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05-01-2011, 08:55 PM
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Newbie
Hiya everyone.
I'm a total newbie to this. I feel like polyamory may be the 'thing' for me, due to various reasons but I'm not totally sure yet. I'm 28, female from England. I'm also useless at introductions, so I'll leave it here for now. 
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#2
05-01-2011, 11:16 PM
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Welcome aboard.
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When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around. While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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#3
05-02-2011, 07:41 AM
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Newbie too
Just to say I'm a newbie, 33 from England and in the same boat as you x
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#4
05-02-2011, 12:24 PM
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Welcome to the 2 newbies! It's nice to see more members on this side of the pond.
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If I can't dance, I want no part in your Revolution. - Emma Goldman Anarchist and Polyamorous par excellence The person who says something is impossible should not interrupt the person who is doing it. - old Chinese proverb And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.~ Anais Nin I'd rather have a broken heart / Than have a heart of stone. - from "Boundless Love (A Polyamory Song)" by Jimmy Hollis i Dickson
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#5
10-14-2012, 10:51 AM
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Oh wow, I totally forgot about this thread! I'm sorry.
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1. I've never been able to imagine not being able to be with someone else if I had feelings for them, or understood why people don't do that anyway. One of my earliest memories to do with this was when I was about 8 and I saw some TV show where the boyfriend of one girl kissed another girl. I genuinely didn't understand why she was so upset. All I could think was "But he likes them both!" 2. The second reason is because I'm asexual, and part of me feels like it would be wrong of me to get into a relationship with someone, and expect them to never, or very rarely have sex. So I also feel I should allow them other partners to get those needs met. 3. And the final reason is, I don't believe one person can fulfill every need I have, and I shouldn't expect them to. Therefore, I feel it should be fine for me to seek elsewhere to fulfill needs that aren't being met, and vice versa. Anyway, sorry for taking so long to answer!
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#6
10-14-2012, 11:57 AM
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Welcome back!
Those sound like very valid reasons to me... #1 most closely matches my own reason - and the one that many who feel they are "wired poly" would seem to agree with. While I don't disagree with #3 - which I would phrase as "I can't be someone's everything" a mono might argue that you don't need another romantic partner to meet those other needs - that's why people have friends. There have been a number of posters recently where your #2 comes into play (and applies, I think, to my MrS to some degree). JaneQ
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Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with - MrS: hetero, probably mono male, my live-in husband (together for 21 years, married for 17) Dude: hetero, probably poly male, my live-in boyfriend (of 2 years; friends for longer) and MrS's best friend (for several years longer than that) VV and MsJ: bisexual women with male primaries, LDR FWBs (of 19 and 7 years) My poly blogs on this site: The Journey of JaneQSmythe The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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