on them. They were all "man" shirts. Very unflattering... heh seriously though, why can't they make a shirt that is unisex. Could they not of had womens t-shirts made? That was my only complaint
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Old 11-08-2010, 10:00 PM
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That sounds like a totally wonderful experience, lousy t-shirts not-with-standing!

I'm glad you had a good time & hope you helped someone follow their own path .
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T-shirts can always be modified after the fact. There's a book I saw on 100 ways to modify a regular t-shirt.
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Old 11-08-2010, 11:09 PM
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That book event sounds really interesting! I'd love to go to something like that. How did it work, were the people "borrowing you" also people who were available to tell their own stories, or did you sit there and have lots of random people take you out?
Because if I was doing such an event, I'd like to talk about my story, but I'd also love to hear about other people's.
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Old 11-09-2010, 12:55 AM
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That sounds fascinating! I wish I could have been there. I probably would have wanted to check out every single book.

And OF COURSE you were by far the most popular book! Who in their right mind would not want to "check you out"?
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Old 11-09-2010, 06:31 AM
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I gave it to PN. He liked it and I get to read it on him... which works for me better anyway... good thing he and I take a similar size.
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Old 11-09-2010, 07:02 AM
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So I finally got my moment on stage. I must say it is addicting, but I am not off to rush out and do it again...

I went to meet all the women to do our make up and get ready... fun fun fun hanging out with half naked women with lots of hair spray, fake eyelashes, tons of foundation, red lips and a whole lot of sequins and feathers flying of boas for an afternoon.

I find in these situations with women that I quite often get ignored or shuffled to the side... I usually just stay quiet. I am not like other women. I talk loudly, am very direct, don't cluck like a hen and although they find me funny I can either be too crass and blunt or come off as too ... well... British somehow... what ever that means. So I allow myself to just go into my head and am quite happy there.

There was a woman that had no idea what foundation was let alone why she should wear it... she did a number where she striped her welding gear. HOT! But she needed a lot of attention before the show as she was high maintenance needy. All in a good way, she just didn't have a clue... she was awesome with my body rhinestones... we got on well.

There were some directions from the woman that was putting the show on on how to do hair, stage make up... etc. but other than that we were pretty much on our own. I can't believe how long it takes to look the part! All afternoon. when I was done I caught myself in the mirror and saw my grandmother. I freaked a bit as although she was a handsome woman, I looked old... to me anyways.

When we got there I was the first there... all the old regular gay men behind the bar watched with fascination as I came in with a white boa and a hot pink cocktail dress in full make up and curly red ringlet locks... I wondered if they thought I was a drag queen.

The others arrived and we set up camp behind the stage... I am a very organized person and found myself a little spot where I lay everything out and made sure my pasties were ready to go... others did their thing... everything from throwing stuff around and spreading out EVERYWHERE, to just standing there with their one bag.... so interesting to watch women under pressure and nervous.

When the show began I was second in the second set, so I sat with PN, Mono, Derby, her husband and girlfriend, and at least 10 members/friends of the poly community here, including a friend from the women's group I run that identifies as a swinger. There was a co-worker too and another that couldn't get in... because we were SOLD OUT! 170 people packed into this hot, no air bar.

PN, Mono and Derby brought me flowers... I was the only one with flowers. such a lucky lady aren't I?... I tried to down play it with the others as they were more than a little confused that I had three people bringing me flowers. I also got a lovely shaken, dirty, wet, gin martini from Derby after show... again more smiles. I was really interested in myself in that I didn't drink before hand. I love to drink and love a good party of drinking and laughing, but I was completely sober for this. I wanted that for some reason... I think it would of lost meaning if I had had even one drink.

The show was MCed by this crazy lesbian who is crass and hilarious. It really made for a funny night... one after another everyone did their thing... and very well too. I had to follow the woman running the show, who is fantastic and really skilled.. I wasn't entirely happy about that, but I went out behind my red curtain carried by the pick up girls and got myself ready...

All tied up with purple ribbon, I did a little mild BDSM number The crowd was really loud but I barely heard them. I just smiled smiled smiled and went through my well oiled routine with no fear at all. I felt completely confident and enjoyed myself completely... it was a total gift to be able to entertain people I know and everyone else too. I looked out over the sea of faces and saw people smiling back in amusement, respect, joy and for that moment no one was unhappy... I had made them feel happiness and joy and that was my perfect moment. That was all I really wanted for them... the rest was for me.

What I got out of it was a moment of cathartic release from a long journey with sexual boundary issues. The song I did and the tying myself up indicated a statement about removing those bounds that I had been tied into by myself and others and being free again. At the end I bounced my tits and twirled my tassels with all my mite and grinned from ear to ear with the pleasure of knowing that that was where I am at in terms for giving myself to strangers again. Next time I do it, I will give more as I didn't fully get down to the bare bones... but it was just right for the first time.
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