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Old 11-09-2012, 01:53 PM
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Ok...we had a breakthrough last nite. Her and i were talking about him hunting...kids...the new friend...etc...and she admitted to me she was in love with him. And has been fighting it for a while. I was relieved...i could see the obvious...but was always told no. She also told him this morning what we had talked about and how she felt. I think he was surprised. So...Now wut? I have always expected it...and was even waiting for it. But to actually hear it finally admitted is a little shocking. Lol.

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Old 11-09-2012, 09:18 PM
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Just remember, feelings aren't always logical, so they can't always be explained. Who knows when someone will fall in love, or when they will feel jealous and insecure. The best you can do is acknowledge their feelings and then move forward.

As far as I know, nothing has technically changed for the moment. But you might want to have another three-person sit-down to give the girlfriend a chance to state whatever her needs might be, and to see what can be negotiated.

I think she was just reacting to the hunting trip because she was extra emotional. That's my hypothesis anyway. Something has changed, if she is now in love. Maybe she just sees change in the world around her because something changed within herself internally? It's a thought.

You'll probably do fine as long as you move forward in little steps. Keep us posted on how things are going.

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Old 11-10-2012, 01:54 AM
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Well...i can tell she is cuz of the way she looks at him. She has pupil dilation... the whole shebang. And the same can be said for him. They are both in NRE. Of that i KNOW. But i think just hearing it admitted finally is huge. Ive known it forever...it was just one of those things never admitted. And the fact that it is i think changes things. I just dont know how. I will post when we have our talk. Thank u!!
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Old 11-11-2012, 06:27 PM
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Hello, All I am very open to fining happiness, and although I love love and attraction and sex, which will all be involved I am completely open to packaging. My dream would be to have a long term relation ship with a man and a woman who both are in love with me and each are also in love with each other we would all share our lives. BUT, how on earth do you get started?
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Old 11-11-2012, 08:38 PM
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Old 11-12-2012, 03:12 PM
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Hubby and i talked extensively about his gf's admission of being in love with him. I asked him what he thought of it...did it change anything...etc. We definitely have to have our sit down with her very soon ( has been very difficult due to ability to be without kids on both ends). He said he noticed that since she told us this...she has changed. Before she would ask to go places with us or come over in case we had plans. Now she just comes over. And doesnt leave. Lol. She says shes going places with him instead of asking if he minds if she goes. She has become very jealous of his new female friend...telling him she doesnt like him going hunting with her...or hunting period. Very possessive and suddenly competitive. So we will see what happens. Not sure im liking this new side. Lol.
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I guess GF and Hubby will have to work out the hunting issue between the two of them. GF will probably run into some difficulties if she can't adopt a poly mindset, but that's kind of for her to work out with herself.
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Old 11-12-2012, 11:32 PM
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Well he told her he hunts...he fishes...he always has and always will. And if she didnt like it...too bad. If his wife didnt have a problem with it and wouldnt tell him not to go...nobody else would either. He told her he left his first wife over her problems with his hobbies and he damn sure wasnt going to let anyone who wasnt his wife tell him what he will and will not do. Lol. She must have accepted it because shes still here. But i think this way...if she cant accept the way it is...thats not my problem. I dont know what to say. I have enough of my own shit to work on thats much more important than him hunting and who its with.
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Old 11-13-2012, 08:50 PM
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Yes, that is really his and her concern to work out between the two of them. Sounds like he has a hard boundary in that area, and communicated as much. It's up to her whether she can live with that.
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