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Old 08-12-2010, 11:56 PM
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Ok, so I was offered a job working with S today. I want that job bad. It'll be a HUGE opportunity for me, even if it's less hours and less pay per hour.


Still trying to wrap my mind around what to do with D and how to handle that situation. L and S are not really "into" each other anymore. They get along, but not in any kind of "romantic" way. I really think that they put up with each other just because of D and I. L puts up with S so that she can hang out and talk with D....and S puts up with L, so that he can hang out with me. I so wish they got along better. I'm developing these feelings, and have no way to express them even if I knew that they were reciprocative. (Which at this point, I have no idea of yet)

AAARRRGGGHHHH! Damn my mind....It plays tricks on me! And I really think that God is laughing at me.
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Old 08-14-2010, 12:31 AM
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That makes it alot tougher. Perhaps its for the best. Let the wife find her own partner. If there is no connection between them, you cant force it. Didn't you say that you were all doing the swing thing before. Maybe the spouses have sexual attraction and nothing more. I think you need to speak with D and tell her your feelings. Then you will know if you should proceed or not. I agree with your wife, slow down and let it develop. Best of luck!
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Old 08-14-2010, 12:41 AM
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I have nothing to say today really...But wow....Went to Busch Gardens with L and D.....Took in one of the shows there. I sat between the two of them. Wow...What a feeling. I put my arms around both of them. D said nothing, but did look at me a little different the rest of the day. I kept getting the fleeting glance, and the occasional wink form her. I was on cloud 7...possibly 8. Not quite cloud nine yet....but pretty far up there. Anyway...enough for today.
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Old 08-15-2010, 09:31 PM
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OH

MY

GOD!!!!!!!!!


We went to S&D's place for the weekend........and had possibly the BEST weekend we've EVER had! EVER!

Here's how it all went down:

We set up a dinner date with them. The problem....D is on the south beach diet....This made it difficult to make just any dinner. My wife L did SO much research to make a dinner that complied with D's diet, yet was SO yummy and tasty! It was the BEST dinner!

We showed up to S & D's house around 5 pm. After ariving, L took the food which she pre-preped at our house, and started baking it. We both acted as the chef, and the waiter. She the chef, I was the waiter. LOL We served S & D anything and everything they requested.

When it came time for dinner, we lit a candle on the dinner table, and served the food up. We all sat and ate our south beach diet dinner, while talking about life in general, but at a nice dimmly lit table. The stereo was on low with some nice calming music playing.

At this point, there had been no talk of sex or relationships. It had all simply been day to day talk about our lives....oh, and a LOT of talk about how good dinner was! LOL


Then, after dinner, S suddenly says "Lets go to the store!" We're all like "HUH? what the HELL?" But we all agree to go to the store. Afterall, L and I did not have any expectations other than a nice dinner and conversation with our best friends/lovers.

We go to Target, and meander around the isles aimlessly. S and I walk off to go look at "guy things", like automotive and camping equipment, while D and L go look at dresses and purses. LOL Then, we get to the "family planning" section of the store, where we all start checking out the different condoms and lubricants. S and I are (typically) childish about it all, but he seems to just "have to have" one tin of condoms. He finds them interesting, and a nice "conversation piece". LOL D also wanted some chocolate. So, when we get to the register, we have condoms, and chocolates. LOL Oddly enough, S & D KNEW the cashier! LOL


Anyway, L and I had not picked up on the fact that S had just bought condoms. We were having so much fun just spending time with them, we were on cloud 7 and completely overlooked it! (not quite cloud 9 yet, but close!) We were still just expecting to go back tot ehir place and go to sleep.


So, we go back to their place, and a little drinking ensues. Only a beer for me and L, and only one mixed drink each for S & D. Then, I ask if I can go use their bathroom to brush my teeth. (I have a full mouth of teeth still! LOL) While in there, D comes in and we have eye contact and a LOT of sexual tension, but no action. Then, L and S come back to the master bedroom with us, where L starts looking at their daughters artwork, which is posted on the walls. S comes up behind her and starts feeling her up, D and I look at each other and the rest is, as they say, history. This all ended up in a 4 hr fun fest last night, and about 3 hrs this morning. (Don't want to get TOO graphic )

And on that note, I found D consistently looking at me, and winking at me, blowing kisses to me, etc, etc, etc. the whole time we spent with them. Gosh....I'm in love all over again. And the best part...I love my wife even MORE now, than I did before. I had no idea this was possible, but there you have it.

I still need to talk to D about following up on a relationship or not with her. Maybe next week.

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Old 08-17-2010, 03:39 AM
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That is awesome, TL. So glad to hear that you had an adventurous weekend.
I think, if I were in that situation, I would hold off for a little bit(tough for me too!) about the relationship thing. Or maybe start talking about what an amazing weekend you had and SLOWLY bring the relationship question in. Perhaps ask her if she would like to continue with what you have or add to it. Just shootin ideas out there for you. Good luck with your endeavor.
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Old 08-17-2010, 09:34 AM
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Yes, well.....Yesterday was an ok day, with lots of talking with L. No communication with D, and daily talk with S. Today, more of the same I'm sure.
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Old 08-17-2010, 01:56 PM
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Don't be disappointed. You can't always ride the high Let it be special. It's only been a couple of days. Even devoted couples can go weeks without making you, the other couple, a priority. If you become disappointed now, you'll project the wrong message to your spouse, to your partners, and even to yourself. I know the time together is exciting, but everyone needs equilibrium and time to process what it means and what they want.

I'm so glad you had a wonderful weekend. That really IS special
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Old 08-17-2010, 09:00 PM
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This is L TL4everu2's wife ... Yes it was a GREAT special weekend.
And i agree with Jade ride the high for awhile. If we rush into this part of the relationship with S & D we may loss them.
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Old 08-17-2010, 10:14 PM
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Allow me to CLARIFY.......I am not upset that I had little "quality communication with S&D.

I'm such a POOR communicator. I have an inane ability to completely f- up EVERYTHING that I say. Everything I say is misconstrued and misunderstood. Even when I try to be completely clear, I apparently am not. I am almost at a point with my wife, where I simply don't want to talk, for fear that what I say gets mis-understood. I just can't seem to say anything "right". I say "up", it apparently means "down" for some odd reason. I just can't keep this crap up on a daily basis day in and day out.
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Old 08-17-2010, 11:21 PM
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Talk me into keeping on with a relationship with D.

Anyone....Try to do it.


Since starting this relationship up again (on again) my wife and I have fought CONSTANTLY. Yes, I have developed feelings for D, but at what cost? My marriage? Screw it. To me, it isn't worth all the heartache. As much as I care for D, I'm not even sure that I want to KNOW her...let alone have a relationship with her. It seems to be the only solution to the fighting with L. ........... Anyone want to try to talk me into keeping it going?
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