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Old 08-05-2010, 08:55 PM
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well she replied and is NOT happy, went as far as being rude and critiqued our marriage while trying to compare it to hers. She had atleast hoped to be friends with him but we both decided due to her lying life that it was not a good idea.
Just rolled our eyes and hit the fabulous DELETE button...and then had to delete a text. hoping this is the end and he has no more texts or emails arrgg
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Old 08-05-2010, 09:08 PM
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Well not surprising really. You made the veil come down by telling her how you feel. People who are faced with the truth about themselves are generally not happy about it. They are used to people disappearing and not saying a word. You gave her a gift by what you did and said, she just hasn't seen it yet. The gift is reminding her of her own conscience. You should feel very proud about that and not for one moment feel anything more than pity for her. She can do with the info what she will but I have known for myself that these things seep in somewhere unexpected and do cause change. Hopefully she will thank you for it when she realizes the gift of reminding her of another path that is more virtuous and respectful.
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Old 08-05-2010, 09:24 PM
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well then she texted again...a 3 parter yes lots of words and say "for your information we did marriage counselling for 2 yrs and he wouldn't contribute" blah blah blah that she chooses to stay and live a secret life for the happiness of her kids...does she really think they won't find out at some point that the marriage they watched their parents had was loveless and full of lies. She said that cuz they tried counselling and it didn't help that she doesn't feel guilty at all for her actions. We just keep deleting them but I think something may be started here and just hope she stops when she realizes he isn't going to answer him, although I must say her email I was very tempted to copy/paste and then reply from my own private email my thoughts but I want this over and not ongoing so i am biting my tongue so to speak...well actually just venting here I guess haha
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Old 08-05-2010, 10:17 PM
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Wow, that is really sad. Real sexy too, I bet your husband really wants her now *sarcastic wink*
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Old 08-05-2010, 10:24 PM
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Wow, that is really sad. Real sexy too, I bet your husband really wants her now *sarcastic wink*
hey some people love the smell of desperation. Its the sign of the beginning of a beautifully dependent relationship
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Old 08-05-2010, 10:31 PM
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She has a lot of nerve to lecture you about your marriage and she's not even your husband's girlfriend! She's some lady he was flirty-chatting with online that he met for coffee ONCE. If this is how she is NOW, can you imagine having her in your life if only vicariously? What a good thing she doesn't know your last name or where you live! But I'd watch out because you can track people down through their cell phone number. There are websites that do it for a small fee. If she's as screwy as she sounds I wouldn't put it past her to resort to "self-help". You know what they say about women scorned (I think it applies to men sometimes too).

It sounds like she'd be a better match for a man who is also cheating on his wife, not for a man who is trying to establish a "polyamorous" lifestyle.
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Old 08-05-2010, 10:49 PM
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LOL Ariakas & red pepper ya he feels alot of relief that this is over...well on our end...so far no more texts

Ygirl I actually put his number in a 411 website reverse look up and it gives nothing phew...last thing i want is this woman who feels scorned by a man who stands by his beliefs showing up at my door

I especially LOVED her comment after her full on rant and lecture that she ended it with "should you change your mind, you know where to find me" LMAO ya ya sure

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Old 08-06-2010, 12:35 AM
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Ygirl I actually put his number in a 411 website reverse look up and it gives nothing phew...last thing i want is this woman who feels scorned by a man who stands by his beliefs showing up at my door
Did you pay money? A lot of those places have "advanced" searches where the more money you spend, the more information you will get. If you only used one service and didn't even feed it any money, I wouldn't be so quick to say "phew". It all depends how crazy she is. You don't have to be THAT crazy to part with $10, $15, or even $30. For around $100 you can even have a LIR (Licensed Investigator Report) done, which will give the person's home address and phone number, among other things. All they would have to do is say they needed this in order to file a case in small-claims court. It doesn't have to be true. I know this because I had to take someone to small-claims court and all I had was his cell phone number. The LIR service didn't ask me for any evidence or proof that I needed this information for what I said I needed it for. He thought he was being so clever, cashing my check at one of those third-party check-cashing places s I wouldn't be able to trace him through his bank account. Anyway, when I looked it up for free, it did the same thing - it's a cell-phone number, and they typically don't get published unless the owner makes a point to do so. Sign up for a "basic" search for $10 or $15 and you get a name or a list of people with similar names. Spring for an "advanced" search ($50-$75) and you get addresses associated with the names. Spend a little more and you get the exact person's name and a lot of other goodies. Unless, you have one of those pay-as-you-go cell phones, with the pre-paid phone cards. Those are usually a lot harder to trace. If you have one like that you are probably ok, but if you have a service plan in your real name(s), there is a way you could be tracked down. I hope it doesn't come to that. Maybe she'll find a cheating husband to cheat with instead.
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Old 08-06-2010, 01:10 AM
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no its a free site that i know most people use...I know other sites I can check but when we both got our phones we had it so it comes up private name but does give our number. I did tell him that next time he finds any potential partner (not married & lying) that we should use our old pay & talk phones we have which we haven't de activated as we had money on them still and our son is approaching the teen years so we are thinking he would use one of ours so we can keep track of him. But for now we have learned we need a few more safe guards in place and that we won't put ourselves in that situation again
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Old 08-06-2010, 01:44 AM
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Oh geez she sounds like a loon.
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