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Old 07-11-2014, 07:43 PM
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Hi everyone

Little update before I ask my question:

M and I are still trying to find how to make friendship/roommates work.
I'm still very unsure on it but I think it will be workable one way or the other. (He wants the don't ask don't tell) ok fine by me.

My other "friend" are completely over. Leaving it at friends but I know that means "hey catch you in the future"

So anyway. All my friends are mono. I am not a dater. I'm more of a friends first kinda gal. How do you all meet people?
I'm not super social. I would rather meet people who are poly then to hid or find out later that they are mono and thinks go south.

I guess it's more what do you say to people? Tips on meeting people? And how to just find friends that are poly.

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Old 07-11-2014, 07:51 PM
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The best luck in our area is to meet up with the local community. They have a group on Facebook, Meetup, and Yahoo and are starting their own nonprofit. I know not all areas have such a strong community presence, but a Google search might help you out.

If there is nothing in your area, there are poly conferences at different places around the country at different times where you could at least spend a weekend around like-minded people and maybe run into someone relatively close to you.
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Old 07-12-2014, 01:26 AM
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If you do a tag search for "meeting people," you'll find a ton of threads on this topic.
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Old 07-12-2014, 04:06 AM
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If you do a tag search for "meeting people," you'll find a ton of threads on this topic.
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Old 07-12-2014, 12:51 PM
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I struggle with a small poly pool too (lots of people on this forum do, I'm sure.) There's a huge GLBT community in my area, but I've only come across a handful of people practicing polyamory. However, there is a large swingers' community here. Surprisingly (to me) I've found more acceptance and like-minded people among the swingers than the GLBTs.
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Old 07-13-2014, 02:15 AM
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Hi Belladonna,

Definitely search for local poly groups in your area. If nothing else google "California polyamory" or "polyamory" with the name of your nearest major city.

One of the following links might help:
If you are anywhere near the Bay Area you should be in luck because it has a strong poly presence (at least that's what I hear).

Other possibilities to consider:

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"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations
Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

Monogamous people certainly have it easier as far as meeting people is concerned, but even if it takes extra effort, you may find that it's worth it.

Good luck and let us know how things turn out, okay?
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Old 07-18-2014, 06:16 AM
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So I went on okcupid. That was interesting and lasted a whole 48 hours. I have disabled it and will probably put it back up later.

Reasons why I took it down. Well I was inidated with single men looking to hook up. Not that it's not flattering just wasn't what I was looking for. I did put right on the front "looking for a friend"

But and pretty big but I met a couple out of it. They live about 2 hours from me and me and her have been talking none stop since.
So matter what I think I will have a good friend out of this.

I am also learning that becoming part of a triad with a married couple might be what I am looking for. Who knew!

I do know I'm really loving this new life living poly.
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Old 07-18-2014, 01:44 PM
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Yeah, OKC was always just a little too much for me. I was able to make some friends and get people networked to my local community, but there were too many people just hunting and hunting for partners and that isn't how I search.

Then a few people got really nasty to me about me being poly and I decided it was more trouble than it was worth.

That's awesome that you were able to find a couple to talk to though. Hopefully something wonderful comes out of that.
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Old 07-20-2014, 03:27 AM
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Another place to look for groups in your area is here:

http://www.polygroups.com/

I met my current partner at our local group, but ultimately he found me on OKC and that's how we really got to know each other.

Good luck!
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Old 08-14-2014, 05:26 PM
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Default I was wondering the same thing actually

Since I've never dated I have no idea how to meet people. I'm not sure how to go about it at all, so I'm glad you asked, the answers people put here are helpful!

Hope you don't mind that I posted.
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