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Old 08-25-2010, 02:27 PM
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In case my previous post sounded arrogant and boastful,
Sounds more like blessed to me.

Yesterday I told my wife I feel like we are nothing more than fuck buddies. She was sincerely, and maybe justifiably, offended by this. I'm just trying to find a way to understand our relationship better so it hurts less when she tells me shes got a date with this *insert explitive* .

I'm still crying myself to sleep most nights. She keeps dropping not so suttle hints about how we got into the day-to-day of life and neglected our romance. How the hell am I supposed to rekindle anything? We are certainly being more affectionate, but the only way I can come close to enjoying it is by completely shutting my mind off.

I do feel bad for her, she fell for a real creep, but, he was pretty up-front with her from the get-go. I'm not placing blame, they're both stupid about the whole thing. I'm just trying my best to enjoy the time I do get with her, accept her as a friend so I can talk about her 'not-so-love-life'.

I just feel like I'm grieving the loss of my marriage, and it really sucks.
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:59 PM
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Yesterday I told my wife I feel like we are nothing more than fuck buddies. She was sincerely, and maybe justifiably, offended by this.
Maybe because she has been treating you like a roommate with benefits instead of like a wife.
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Old 08-25-2010, 08:36 PM
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Maybe because she has been treating you like a roommate with benefits instead of like a wife.
Well, ya, there is that.


So they have a concert/date tonight. Carpooling from strip bar. I know it's stupid, but it just adds insult to injury. A-I'm too embarassed to go back there (and the girls are HOT) B-seriously, like the dick's not enough for the night, shes gotta go spend our money on women?!?

This isn't getting any easier. I keep trying to fake that it is, but it's not. When will I stop caring?
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Old 08-25-2010, 09:50 PM
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This isn't getting any easier. I keep trying to fake that it is, but it's not. When will I stop caring?
You won't stop caring while you still love her...
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Old 08-25-2010, 11:04 PM
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RGH the one thing I was looking fwd to all day, working out some frustrations, and she forgets to leave me gym key. Priorities? Too excited for her night?!?god im pissed
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Old 08-26-2010, 01:13 AM
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Motherfucker!

May I ask how old you all are? She just seems to be so self centered and acting in such an immature, short-sighted manner.
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Old 08-26-2010, 02:14 AM
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36, shes 30
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Old 08-26-2010, 02:57 AM
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Ah, Saturn return perhaps... that is exactly the age I had my crap with my ex wife... she was in her mid 20's and PN was 21! Shit that was a long time ago....
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Old 08-26-2010, 03:53 PM
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ARGH, well I just suck. She had a good time last night. I brought home food, I went out to drink while she was out, I stilll cant be at home. We ate, went to bed. The nasty thoughts started in my head, and I moved to the couch. First thing this morn, I was on the attack, and it just sucks. I'm just spewing as little venom as I can, how can I love someone this much, and continue to allow myself to hurt. We're all going to Lawn Fete tmr, us, and him/his wife...ugh. Saturday he has a Stag, Im confident he'll call my wife after he's all stagy. SO, now I feel like my whole weekend is screwed. And with all the other stuff, sick mom, job troubles, I know Im being a raving, unkind bitch.
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Old 08-26-2010, 04:57 PM
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Well, after lots of talking today, I think shes reached her breaking point and is giving up on us. Been a long time since I've been dumped.
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