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Old 06-12-2010, 10:31 PM
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Hi I'm new. I'm all for domestic discipline. Will I find it in a polyamory relationship?
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Old 06-12-2010, 11:12 PM
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Hi I'm new. I'm all for domestic discipline. Will I find it in a polyamory relationship?
You may have to be more clear? What exactly do you mean by this? (I can guess but would rather not )
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Old 06-12-2010, 11:37 PM
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You may have to be more clear? What exactly do you mean by this? (I can guess but would rather not )
Well my not talking about discipline for kids.
Men are the head of the house and must be respected at all times.
Women get punished if they do submit.
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Old 06-12-2010, 11:42 PM
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Well my not talking about discipline for kids.
Men are the head of the house and must be respected at all times.
Women get punished if they do submit.
That was going to be my guess.

Protocol based D/s relationship then. Yes some poly households follow strict protocol guidelines. Some going so far as living a gorean lifestyle

ref: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gorean

Your best bet for that specific version of poly would be www.fetlife.com which has a large D/s poly community with varying degrees of what you are looking for.

So short answer is yes...

This site is more specific to the relationship side of poly...not the fetish side. Although a number of us have experience with the kink side of the world

Welcome to the forums
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Old 06-12-2010, 11:48 PM
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Its not a fetish its a lifestyle... Thanks for you help
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Old 06-12-2010, 11:51 PM
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One point of clarification...

When Ariakas talks about dominance and submission, he refers to a context in which the submissive person can choose to end the scenario at any point by saying a 'safe word', which essentially calls a time out to discuss what's wrong. If the submissive does not have the power to set boundaries in this fashion, or some other, then it is not consensual and I would not call it polyamory on that basis.

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Old 06-12-2010, 11:56 PM
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One point of clarification...

When Ariakas talks about dominance and submission, he refers to a context in which the submissive person can choose to end the scenario at any point by saying a 'safe word', which essentially calls a time out to discuss what's wrong. If the submissive does not have the power to set boundaries in this fashion, or some other, then it is not consensual and I would not call it polyamory on that basis.

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Sort of, the Gorean (btw just an example, there are others) collective would disagree. I might have the term wrong (D/s) but there are a large group of people who live the life of male dominance over the women in the family with various discipline techniques used as punishment to keep the women in line. And they identify as polyamorous as they love their master, each other etc.

I don't pretend to full understand it, but it is out there

I am definitely not a master of the abbreviations and terminology by any stretch.
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Old 06-16-2010, 05:05 PM
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I believe the answer is, if you look long enough, yes. It may require considerable patience, but if you are clear about what you desire in your mind, and refuse to settle for less, then eventually you can find someone who shares your desires.

Obviously, social networking in the right areas can speed up your search...
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Old 06-16-2010, 05:20 PM
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Thank you Everyone. To update: I joined FetLife and I am chatting to a few like minded people.
Its was so easy. And here I was thinking maybe I weird.
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A ~ I found out the name of the relationship I want, its a 1950's relationship. And others call it CDD christian Domestic Discipline Ill skip that name.
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Old 06-16-2010, 05:26 PM
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A ~ I found out the name of the relationship I want, its a 1950's relationship. And others call it CDD christian Domestic Discipline Ill skip that name.
Congrats
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