Greetings from upstate NY

[kdt26417]

Welcome tree166,
I'm glad you could join our forum.

Sounds like you have some tough decisions on the road ahead. You might need to confront your boyfriend about the importance of prioritizing his relationship with you, but you may have already tried that, and he may already be well aware.

I hope the advice offered has helped you reflect on the situation, and decide what to do. Let us know how things turn out.

Regards,
Kevin T.

[tree166]

So, in the last couple weeks I've been doing some soul searching. I was also lucky enough to find a poly-friendly therapist in my area and began seeing her. She's made some suggestions that the boyfriend has been receptive to, and so far it seems to be really making an impact on him. I think he started to realize that the boundaries I had weren't just due to my own insecurities, but also because of his behavior. I hope we'll keep seeing progress, but only time will tell.

Thanks for the advice!

[kdt26417]

Glad to hear things have improved a bit. Are you and your boyfriend both seeing the therapist? Sounds like he's taking her seriously. I'll keep my fingers crossed for that trend to continue.