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Old 01-15-2012, 07:44 PM
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I'm sorry RP. You deserved better treatment than that.
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Old 01-15-2012, 08:37 PM
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I'm so sorry Redpepper. That really, really sucks. It almost seems like he was just looking for an excuse. That just seems really flimsy and I'm sorry that you had to go through that after everything else that you've gone through with Leo.
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Old 01-15-2012, 09:56 PM
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What a wanker.
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Old 01-16-2012, 01:47 AM
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that's horrible. It sounds like you acted ethically in regards to this coffee date and his reaction seems disproportionate. I'm sorry that he and his wife aren't being considerate of your feelings in this.
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Old 01-16-2012, 04:07 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear this. That sounds rather unreasonable.
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Old 01-16-2012, 04:30 AM
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Well, he has read all of this here too apparently. It seems I am not as "private" as I thought I was. I have painted a rather bad picture of myself in this entire relationship on here if it comes from the perspective of the people involved and I totally understand why he would be done with me. It seems my suspicions about his wife hating me have been correct all along too.

I doubt I will ever come out clean in this one and I am not going to try. Once someone has gone down that path of hating someone its usually a done deal.

Thanks for the support and votes of confidence though.
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Old 01-16-2012, 04:55 AM
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Hug LB and do something that makes you feel good about yourself.

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Old 01-16-2012, 05:03 AM
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I appreciate all the comments but if people could write in private I would appreciate it. I am not talking about this any further here. thank you for understanding.

BrigidsDaughter you will have mail in a sec.
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Old 01-19-2012, 02:09 AM
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Be ahead of all parting, as if it had already happened,
like winter, which even now is passing.
For beneath the winter is a winter so endless
that to survive it at all is a triumph of the heart.

Climb praising as you return to connection.
Here among the disappearing, in the realm of the transient,
be a ringing glass that shatters as it rings.

Be. And know as well the need to not be:
let that ground of all that changes
bring you to completion now.
~ Rilke


My friend sent this to me today and it seems to fit right now.
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Its taken a few days but things have settled somewhat in the break up I am going through. I have lots to say and lots to process, but I will leave that for now and wait. I don't see how talking anymore will change anything or make the out come different. I guess I could pass on what I think on all this, but really? What would be gained. When its done its done. I have learned all there is to learn and seen all I need to see.

Anything I say will be used against me so I am left feeling like there is no where to talk about this stuff now, no safe place. If anyone knows of an option, please let me know via PM.
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Old 01-19-2012, 02:33 AM
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It's your blog, RP. How can anything be used against you when you are the level-headed one who did nothing wrong? Fuck them. Stand strong and let it all out if you need to.
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