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Old 08-30-2015, 01:44 AM
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So I'm married to M., who's 25, and with whom i have two small children, and also living with R., who's 21, African-American.

I wrote about my situation extensively here, but the thread got closed. Apparently I'm too perverse for this forum!

As I discussed back in May, I gave myself until the end of July to figure out what to do with R.: whether to proceed and have a child with her, or cut her loose.

Our arrangement has progressed very well. It has been rough on R. for an unexpected reason: M. (who is highly educated) has been helping R. by showing her what books to read, how to behave and dress in a manner that's more socially conservative, etc. How to fit in with a more educated crowd. What's happened is, R. has started feeling awkward around her own family, who are less well-educated. Very "Pygmalion" kind of situation.

Anyway, aside from this issue, R. is happy, M. is happy, the kids are happy, and everyone has adjusted to this new situation.

Also--and very interesting--my social set is aware that I am living with both women. There is a minority (exclusively women) who violently disapprove. They have gone so far as to cut off contact. But the vast majority of my social circle (+90%) has not had this reaction, and indeed, has accepted my living situation.

I present M. as "my wife" and R. as "my fiancée" or "my other wife". R. and I got white-gold wedding rings in July. I wear both the white-gold band and the yellow-gold (from my marriage to M.).

I think people are more sophisticated and accepting of peculiar or non-traditional household relationships. My social circle, however, is fairly educated and urbane. Perhaps it is the exception.

Anyway, we spent three weeks all together in a summer rental place; lovely. Everything went very well.

M. has told me she does not want any more children. I told her that I wanted more, and we left it at that. Though we haven't formally discussed it, she seems to be giving me tacit permission to make a child with R.

I'm concerned with the markets now. September promises to be a monster. So I'm thinking that I'll make it clear to R. that I want to continue our relationship in the direction that she wants (she wants to have my child). Assuming all goes well at work, we'll make the full-on effort in November.

That's the plan at this point. But all in all, after rereading what I wrote in previous posts, I have to say, things could not be better.

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Old 08-30-2015, 10:35 AM
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Wow, lol, how did I miss that first (closed for being inappropriate) thread of yours?

I have seen plenty of breeder fetishists and cucks and bulls on Fetlife. Why don't you head on over there and not bother our poor moderators with another fetish thread? It's kind of rude.
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Old 08-30-2015, 11:00 AM
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I wrote about my situation extensively here, but the thread got closed. Apparently I'm too perverse for this forum!

Your previous thread was closed for being off topic, not for being "too perverse." The mod explained the reasons for closing your thread and also included this request:
"I ask that no one continue this discussion by starting another thread."
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Old 08-30-2015, 01:21 PM
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Highlivin229, it was agreed among the Moderators to leave your other thread closed because it was off-topic from what this forum is about, being that the main core of your situation is your breeder fetish, rather than polyamory. I had asked that no one start another thread to continue your discussion, which now you have done. I think you should've contacted the Moderators first before starting another thread.

I am moving this thread to the Blog forum so you can use it as a journal, and ask that you focus on the polyamory aspect of your situation, rather than your fetish for impregnating multiple women, if you continue to post here. If it seems you are here solely to make incendiary posts to bait people for a reaction, it will be considered trolling and garner infractions for you. If this or any other thread you might create here devolves into heated arguments and attacks on you or other members, it will be closed.

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Old 08-30-2015, 04:26 PM
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Hi highlivin229,
It sounds like things are going well for you and yours.
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Old 08-30-2015, 06:48 PM
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Have you clarified with M that she simply does not want to carry more children but is open to more in the house? If I were in her shoes, I would be furious if I told my partner that I didn't want to raise more children and purposefully brought more into my household where I would be a part of raising them.
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Old 08-30-2015, 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I agree, you should clarify that with M.
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Old 11-05-2015, 01:51 AM
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Things are on track.

The kids are fine, M. is happy, R. is happy, I'm happy.

Social life is interesting. My friends are aware that I live with both M. and R. A couple of people were not accepting of the situation, but the vast majority think it's fine. The ones who were least accepting were women whose marriages/relationships were fragile or on the rocks.

I'm moving ahead with my plans for R. We've been together long enough, and she's thirsty for kids.

M. has become more keen on severe BDSM. She is also enjoying watching me and R. while bound. (R. is extremely jealous. She does not ever want to watch me with M. In fact she pretends that me and M. never do it, though of course we do.)

Outside of the bedroom, on a day-to-day basis, M. and R. act like a pair of sisters, M. definitely the older, more mature one who is deferred to. R. clearly hungers for M.'s approval and respect. M. has a habit of subtly withholding it, keeping R. chasing after it, but not so much that R. becomes frustrated.

M. has made peace with my need for more kids, which paradoxically has made her more open to having more. I'm not pushing it, but I sense that, in a couple of months or so, M. will be ready for another, which makes me happy.

We've reached a point of equilibrium and stability. Things are good.
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Glad to hear things are going well.
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R. is nine weeks pregnant. M. is now actively trying to get pregnant; she's actually a little pissed off that R. is expecting.

Other than that, things are on track.
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