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Old 08-28-2010, 03:43 AM
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ok enough hijaking damnit, I don't need RP nipping at my knees
HAHAHHA!! Careful..she can jump and who knows what she'll nip


Ok, I'm done too..I swear. Now where did I put that stepping stool
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Old 08-28-2010, 12:48 PM
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Eat more fibre & roughage , you'll find the shit much softer & easier to deal with then .
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Old 08-28-2010, 04:10 PM
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Eat more fibre & roughage , you'll find the shit much softer & easier to deal with then .
This is officially the best response to anything I have ever read on this forum in the last year and a half! HAHAHHA!!
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Old 08-28-2010, 05:50 PM
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Okay.... REALLY?! three pages on my thread of joking around! seriously, I am trying to be serious here.....

okay, I know it's cause you love me and feel comfortable enough to bug me in this way...

As I try and tell my son, there is bad teasing that relates to bullying and good teasing that means someone loves and feels comfortable with you... I am trying to teach him the difference.

I feel so loved
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:00 PM
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Okay.... REALLY?! three pages on my thread of joking around! seriously, I am trying to be serious here.....

okay, I know it's cause you love me and feel comfortable enough to bug me in this way...

As I try and tell my son, there is bad teasing that relates to bullying and good teasing that means someone loves and feels comfortable with you... I am trying to teach him the difference.

I feel so loved
I'm glad because that's the way mine was meant .

Mono I'm glad I tickled your funny bone , I just hope you weren't drinking anything when you first read it .
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:14 PM
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I'm glad because that's the way mine was meant .

Mono I'm glad I tickled your funny bone , I just hope you weren't drinking anything when you first read it .
I think there should be a cautionary notice on the forum not to have anything in your mouth when reading posts!
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:22 PM
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:40 PM
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I think there should be a cautionary notice on the forum not to have anything in your mouth when reading posts!
Well, those of us who conciously know we're making the pun could put a spray warning in the individual title box that shows each time we write a post.
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Old 08-30-2010, 07:52 AM
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It's the end of a good weekend.

Had a much needed date with PN on Friday and we managed not to fight or negotiate any boundaries during it.

Mono and I spent time too on Saturday night into sunday morning.

I love spending time with the two of them. They are both so different, yet similar and both so themselves. I love them both dearly.... I belong to them and they to me.

I also had a walk with Derby, which I was glad to fit in as it was a busy weekend for both of us.

We had our monthly poly meet last week and the topic was about what our poly vision/dream/ideal is. I was surprised that of all the diversity, everyone there included that they needed to feel apart of peoples lives and be involved with others in the form of a tribe, family, constellation... what ever you want to call it.

I was surprised because I thought, of all the diversity in our community (trans, queer, military, anarchist, straight, disabled, mental health issues, vanilla, white, brown, black, asian... and beyond), people just wanted to belong to their peeps. Who ever they were... they were either still looking or were working on what they have. I need to belong too. It's such a human need.

I felt very fortunate listening to them and realizing that I am part of not only a wonderful tribe where I feel I belong and am nurtured to the best of my and anyone else's ability, but I belong to a community that I can also support and be supported by.

I am indeed a very lucky woman.

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I found it interesting that everyone at our poly group seemed to have the common goal and basic need to feel like they "belonged." PN and I talked about it afterwards on our date night the night after. We wondered why "belonging" was different than having a "relationship," or creating "relationships" as we expected it to be.

It came up because I felt so wonderfully warmed to my community and as if they are all my loves. I feel as if I belong to my tribe and have a relationship with them as a group but also with my outer community locally and then again on here... I feel I belong, yet it's different.

So, the definitions of both by thefreedictionary.com are as such:

belonging: Acceptance as a natural member or part, secure relationship affinity

relationship: the state of being connected or related, association by blood or marriage; kinship, the mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, people, etc

Is "belonging" simply what comes after a "relationship" is formed? After I feel a kinship and have mutual dealings and feel connected and that I can relate, then I will feel I "belong?" Like I have a secure relationship affinity?

If this is so, then I also want and did want to "belong" somewhere. I wanted to "belong" to my loves, many loves... a whole slew of people who love me, beyond my birth family. I wanted chosen family to "belong" to that would live together or closely.... in that I wanted "relationships" with all of them that were loving, rewarding, respectful, connected and on going.

In thinking about it all, I think I have found it and continue to find it over and over again. Not only have I created the "relationships" I want/need, but I have created the "belonging" I need too. Thanks for being a part of that... all of you.
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Old 08-30-2010, 09:28 AM
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I just wanted to say Thank you for sharing all this with us. I can see/feel the pain & joy in everyone involved. Being new to the poly world, this also helps me to realize -- it's not just me!!!! There is so much to learn but with each relationship -- the dynamics are so different with each part - there doesn't seem to be a "norm" for the poly world other than communication (and all the regular things for any relationship - respect, love, honesty, etc).
Again -- thank you for your transparency - I hope it's helping you as much as it's helping others!
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