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Old 10-13-2010, 06:00 PM
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What constitutes a long distance relationship for you?

Is it a matter of driving time? Ease of access? (For instance - north vancouver to richmond could be long distance - not easy to get there if you don't have a car) Something else?
Thats not long distance to me. Thats a very short drive and easy to get to a date for. I don't drive and that isn't an LDR haha. Maybe its my ontario upbrining but a 45 to 1 hour drive to go to a date, or work, or anything, is not a far way to go. In BC this is very backwards, people here worry a lot about really short distances. Most people here would be laughed at in Ontario for the complaints on distance.

Long distance to me is something actually in the way. Flights would be a good measure...Ocean...etc.
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Old 10-13-2010, 06:49 PM
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Long distance to me is something actually in the way. Flights would be a good measure...Ocean...etc.
So does the little bitty bit of ocean between Vancouver and Victoria count? I don't count it, to me that's close enough to easily go there and back in a day.
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Old 10-13-2010, 06:53 PM
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So does the little bitty bit of ocean between Vancouver and Victoria count? I don't count it, to me that's close enough to easily go there and back in a day.
See that's what I mean - to me - if you can go there and back in a day - comfortably - then its not really *long distance*

But talk to anyone in the Lower Mainland and Squamish is *soooooooo* far away

And Ari - I'm not one of those who consider an hour drive long distance- I'm the one who happily commutes for work
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Old 10-13-2010, 07:04 PM
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Maybe its my ontario upbrining but a 45 to 1 hour drive to go to a date, or work, or anything, is not a far way to go. In BC this is very backwards, people here worry a lot about really short distances. Most people here would be laughed at in Ontario for the complaints on distance.
Here in LA no one would even blink at an hour long drive. Now a drive that takes an hour on Sat morn will take you 2 1/2 hours on Friday evening. My commute to work is 45min - 1 hour and that's only 25 miles.

Now, as far as LDR, I would say that would depend on a lot of things and would be very individualized. Some people are way more willing/able to travel longer distances. Realistically, I would say that anything under 1 hour would NOT be LDR, between 1-2 hours could be borderline, and 3+ hours most definitely, but that's just me. Cost of gasoline can be an issue also.

During football season, I don't go anywhere. I even have relatives come visit me at the practice field and we picnic. I can't be out late on Friday night, because there is always a game the next morning. I don't even want to think about what baseball season will be like (promissed the boy he could add this next year).
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Old 10-13-2010, 07:08 PM
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See that's what I mean - to me - if you can go there and back in a day - comfortably - then its not really *long distance*

But talk to anyone in the Lower Mainland and Squamish is *soooooooo* far away

And Ari - I'm not one of those who consider an hour drive long distance- I'm the one who happily commutes for work
Ya I know you do the drive. Not sure why people consider it LD it isn't really. I barely a lengthy drive. But some people don't want to put in the effort

Gotta agree derby, although it is financially tougher. Ferry can add up, but its still a reasonable drive for a date for example. If its doable to see someone once a week or bi-weekly than its something I just don't consider an LDr.

Distance is also about perspective. My ex boss was loaded (and a total douche) his idea of long distance was england...anyone in canada was fair game as he travelled often and had lots of money. Had a gf at every port.
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Old 10-13-2010, 09:23 PM
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I'm not sure where I would draw the line... The long distance relationships I've had were always in a different country, or even different continent (Europe - Canada).
And when it's a different country, there is a border in the way, and all the problems that can come with it. For instance, I'm still not allowed to leave Canada after a year and a half (immigration taking its time) so the fact that y boyfriend lives in the US is a pretty big problem, and would be even if it wasn't a 3 days' drive away. When we met in Vancouver, we both had about 20 hours of driving to get there. He's coming here in December and taking a plane, and that will only be about 4 hours in the plane, but it's a plane, so I would count that as long distance (taking a plane isn't as easy as just hoping into your car and driving).

I've never had a car (or a license) so I think back in Europe I probably would have considered anything that I needed to hop in a train for (as opposed to using public transit) to be a LDR.

I think there needs to be a barrier. A border, an ocean to cross, or having to get there by train or plane. But it also depend on where you live. I find that in Canada, an hour drive is almost nothing, while in Europe there were friends I only saw once or so a year because they lived "so far" (an hour away).
It feels weird, but my 20 hours in a Greyhound have seemed equivalent to the one hour I'd spend in the TGV (fast train). I can't explain why. I feel if I went back there, I would still feel an hour away is super far. (To be fair, it took me an hour of public transit to reach the train station in the first place, so I guess that counts more are 2).
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Old 10-13-2010, 09:43 PM
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I'm still new to driving so for me a 6 hour round trip, which is what it is to R, is too long in my crappy car every week. Also anything that requires a hotel stay or plane tickets. It's more the expense and safety thing. If I had a good car and more money I would definitely make a trip at least every other weekend.
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Old 10-14-2010, 01:14 AM
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I used to drive over an hour each way to work everyday - I don't consider that long distance.

If you can drive there, have a nice long date, and drive back in the same day, it's not long distance.
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Old 10-14-2010, 07:23 AM
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I would never do a long distance relationship again. Well I should never say never, but they just aren't worth it for me... what distance would make it worth it? I would agree with an hour... any further would be an LDR for me. I just wouldn't want to spend the time getting there and back. That sounds so unloving doesn't it? I suppose if I really fell for someone I would go to the ends of the earth to see them really. how can one help themselves when in NRE>
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:19 PM
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You make a good point RP about depth of feelings and distance. When my husband and I were still just "swinging" I began to fall for a guy and we started talking about potentially moving in together at some point in the future and then suddenly his job moved him 3 hours away . . . I never saw him again - it was just too difficult.

Fast forward one year and my husband finally says I can be with D!!! D lived 3 hours away and I was begging to make the trip every weekend! When you REALLY love someone, no distance will change that.
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