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Old 02-03-2013, 02:55 PM
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Default Friday Jan 11th: Changing plans

Friday Jan 11th

I am a planner at heart, Airyn is more spontaneous. This difference has caused some stress between us before. These days we are generally more understanding of each other planning style. His spontaneous ways have come in handy when my plans have fallen through, so it works more often then not.

Friday: Chipmunk had an early morning meeting at her store. Airyn walks her to work, and walks home. It's cool, so the walk is brisk, and has him very much awake despite being short on sleep. I pick Chipmunk up from her meeting when I get off from work. I get Wolf up and ready for school then drop her off. Chipmunk heads to the living room for some napping. Airyn joins me in bedroom, and tells me that he told Chipmunk she could come into the bedroom later when she needed to get ready for work if she needed anything. He and I had plans to get up and watch a movie together. He said something like since we'll be watching a movie and not "doing" anything he thought it would be ok. Then asks me if its ok. I nodded saying sure, thinking that it was too late for me to disagree. Besides I don't want to start our day off with an argument.

Airyn is still very much awake and goes back to watching his TV show. I snuggle up behind him and fall sleep after a while. He's up for a couple hours. Airyn ends up getting just a couple hours nap before I start waking him up. We get up and I get on the computer while Airyn heads into the other room to make his morning coffee. Today I have chosen to avoid seeing easily avoidable intimate moments between Airyn and Chipmunk. Most times on mornings that Chipmunk moves to the couch Airyn will get up to make his coffee, and will lie down on the couch cuddling Chipmunk for a little while. I don't mind or begrudge them their moment; I just don't want to see them like that everyday. This is one of those mornings so I stay in the bedroom and Airyn goes out says his good morning to Chipmunk, and makes himself some coffee.

Afterwards Airyn and I snuggle up to start our movie. Less then an hours goes by before Chipmunk starts getting ready for work, sheís mostly getting ready in the living room and bathroom, but eventually comes into the bedroom. So we pause our movie. We all talk a bit, and the intimate time between Airyn and I is basically put on hold. He gets dressed so he can take Chipmunk to work, and heads to the kitchen for a second cup of coffee. Chipmunk has to be to work in about 30 mins and she's telling us about a b-day get together she was invited to. It's tonight at a gay club not far from the house. She says she'd like to go, but she's not sure about it. Airyn says that it could be cool to go for a little while, and they ask me what I think. I don't see anything wrong, so I agree we sure we can go for a little bit.

Airyn gets home and we discuss going to this gay club with Chipmunk and her co-workers on our way to pick Wolf up from school. We've decided that we don't mind going, but that we won't be drinking there more then a drink or two as places like that tend to be pricey and we have alcohol at home. After we finish our movie (which was interrupted by Wolf multiple times) we talk about going to this gay club some more. Airyn is concerned. He says he's not sure how to handle it. That tonight is our night, but this is a thing for Chipmunk. He talks about going kind of nebulously with us both, but leaving me some what free to check the place out as a gay if I want. I think about what he's saying for a moment. Then I ask if he's suggesting minimal PDA, so that he and I don't seem too much like a couple while we are there. I tell him that could work, but that Chipmunk has to be informed, and on the same page. He thinks about that for a while with out saying anything.

In the kitchen we talk more about going to this gay club and how it's an opportunity for me to check it out. That I can go basically as a single, but with the knowledge that I'm not going alone. That if I'm not comfortable I can come back to Airyn and just let him know. We talk a long while with plenty of thinking quite moments between us. What we decide is that I'll go as a single, and he'll go with Chipmunk as a couple so she can show him off to her co-workers. This way I can walk around on my own and check the place out, get a feel for this gay club and decide if it's the kind of place I'd be interested in coming back to at a later time. Airyn tells me it's the best of both worlds, scouting a place as a single, and not being alone since I'm also Married, and can come right back to him if it's not comfortable. We also discuss that this is just for at the club, that it is our day, and once this get together is over it will go back to being our day (or night at this point) I tell him I'm nervous, but excited. Then we go on about our evening.

Airyn messages Chipmunk letting her know that we've decided I'll go as single and they'll go as a couple. Airyn and I have a very nice evening together. We connect better then we have in a long while, and are both feeling good about us. When it's time for Airyn to head out to pick up Chipmunk he suggests that I go ahead and get ready to go, and asks if I know what I'm going to wear. I grin and say yeah. My skinny red pants, with my slinky black backless top (no bra). He likes it, we kiss at the door, and he heads out. By the time he gets home with Chipmunk I'm dressed and almost done with my make-up. Chipmunk gets ready, and starts messaging with her co-worker to find out who is there, and where everyone is meeting.

We get there and meet up with some of her co-workers. Head to the bar, I buy Airyn a beer, and Chipmunk gets herself a drink. I didn't know it at the time, but it was a double, and she had not eaten at this point for about 5 hours. I hang out with the group for a little while just looking around. I tell Airyn I'm going to head up stairs and look around some. He says ok, and asks if I have my phone so we can stay in touch. I tell him no I have no where to carry it, but that I'll find him, he's easy to find. So I head upstairs. Iím not doing or seeing anything special; Iím just checking the place out, and watching the peoples on the dance floor. I do noticing a lot of Male couples, but no female couples. No big deal it's early. I join back up with the group. Chipmunk and Airyn are done with their first drinks, and Chipmunk is sitting in Airyn's lap. I walk up and tell Airyn, "See you are easy to find." Then join the group in chatting. Back to the bar for another round of drinks, this time Chipmunk buys Airyn a beer. And she is all over Airyn, already drunk, and being her overtly flirty self. I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable with such a heavy display. So I tell Airyn that I'm going to walk around some more, and I head off again.

I find a nice little spot along the back wall in an upstairs room. There are a couple Tranies lip singing to 80's love songs. It was fun, and I stayed there a long while. Since I didn't have my phone I also didn't have the time, and I thought it might be about time for us to head out, so I go looking for them again. I'm in no hurry though, and walk around a bit. I stop on the second floor where I can look down at people hanging outside in the middle of the club. So Iím leaning on the rail and a couple fellows come up beside me. Introduce themselves, and we chat a little bit. One asks me where my group is, and I say they are wondering around somewhere. He lets me know they've been watching me for a while, by telling me he saw me come in with another girl and a guy. I agree that I did, and feel a wee suspicious that they've been watching me since I got there. We talk a bit, they tell me they are straight and ask about my orientation. I answer truthfully, and when they are ready to head off the dark haired one leans over and attempts a kiss. I back away and tell him no thanks. I tell him I'm looking for ladies, and thank him for the compliment. The conversation gets a bit weird then we part ways and I seriously start looking for my group. I find them at the bar getting a third round of drinks. This time Chipmunk is seriously drunk, and is doing her impression of a high school make out session. While sheís ordering her third drink I comment to Airyn about her being overtly flirty. He says sheís like that when sheís drunk, and I tell him I wasnít expecting that. He says at least sheís with him and not some stranger this time.

Then the fellow Airyn was waiting to join the group shows up and has paddles with him. He's telling us that he made them, and the types of material he used, and how the different materials require a different hand, soft gentle, ect. I end up with the heavy handed one, it has a nice weight in my hands. But then they decide to get on the dance floor and dance a bit. With Chipmunk's aggressive flirting with Airyn, and my lack of interest in dancing with any of her male co-workers I decline joining them and head back up stairs.

We join back up and find out that the female co-workers are across the street at a different bar. So we head over there, and pull the paddles out to give the b-day girl her spankings. FUN! Then give any and all who want a turn either spanking or being spanked a moment. That was fun. Airyn asks me if I'm ok, and I tell him I'm disappointed that I got hit on plenty by several straight guys, and winked at by a trany or two. He's only slightly buzzed, but I tell him we can talk about it later. He does stay closer to my side after that, as he realizes that I won't be heading off on my own again. Its last call before the group starts breaking up. Chipmunk is still very drunk, so Airyn is holding her hand to help her walk to the car. We stop at an all night coffee house for food. While we are there I tell them about the fellows who let me know they had been watching me most of the night, and how the one attempted a after less then 5 mins of conversation.
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Married to my high school sweat heart (20 year relationship). Talked about Poly, but put the idea off and had a kid instead. Stumbled into an FFM (Vee) that became an FMF (Vee).

No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
Boots: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
History: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
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Old 02-03-2013, 02:56 PM
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Default Saturday, January 12: another change of plans

It's 5am before we get to sleep.

I wake up around 10 am and I am very anxious, and canít fall back to sleep. I get up for water, and snuggle back up with Airyn, but just canít fall back to sleep. Eventually I realize that Iím upset about how things went at the gay club. From the lack of women, my general discomfort, being uncomfortable around the heavy flirting/making out that Chipmunk, and Airyn were doing, to having a couple straight guys checking me out (and watching me for a couple hours), and trying for kisses. Iím tired, anxious, and overtly emotional. Airyn wakes up and we go to the kitchen so we donít disturb Chipmunk or Wolf. He and I are trying to talk it out. Eventually I get calm, and Airyn tells me that next time weíll be sure to go to the lesbian bar in the neighborhood. That I should drink while we are out so that Iím less tense, that I donít have to be concerned about driving home. If he and I are both going to drink thereís a retro diner thatís open late and is within walking distance that we can go to and sober up before anyone drives.

Airyn is very attentive, and comforting. Telling me to relax to stop stressing over it, and to stop expecting so much. This is all new territory. Weíll figure it out together. He wants me to get out there and do what I feel I need to, and he wants to be there for me through all of it.

An hour or so later Chipmunk is waking up, and has not heard back from her mom. She is assuming that they are no longer doing anything, so sheís hanging out with us. Saturday is mine and Airynís day, but we adjust our plans to include her. We head out for some much needed shopping. Our first stop an Asian grocery store to get recipe ingredients for a ďChinese take outĒ cookbook of Chipmunkís. Airyn and I are walking together, we do our shopping as a group, with Airyn being obviously with me. At the register Chipmunk purchases her things first, and Airyn picks up her bags and walks her out to the car to drop her stuff in the trunk. I total out, and head out to meet them and drop our things in the trunk. Itís not much, but it is a few moments just the two of them where they can hold hands, hug, kiss, say something privately to each other. Next stop is for coffee and wine. Airyn tells me later that he gave Chipmunk a kiss in the parking lot before we headed inside. So again Chipmunk is not being ignored, but she does not have Airynís undivided attention either. We have several more stops, one fun cloths shopping location. By the time we are done with that Airyn is tired and ready to go home, but I still have some groceries to get. So we stop at a store with a coffee bar. Airyn says heís going to sit at the coffee barís tables while we shop. Chipmunk offers to get them some coffees, and I head off to get the items I need. About 15-20 mins later Iím back at the coffee Bar and Chipmunk and Airyn are just then adding cream and sugar to their coffees. The coffee bar lady was slow today. Again itís not much, but it is time that Chipmunk doesnít have to share with me, and can get some of the attention she is used to. However she has spent the entire day out being moody and unhappy. When we get home things are the same. Sheís moody, and is making her unhappiness known. Airyn tells me he needs to talk to her, and I tell him to go ahead while I make some coffee. When he comes back heís telling me that she needs him to offer her some attention to feel as if sheís part of the group, or something. I point out that she wasn't being ignored. That they went to the car together at our first stop, and got coffees together at our last stop. Airyn tells me he gave her kisses in the parking lot. And I point out that he sprawled on the bed beside her looking at what ever she was showing him on her tablet. I tell him she wasn't ignored, but that she was also not the center of attention. I then point out that any PDA she witnessed between us would have been discreet. That itís not like we were making out on the aisles in any of the stores. Grocery shopping just doesn't make me feel sexy.

I had been ironing out plans to meet a new lady on Monday. She and I had been messaging back and forth for a few days trying to figure out a time and place. At first she just told me the times she intended to be in my area and suggested a couple place she'd be ok meeting up at, and asked me when a good time (within her schedule) for me would be. I sent a message to her saying 1 pm at the bookstore she suggested. When we got home she had messaged me back saying she wouldn't be able to make it to the bookstore till 3pm, and that she would like to hang out and visit for about an hour. I replied that this would work well for me and I'd see her then. I then told Airyn what the our plan was, what time, and how late I might be out. I told him that I'd stay up late Sunday night, and nap after dropping Takara off at school Monday morning so that I could be out later then normal on a work day. I then asked if he and I could have the bedroom Monday. We talked about it, but it wasn't decided. Airyn says he'll talk to Chipmunk, and think about it. That there really aren't any plans yet for Monday, and that if I'm just going to be sleeping that he might just move with Chipmunk to the living room.

Airyn and I go back to our PC game, and that evening we snuggle together in bed watching TV. Iím really tired from getting so little sleep the night before. I fall asleep rather early (midnight), but Airyn stays in bed watching TV and just snuggling with me. Apparently Chipmunk had asked Airyn to snuggle with her before he calls it a night, so around 2 am he gets up cleans up Chipmunks snack dishes, plugs her tablet in, and lays down beside her with his pillow. She doesn't wake up, so after a little while he gets up, and comes back to bed, and watches some more tv. Airyn tells me he was up till about 4am.
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Married to my high school sweat heart (20 year relationship). Talked about Poly, but put the idea off and had a kid instead. Stumbled into an FFM (Vee) that became an FMF (Vee).

No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
Boots: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
History: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
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Old 02-03-2013, 03:01 PM
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Default Sunday, January 13th: D-day

I wake up around 8am, but don't actually get out of bed. I know Airyn was up much later then I was so I snuggle with him while he sleeps. Pull the laptop into bed and mess around on the internet for a few hours. 11 am Chipmunk gets up, and stomps out of the room. I hear her making food or coffee in the kitchen. She is making her bad mood very obvious, but I'm just ignoring it. Around noon Chipmunk comes back to the room fully dressed and wakes Airyn up to tell him that she's going for a walk. Airyn gets up, dresses, and tells me she's in a foul mood that she doesn't go for a walk for no reason. He starts stress cleaning the bedroom. Not a pleasant start to the day. We had talked about he and I going for a walk so we could have some privacy since Saturday we had a moody unhappy Chipmunk with us every where we went.

Eventually Airyn talks to Chipmunk, and finds out why she's angry. She never does leave to go for a walk. Airyn tells me that he pointed out that she woke up with his pillow, that her tablet had been plugged in that her dishes had been taken care of. She told him he should have woken her up. I asked him what was he supposed to do? Shake her, slap her? If she doesn't wake up she doesn't wake up. He's frustrated that she jumped to a negative conclusion and didn't consider what she found when she woke up to be Airyn's way of showing her he did cuddle with her while she slept.

Before Chipmunk leaves for work she informs us that she has to see her doctor Monday, that it's a walk-in thing, and that she wants to get there as soon as they open. Well that negates my request for Monday morning with Airyn. Chipmunk is worried about what her doctorís visit will cost her. I suggest that she call them before she goes in so she knows what to expect. Airyn and Chipmunk talk about getting up around 8am and leaving by 9am for her doctorís visit.

They walk to Chipmunks job together and talk some more. Airyn says she's less upset, and is getting over it. He tells me he just wants to cuddle and salvage something out of the day, have a few moments of non stressed closeness with me. Basically he doesn't want to talk about Chipmunk, or how she jumped to a negative conclusion again. Ok so we curl up in bed and enjoy what time we have before he meets up with Chipmunk for her lunch break.

I tell him that her wanting to get up at 8am to take care of her doctorís visit makes my request for Monday morning moot, as heíll be up and awake and getting ready to leave. We talk about it a bit, and decide that since Iíll be needing sleep that itís for the best anyway. Then he asks me about helping Chipmunk out with the cost of her doctorís visit. So I try to explain where our finances are to him. Weíve done this many times before, but he has no head for money matters, bills, or anything like that. Basically I tell him that we canít pay her medical bills sheíll have to handle that on her own this time.

I stay up late snuggling with Airyn till he leaves to take Chipmunk lunch, we do manage to have a good evening after the stress-filled morning/day. Airyn and I are connecting better now that we spend more time together as a couple.
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Bi-sexual female

Married to my high school sweat heart (20 year relationship). Talked about Poly, but put the idea off and had a kid instead. Stumbled into an FFM (Vee) that became an FMF (Vee).

No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
Boots: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
History: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
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Old 02-03-2013, 10:22 PM
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Sigh I'm missing a post. It was dated for Monday, and I think I may have deleted the original from my computer. >.>

So Sunday the 13th was D-day. It came and went without me hearing anything about a decision being made. I'll pull monday back together and share how poorly I handle multiply days of changes. I did fine for a while, but fatigue and my preference for having a plan, and Airyn and Chipmunk just sliding by without one irked me after awhile.
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Bi-sexual female

Married to my high school sweat heart (20 year relationship). Talked about Poly, but put the idea off and had a kid instead. Stumbled into an FFM (Vee) that became an FMF (Vee).

No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
Boots: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
History: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:10 PM
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Default Monday, January 14th

The Plan: After work take Wolf to school, come home wind down and get into bed while Airyn and Chipmunk are getting ready to leave. Sleep till 1 or so then get up and get ready to meet a new lady.

Their plan: Get up and get to their appointment by 9am.

I'm running late from work. Between being tired from not sleeping Sunday, and barely making it home in time to take Wolf to school I'm frustrated. I walk into the bedroom, tell Airyn I just got home and have to leave in a min to take Wolf to school. Then I'm out the door again. I get back home 10 after 8 and they are still in bed sleeping. I'm thinking they forgot to set their alarm so I ask Airyn.

Me: What time are you getting up?
Airyn: 9 or 10
Me: 9, or 10?
Airyn: Yeah, she wants to make some calls before we go, and we'll probably not go till tomorrow.
Me: So you aren't going till tomorrow?
Airyn: probably

Now what, what about my plan? When are they actually getting up? Why didn't Airyn send me a message letting me know they changed their plans.

So I'm sitting at the computer frustrated, and decide that I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut. When ever they get up I'll go to bed. Grrr

9am their alarm goes off, and I'm browsing the web. Airyn wakes Chipmunk, and comes over to give me a kiss. I guess I was a bit aloof cause he asked what was wrong. I shrug and tell him not right now. But he asks again a few mins later after Chipmunk leaves the room. So I tell him that it's not acceptable for them to change their plans and not tell me. Their change of plans affects me. I had plans for today. I was supposed to have the bedroom so I can sleep. He says it's the difference of an hour. I tell him that they didnít just change their plans for today, now they need the car for tomorrow now two, and I had plans to be out. That I had originally asked for he and I to have the bedroom this morning, and had to give that up because Chipmunk decided to tell us that she needed to go to the doctor first thing Monday morning.

It goes back and forth for a bit, I crawl into bed, and Airyn leaves looking stressed.

I wake up around 1. Chipmunk has to be to work for 2:30. I get dressed, and head to the kitchen. Chipmunk and Airyn are walking to Chipmunk's job. Airyn asks if I've heard from the lady I'm meeting. I tell him no, but I've sent her a message trying to confirm that we are still meeting at 3. Then head out for their walk.

2:10 and I have not hear back from the lady Iím meeting. So I decide to walk to meet Airyn and meet him to walk home. 2:20 and I get a message telling me that she canít make it to the book store till about 5pm. Sigh, well that works I guess since now I can walk or drive with Airyn to pick our kid up. I catch up to him he's surprised since He thought I'd be getting ready to head out. I tell him she changed her time again. Iím expressing my frustration, and despite my desire to let this morning go this brings it back up.

Airyn is telling me that it really stressed him out to get (as he called it) reamed by me before heís even awake. He says he spent most of the morning in the bathroom with his stress, and wasnít able to sleep. I tell him that it wasnít so easy to fall asleep with my anger either. He asks me if it was worth it, and I tell him I donít know. Depends on if things change or not.

Airyn: Next time just ask me to clarify; Iím sure Iíd have woken up enough to remember if you had asked.

Me: I did ask you. Twice, and you told me 9 or 10, and didnít give me more info then that.

Airyn: you could have asked me to be more specific.

Me: you could have messaged me, or left me a note on the computer that things had changed.

Airyn: yeah we could have both done things differently.

Airyn and I head out to pick up Wolf and I ask him about the 13th. I ask if Chipmunk made a decision, or not. He tells me she hasn't said anything, and that he's assuming that she's committed to their relationship. I point ou that he's making an assumption, and that if she hasn't come out and said one way or the other he should ask. I also ask him what he expects if she decides to break things off. Will he move her into the living room permanently give her a time line for when she has to move out? What? He tells me he's pretty sure she's committed to making this work. Ok, what if she changes her mind once she can afford her own place? Or a few months after she moves out? He's not sure, and says he'd rather not speculate.

Then I get a message from the lady Iím meeting telling me where she is heading and asking if I want to meet her there or wait till the bookstore. I tell her I can meet her there as itís an early meet time and closer to me.

We meet up, and hang out at the trendy thrift store till about 5pm. I was all smiles, she was straight faced. We spent our time on idl chitchat with a few personal questions thrown in. Over all I was disappointed. I had hoped we would hit it off better, and that he's be more light hearted, and happy then she was. Better luck next time perhaps. I left with the suggestion that she and I meet up to do some sewing, which was the Long-range plan she suggested in her first message to me.
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Bi-sexual female

Married to my high school sweat heart (20 year relationship). Talked about Poly, but put the idea off and had a kid instead. Stumbled into an FFM (Vee) that became an FMF (Vee).

No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
Boots: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
History: Social/Friend dating (Bi) Married
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:21 PM
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Default Skipping to Friday Jan 18th

Chipmunk has plans to be picked up by her mom, She leaves, and Airyn and I have a couple hours completely to our selves before we have to pick wolf up from school. Considering our discord early in the week we are just kinda hanging out, chatting about inconsequential things, and shyly touching, hugging, kisses. After we pick Wolf up Airyn asks about going out to get the tablet he's been wanting to buy. I'm up for it so we head out, but none of the place we stop at have the one he wants. We spent 3 hours driving around town in rush hour for nothing. Come home Airyn gets on line and calls a couple places, finds his tablet, and we jump back into the car to drive 45 mins outside of our city to get his tablet. By the time we get home we have about an hour before Chipmunk is going to get home, I'm stressed from driving in heavy Friday evening traffic. Airyn offers to give me a massage, but once we are home we don't have time. Friday ends up being disappointing with Airyn and I not really connecting like we want, or need to be. Sigh, go to bed hoping Saturday will be a better day.

I have plans Saturday morning. Airyn is dropping me off at a coffee/breakfast place so I can meet History. She and I are going to a different fiber farm. The plan is set so that Saturday is a half day for Airyn and I. He'll be spending the morning and most of the afternoon with Chipmunk, and picking me up from our local bookstore after dropping Chipmunk off at work. I don't have a set time I'll be getting to the bookstore I've told History that I'd like to be dropped off between 3 and 4pm. Airyn had asked me to come home as early as I can when he was figuring out how much time we'd have to ourselves. It felt really nice to have him asking me to come home so we could spend time together. Airyn and I will have Saturday evening, and are talking about staying up latish to either play a PC game or watch some tv together.

So Airyn drops me off, I meet up with History, and she and I have a great time at the fiber farm, we get a tour, and spend some time knitting and chatting with the ladies who are there for the 3rd Saturday knitting/spinning meet up. It pleasant. History is just getting over being ill though so we leave earlier then we had intended as she's tired and needs some sleep. I've messaged Airyn on and off letting him know that this farms was fun, and way better then the last fiber farm History and I attempted to visit. Airyn tells me that Chipmunk saw her adoptive parents (the ones who raised her) for the first time in about 3 years on a live video cast by her parents church. She emotional, upset at herself for not keeping in contact. Bother by how she moved out, and worried by comments her biological mother has made about her adoptive mom. Nothing I can do, So I suggest that she take the time to call them, or at least write to them.

Airyn tells me he's getting her out of the house for a bit, and lets me know that they are at a local coffee house. Then he gets quiet, I send him a couple messages that he doesn't respond to. It's not a big deal I'm just telling him about the fiber farm, so a response isn't required, but it would have been nice.

So History Drops me off at my local bookstore and I message Airyn letting him know she dropped me off early, and why. History is just getting over being sick, and was really feeling tired. And hour later I get a call from him asking me to log in to gmail to chat for a bit. Ok, I'm wondering what's up and when he'll be picking me up. Luckily I really like this book store and can easily lose track of time browsing the books. The bookstore internet isn't work, so I give up on gmail chatting, and Call Airyn back. He's telling me that he's dropping Chipmunk off at work then going home to pick up Wolf then he'll pick me up. That how long it take will depend on how long it take Wolf to get ready to go. So Another hour passes before Airyn arrives. We let Wolf browse so she can spend what's let of her gift card, then we head home. Drop Wolf off and pick up Chipmunk's lunch. I ask Airyn if he's just dropping her lunch off or what. He tells me he was planning to visit with Chipmunk during her break and tells me that Chipmunk is still very emotional over her family stuff. That he doesn't think she should stay at work, but that maybe having something to do will help her. So I'm disappointed. Airyn is telling me that we may be pick Chipmunk up early from work, after having picked me up 2 hours after I was ready to come home. We meet up with Chipmunk so Airyn can talk to her and drop off a jacket, then he and I head to a coffee shop. I tell him that it's disappointing that she'll likely come home early, and point out that he'll need to talk with her, and be the caring fellow he is. That I understand she emotional over family stuff, and that he'll want to comfort her. I tell him that there's nothing wrong with that, but for me it will be disappointing. I tell him that after the stressful driving all over town looking for his tablet last night I had really been looking forward to having some time privately with him. That he and I haven't been alone in days, so I'll be disappointed if she does come home early.

We get coffees at the coffee shop and are still talking when Airyn gets a message from Chipmunk saying she's not doing good, and could he come get her. He heads out picks her up and brings her back with him, so we spend the next several hours at this coffee house drinking coffee, and munching on chips with Chipmunk. At the moment she seems ok, but we both know she's sad. At home Airyn and I get on the computer, but he's obviously uncomfortable showing me affection with Christina home in her current emotional state. He won't go off to talk with her and comfort her like I suggested he do. And when she comes over to show him something on her tablet he's rubbing her back. I lean my head on his shoulder, but get no response from him. When It becomes clear that Airyn just isn't ok being affectionate with me, I look at the possibilities for Sunday. Only to find out that Chipmunk is going into work really late for me to be up. This upsets me, and I tell Airyn I'm going to take a shower.

Airyn checks on me in the shower to see what's wrong, and I tell him that this weekend is disappointing. Friday we had no privacy, We took Wolf with us each time we went out, and Chipmunk came home just after we got home. Then Saturday she's upset over the state of her relationship with her adoptive parents, and now Sunday we won't get time to ourselves either. I tell him I'm disappointed, that I had been looking forward to this weekend. That I had things I wanted to talk with him about, and that I was wanting to snuggle, and flirt, but that we haven't gotten to do any of that. He's telling me that Chipmunk isn't upset to purposely hurt me. I tell him I know this, but that doesn't make it any less disappointing.

After i get out of the shower we make food, and sit in bed to watch some tv. Eventually Airyn lays down. I lay my head on his chest while we watch our show, but he's all hands off, and won't even put his arm around me. When I try to hold his hand he moves away and puts his hands behind his head. So I give up and sit back up, and pull my knitting into my lap. Eventually I feel I'm sleepy enough to actually fall asleep, and get under the covers. Airyn sits with me, but still not snuggling.

I do fall asleep, but am really only lightly dozing, and I wake up when he and Chipmunk leave the room together. I figure they've headed to the kitchen to talk, and so Airyn can comfort her like he's been wanting to do all afternoon. A few mins later they come back to the room, and Airyn notices that I'm awake. He sits back down with me and we talk a few mins. He tells me he thought I was asleep, and that he needs to talk with Chipmunk. I tell him that I woke up as they were leaving the room, that I know he wants to talk to Chipmunk, and that he should do that. He starts sounding frustrated and tells me that if I'm up he has to stay by me.

Me: Airyn I haven't done anything, I'm just awake. I know you want to talk with her, so go do that.
Airyn: I'm sorry, It's just frustrating, it's 2am and I really need some time to talk with Chipmunk.
Me: *Rolling away from him* So go I'm just awake, I can't help that, and I'm not stopping you from talking with her.

Instead he sits on the bed and starts watching more tv. Eventually he get up and works on a computer he's trying to fix for one of Chipmunk's co-workers. I fall back to sleep, but wake up again when the room gets quite. Airyn and Chipmunk are off in the other room talking. It's about 4am when Airyn comes to bed, and tells me that Chipmunk is sleeping in the living room, and that they want to turn a small space in the living room into her space, buy a camping cot and curtain it off so she has her own "room". I ask how she's doing, and tell him that I'll probably go out some where in the morning. That I just don't want to deal with her being emotional after this weekend. I tell him that it will give them the space to work it out without me there. He tells me that we will get to spend time together, That he'll stay clse to me, and that we should play our game. That we can wake up in the morning and cuddle since Chipmunk is in the living room. At the very least he tells me we'll get to cuddle after she goes to work. Then he rolls over and falls asleep.
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Airyn: My husband (Straight)
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:26 PM
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Default Sunday, January 20th

The next morning we clean up the space and make some rearrangements. I pull out some fabric and curtain it off, and we burn candles and incense in the space to make it smell nicer. The curtains help the space retain the fragrance. I'm very lethargic, and don't feel I'm getting much done quickly. Airyn and Chipmunk are working on Laundry, cleaning the kitchen, and bathroom. At first I think it's just from not sleeping so well, but I've had a sore throat for the past 2 or 3 days, and now my nose is running, I'm sneezing, and coughing.

Airyn takes Chipmunk to work, and comes home to me already bundled up in bed. We cuddle and talk, and I tell him that I think I really am sick, so we make some tea. Laying down brings on a lot of coughing and is making it hard to fall asleep, so I end up being up really late. Monday and Tuesday are supposed to be Airyn's days with Chipmunk, and since Wolf is off from school for Martin Luther King day I was planning to take her out to do some fun craft shopping. She has several gift cards from birthday and holiday gifts. I have been telling Airyn that there is no reason Chipmunk and I should ever sleep in the same bed together since our trip out of town to pick Wolf up from his mom's. That evening I'm telling him that he has giving Chipmunk permission to come and go as she please in the bedroom on our mornings together once she wakes up, and that if since she has that permission I have that same right. Then I point out that My day at home starts at 7am, and that I'm not going to be moved into the living room any more. Airyn listens and doesn't disagree.

I remind him that the bedroom has always been my space. When I come home from work/dropping Wolf off I have always spent my time in the bed room. Either I lay down and read while he sleeps, or we both sit at the computers. I also tell him that if complete privacy isn't available to he and I in the morning I see no reason for me to be ok with the two of them having that any more. Airyn tells me he understands how I feel.
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No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
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Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:33 PM
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Default Sick days.

Monday I'm really ill, but go into work anyway. While at work I also start my cycle. With major cramps, coughing sneezing, a generally body achyness, and massive headache I come home a bit early. Sit at my computer in the bedroom with a cup of hot tea, I'm crying or teary eyed due to how icky I feel. When my headaches get bad I cry, not sobbing emotional, just pain tears. After a while I get dressed thinking I'll still take Wolf out for shopping like I had promised her, and Airyn/Chipmunk. Instead I grab a couple blankets, my pillow and curl up on Wolfs bed beside her and fall asleep. That's probably at 10:30 or 11am.

Airyn gets up around 12:30pm and comes out to check on me. Chipmunk had apparently told him I was crying. So he wakes me up and asks me how I'm feeling, but I'm not so coherent. He tells me that I'm clamy, and I tell him I'm cold. So he checks my temp, but I'm not running a fever. He gets me up and makes me some hot tea and breakfast. Then asks again if I'm ok. So I give him the list of my body aches and pains. He tells me that Chipmunk said I was crying that morning. I told him of course I hurt every where, and the rest we can talk about later. He's relieved that it's not something he did. At about 2pm I'm being tucked back into our bed with another cup of hot tea, and kisses from Airyn. He's telling me to sleep as much as I can that maybe I'll feel better in the morning.

The next morning I'm getting ready for work, but still feel just as crappy. Airyn asks how I'm feeling, and I tell him not so great. I also tell him I may come home early again, but that I'll just wait and see how I feel once I'm more awake. He sends me to work with plenty of tea to drink. When I get home I'm not feeling as bad as the day before, so I get dressed, and get Wolf up at about 9am she and I head out to have our shopping trip that got postponed due to my being sick. Wolf asked me why I was sleeping in her bed yesterday morning, and I tell her that I was feeling really Ill, and couldn't fall asleep, but laid down in her bed fully dress for our shopping trip and went right to sleep. I told her that normally I can't sleep in my bra and jeans. She laughs at my explanation and the funny face I make at her. We spend more then an hour at a hobby/craft store. Wolf is frugal with her gift card money, and gets her self some on sale modeling clay in a multicolor package, and some clearance card stock paper that she intends to use for origami. I'm proud of her careful math and thoughtful item choices. She could have bought the same things, but the non sale/clearance ones at a higher price tag. She was being smart, and didn't need any coaching suggestions from mom on how to make her gift money go farther. After that I have a few errands to run, so we go to the grocery store, and then I take her to the library to pick herself out some new reading materials as she just returned her last book. She found herself a four book series, and check all four books out.

It's after noon before we get home, and Airyn and Chipmunk are still sleeping. Wolf and I put up our groceries. My day is basically over I'm tired, and still not feeling well. They get up while I'm putting away groceries, and head to the kitchen. Airyn makes me a cup of tea. Wolf shows off her purchases. Airyn tells me that he and Chipmnk are going out for coffee and to pick up a camp cot for Chipmunk's space. I tell Airyn that I'm pretty tired and that I'd like to get to bed early. I crawl into bed with my tea just around 1pm, and they head out around 2. When they get back around 3 I hear them putting the cot together in the next room, and They are coming and going from the bedroom getting pillows, blankets, tablets, the laptop, and such. I have a hard time falling back to sleep, but eventually do. At some point that night I wake up to the noises they are making. Talking loudly or laughing, and music. They turn it down quickly, but Now I'm awake. Can't fall back to sleep and when I realize it's almost time for me to get up for work I give up on sleep and jump in the shower. When Airyn comes in the room to make sure I'm up I'm already dressed.

I tell him that I couldn't fall back to sleep after they got loud suddenly, and took a shower. He puts his hand on my wet hair which i have up in a bun, and tells me my hair is wet. I tell him yeah that happens in a shower. lol. He tells me he never heard the shower turn on, and said that they were watching tv on the laptop. He apologizes for waking me, but I tell him there's not much he can do I'm a light sleeper and the sounds was really sudden when it was so quite in my room. Chipmunk's space is right up against one of the door to our bedroom. We don't use the second door, so if seemed like a good place when the idea came up. Chipmunk doesn't come out of her space which Airyn has dubbed "the broom closet" because it is tiny. He tells me that Chipmunk has decided to sleep in her new space tonight. So when I get home he'll be in bed alone. I ask him what time she's has to be at work. He tells me early, and that he's not sure what time she's getting up. Ok so probably not going to get be napping in bed after work.
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No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
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Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:38 PM
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Default Wednesday and Thursday

So I get home from dropping Wolf off at school, and sit a my computer while I wind down. At about 8:20ish I snuggle up to Airyn, and ask him when Chipmunk is getting up he says she getting up around 8:30. I tell him that's not long from now, and end up snoozing till his alarm goes off. Airyn gets up and wakes Chipmunk up, and he and I chat a bit while she gets ready for work. After Airyn drops Chipmunk off at work he picks me up we were headed to buy some coffee for the house, but he stops at a new coffee shop he and Chipmunk have been to a couple times, and we sit down to a couple bottomless cups of coffee, and brunch. It's a nice place and I like both the hot coffee, and the yummy food. We get our coffee for the house, and spend several hours snuggled together in bed. It was sweet, but Airyn remarks that I'm getting all clamy again, and suggests that we not do anything more exciting while I'm well. Since I'm feeling really crappy I have no complaints, and tell him that I've really enjoyed snuggling with him. When our alarm goes off we get up, and pick Wolf up then Chipmunk. Back at the house Airyn tucks me into bed with kisses telling me that he enjoyed snuggling with me too, and that he wants me to get better. Tells me to get as much sleep as I can, and he'll see me in a few hours.

Thursday after work, I take a short nap and get Airyn up around 10am to head into downtown to take care of some school things with him. He gets frustrated at all the lines we end up in, but then we talk to the STEMS office about an internship where he can get job experience programing, and using the computer knowledge he has, plus what he's currently learning. He's excited, and reads over several of the intern posting. Hands the book back to the lady we are talking to and tells her he could do any of the positions she currently has open. So now he's planning to email her his resume, and set up an appointment to iron his resume out and send it to several of the posting he was looking at. We end up being gone for several hours. When we get home Chipmunk is still in bed, but is awake.

They decide to walk to Chipmunk's work, and Airyn asks me to meet him half way. I tell him sure. Since Chipmunk walks slower then I do after they head out I decide to change into something a bit sexier and put on some make-up. I spend about 5-10 mins getting ready then head out. I walk through the neighborhood as usual and never spot them, I'm walking a little bit faster thinking that I'm running behind since I spent time doing make-up (which is rare for me). But when I turn a corner into the shopping center parking lot I'm only about 15 feet away from them. I stop suddenly very much surprised as I never spotted them while I was walking. I give them a big lead and walk much much slower to my meet point with Airyn. When he meets up with me I tell him that I almost ran into them, and he tells me I didn't see them because they took the alley, and then he showed me the way they walked. I told him I didn't want them to think I was spying on them or anything I really didn't mean to catch up to them I just walk fast. He said not to worry that he didn't spot me till I got to our meet point and they didn't think anything of it. We spend a few mins talking at home then have to go pick Wolf up from school. I'm having trouble sleeping, so Airyn puts some light music on and snuggles with me for a while. Then heads out to have lunch with Chipmunk. At this point its been days since he and I have had any sexually intimacy other then cuddling. It makes me sad, but I have been sick, and messy with my cycle, not a good combination for feeling sexy.
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No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
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Old 02-04-2013, 03:43 PM
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Default Friday, January 25th

Friday was a pretty good day with a few minor disappointments. Chipmunk doesn't move to her new space till I'm getting home from dropping Wolf off at school. This bothers me, but I don't say anything. I got home from work at 7am, and home from dropping Wolf off just after 8am. When I walk in Airyn is "tucking" chipmunk into her cot in her space, and giving her kisses. I head to the bedroom, and change for a nap. I was up really late Thursday cause I couldn't sleep and am really tired. Airyn and I snuggle up together, and he tells me that Chipmunk is going to that coffee house for a few hours before her mom comes to pick her up for the day. He tells me that we are dropping her off and picking her up from the coffee house.

Chipmunk is in the room getting ready to go around noonish. Airyn and I wake up and get ready. I drive, we drop her off, and head right back home for a bit. Airyn and I lay back down to watch a movie, and a couple hours later are getting ready to pick Wolf and Chipmunk up. We pick them both up, and come home Chipmunk drops her purchases off in the kitchen and gets a few things together to take with her to her mom's. Airyn is sitting at his computer and I'm sitting on the bed while she's busy rummaging through the closet and her things looking for stuff. Her clean laundry is in totes in front of her closet and has been sitting there for a week now. So she can't find anything. Airyn and I are teasing her about her space in the living room, and how now she'll have to keep that cleaned up. We joke about treating her like we do Wolf. I tell her we can take her tablets power cord away like we do Wolfs computer when it's time to clean house. She pouts, and says she not my kid, and I grin and say I know. And then leave it at that, maybe she gets it that I shouldn't have to say anything about her keeping the living room space she's claiming clean and neat. After she finds the things she was looking for she sits in Airyns lap till she gets a message from her mom saying that she's downstairs, and off she goes. Airyn and I have a pretty good evening together after that. But I have to comment on how comfortable she is being flirty with him in front of me on our day versus how uncomfortable she was when we took her with us to do shopping and saw us walking around arm in arm. I tell him that if it's cool for her to do on our day it should also be cool for me on their day. Then I tell him I'll be sure to bounce in his lap on there day next time. He laughs and says she wasn't bouncing. I tell him I know, and grin saying I don't normally bounce in his lap either and that I was just kidding any way as I'm more discrete then that.

Airyn and I end up having a good evening together, but I'm just getting over being sick and get into bed right around the same time Chipmunk is getting home 11:30pm. Airyn tells me that if I want to nap I should, and that he'll wake me in a couple hours so we can play our game some more. Chipmunk is settling into her space and getting into her cot. Airyn kinda tucks her in and gives her kisses, then comes back to me and basically does the same. I fall asleep quickly, and don't wake up till about 4am asking Airyn for water. Airyn brings me a glass, and then joins me in bed telling me it's really late. I call him a trickster for talking me into napping even if it was for my own good. We giggle and cuddle and fall back to sleep. Airyn tells me that it was nice being able to tuck both Chipmunk and me in when we went to sleep.
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No longer dateing my husbands Girlfriend.

Airyn: My husband (Straight)
Chipmunk: My x-GF, My husbands GF (Straight)
Wolf: my Daughter with Airyn
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