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[River]

Naked, Nekkid, Naiked...

"The joyous task which confronts an ethic of spontaneity, however difficult it may be, is quite literally to woo people out of their armed shells."

-Alan Watts

An infant is naturally spontaneous and authentic. Who has ever seen an armored and mask-wearing baby? Yet, inevitably, the infant becomes a child and the child an adolescent and then an adult--unless death comes too soon. And a person becomes layered, complex, shielded against both real and imaginary threats or losses.

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People in our culture often think that sex is oriented only toward pleasure, toward "getting off". But I think something deeper also is at play in sex, the desire to get naiked. This desire can carry us along a transformational journey which is very much an authentic spiritual path -- regardless of religious affiliation. (Skeptics and atheists are probably closer to the naiked world than most conventionally religious folks.)

Naiked is a word I just coined, from a metaphor: naked. Naked is being in one's birthday suit, or sans clothing. Nekkid, I hear from Southerners, means "turned on and naked" ... Or is it just "turned on"? ... But metaphorical nakedness (which I now call "naiked") is being like a baby again, only as an adult, or perhaps an adolescent. Sexual intimacy, like all intimacy, is potentially a powerful practice we may engage to reclaim our naikedness--which is too painful a loss not to wish to reclaim once one knows one has lost access to it.


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This will be continued, of course!

Some of my inspiration for this inquiry comes from this.: http://shannonfarm.org/dojo/Ethicseros.html

[River]

Derek (the long lost love) and I will be attending a queer men's "shaman's gathering" (a gathering of freaky shamans, healers and the like) near the middle of next month, here in New Mexico. He's coming from the East coast. We're driving about four hours together to get there. We'll be camping together, etc....

This is, of course, an astonishing development. Simply astonishing. And I'm nervous! We'll be spending a LOT of time together, after not seeing one another (or even talking) in so very many years.

We're going as friends. Friends who have been intimate, long ago. We'll be friends. We'll probably cuddle. We may kiss. Who knows.

My shoulders feel tight. I'm nervous.

My plane has landed. In a new and strange world. Grounded again. Earthy.

[BornEmpathinVirgo]

I trust that it will be everything you have anticipated!! Enjoy yourself!

[River]

Gosh, I hope it is much better than anything I've anticipated! (eek!)

[nycindie]

Originally Posted by River

Derek (the long lost love) and I will be attending a queer men's "shaman's gathering" (a gathering of freaky shamans, healers and the like) . . .

I love this. My guess is you're one of the freaky shamans!

[River]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8m62J3Q8Ng0

[River]

Rinkle Free Darlings

Soon I shall be on Faerie Land again. I have not stepped foot on Faerie Land since I was somewhat less youthful, somewhat less middle aged. So it's perfect that the latest issue of RFD, a Faerie magazine, is called Rinkle Free Darlings, and features this delightful lad on its cover.
http://www.rfdmag.org/cover-detail.p...20.jpg&iss=146

I'm going with this guy I met on Faerie Land, and we were so much younger sixteen/seventeen years ago. We have grey in our hair/beards..., some Rinkles.... And as I gazed at the Cover Boy ... well let me just say that I still have some of my youthful beauty left and I intend to make the most of it while it lasts. And let me add that I'd not like to be twenty-something again, and that I'm glad I survived it! Still, I could feel my heart sink looking at Cover Boy. He's so cute! We were all so cute back then, before all of the hard knocks and the "learning experiences" which we managed somehow to survive, and which made our eyes glow. Didn't our eyes begin to glow? Aren't we on fire? Don't we have our Second Childhood? Are we not awake? Aren't the stars and the crickets and the meals and the conversations...? Aren't they! Now that the clock is ticking so loudly along with the calendar pages..., which fall away amidst the stars and the crickets and....

[BornEmpathinVirgo]

[River]

BEV,

Sorry..., I didn't explain "Faerie Land". Faerie Land is Radical Faerie sanctuary land. Google "Radical Faeries" for info on them (us?!).

In my own case, I'm not exactly "fae" (effeminite, likes to wear women's clothing and act all girly), but neither were lots of the Faeries I met at the Oregon sanctuary, years ago.

I did put on a dress on Faerie land, as a sort of wild, playful act -- which had the side effect of helping me clear out some internalized projections from the het culture.

There is a lot to like about the Radical Faeries, although they are definitely very weird! I enjoy a little exotic weirdness now and then, and it's pretty nice to see a bunch of naked guys outdoors. (Not that everyone is naked, just some!)

[SNeacail]

Originally Posted by River

it's pretty nice to see a bunch of naked guys outdoors.

Spectator Sport!
Opps! Said that outloud