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Old 09-07-2012, 08:20 PM
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Default Is Hugh Hefner poly?

Some thoughts sprang up for me from another thread.

Is Hugh Hefner poly? He has long-term relationships with many girls, who all know about each other and agree to the relationship style.

Is his style of relationship responsible non-monogamy?

I have my own opinions, but would love to hear from others first.
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Old 09-07-2012, 08:32 PM
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Lmao. I dont know.
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Lmao. I dont know.


You're LAUGHING your ASS off? This is srs bsns. Have some friggin respect, yo.
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Old 09-07-2012, 09:53 PM
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I can't Boring. Lol. I just can't. Giggle!
I don't have enough info to really comment on Hugh's dynamic. But, Im surprised how few ppl have responded.


*off topic

Ciel- I would love ur thoughts on my thread about metamours.
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But, Im surprised how few ppl have responded.
I know, right! This should really be the last thing we all think about before falling asleep and the first thing we think about when we wake up EVERY DAY.

I'm surprised there already isn't a thread about this in Golden Nuggets.

I'm adding tags so people can find this easier for future reference.
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LOL! Naw, I don't think its important.

But-I think there are too many threads on here that someone thinks ARE important-when in fact, most of it is trivia.

We all need to take a break and ponder the unremarkably unimportant shit-take a break from serious shit all of the time.
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Old 09-07-2012, 11:58 PM
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Nice to see your normal level of snide hostility, BoringGuy!

Since nobody else has really posted anything serious on this topic, let me give you my opinion, for what it's worth...

I have witnessed during polyamory discussions a strong desire to distinguish polyamory from the stereotypes of polygamy and swinging. I have been guilty of doing the same. As a consequence, a strong emphasis has been put on the egalitarian style of poly, to the point where when someone comes on talking about imbalanced structures, we either dismiss them, mock them, or direct them to a different forum. There have been several recent examples of this.

I brought up the example of Hefner because it is a classic example of an imbalanced structure which has, apparently, worked well for those involved. Based on my understanding it *is* polyamory, by all the common definitions, and I think we need to acknowledge that and not be quite so dismissive.

I strongly prefer the egalitarian model of relationships - what I seek for myself. But I think that there are many other types of polyamory which work for those involved - everyone gets what they are looking for and are happy. I feel that just because *we* wouldn't be happy in that circumstance doesn't give us the right to mock and denigrate those who happen to think differently.

So my question was very serious.
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Old 09-08-2012, 12:29 AM
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Exclamation Is Hugh Hefner poly?

Yes he is.

And one lucky son of a gun too.

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Nice to see your normal level of snide hostility, BoringGuy!
You know very little about my "normal" levels of hostility or anything else.

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So my question was very serious.
I beg for your forgiveness (but not really). I'm sure I'm not the only one who thought this was a joke.
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Old 09-08-2012, 02:42 AM
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I don't really care?

I figure if they all are free agents who have happily signed up for the deal -- then it's their brand of polyamory.

*shrug*

So long as they are happy with the arrangement -- who is to say boo? It's not what I want for myself in polyship, but so what? It's not me in there.

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