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Old 06-04-2010, 07:59 PM
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Well, I think that part of what happens is something wrong with what the guys are doing(either they need some therapy, they have misconceptions about poly/life that makes it harder, etc.).

I also think part of it is that in the rank and file of poly, there are just a lot more guys than there are girls. Contributing to the fact that there are more guys than girls is the fact that a significant portion of those girls are bi and can(and in many cases do) date other bi girls. If you go by the assumption that one person can only date so many people at once, bi girls dating other bi girls means a reduction in potential partners for any guy that doesn't want to date another guy.

Those are the two general things I see that make it harder for men to find partners than women.
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My answer would be that the key is that when you walk up to every girl in the bar-your goal should be to get to know the one that is interested in you. Not try to suddenly get her in bed.

BUT that would be me.

If a guy comes on to me for a kiss before he knows my middle name-he's not going to get anywhere with me-and it can be a LONG ASS TIME before I give out my middle name.

If a guy tries for sex before he's comfortable hanging out with my family-he's done for. Ain't going to get any.

Maca is an aggressive type-but he also respected the need to KNOW ME before "fucking" me.

GG is the timid quiet one.

They both got me. BUT no man who starts with "I'm poly and looking for another woman" is EVER going to get me and no man who tries to get more than friendship from the outset is going to get me either.

FRIENDS FIRST-then we can talk about being lovers.
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I also think part of it is that in the rank and file of poly, there are just a lot more guys than there are girls. .
Why?
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Thanks for all the replies so far I love the diversity of perspectives!
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If a guy comes on to me for a kiss before he knows my middle name-he's not going to get anywhere with me-and it can be a LONG ASS TIME before I give out my middle name.
I can do the devils advocate game all day, but I will leave it with this seems pretty regional. Girls from Aussie and some places in Euro kiss everyone, like a hug...and yes I am talking the fun finding the back of the teeth kind of kiss.

so it comes back full circle, how can the guy be expected to know how to flirt with individual girls if the game is so diverse?

Now, and its likely true in your case and most people here, you tell the guy up front and/or don't rely on subtle hints

Hey mono, maybe I have just been blind but has your location always said that Very sweet

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Why more guys than girls?

I think Mon that the bi detail is one reason.

I think another is that a guy who sleeps around is seen in less of a bad light than a woman who sleeps around-by society in general.

Course that is just A GUESS.
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Old 06-04-2010, 08:41 PM
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Ari-
If kissing a guy like that didn't tend to result in them thinking they could get a piece of ass-that's totally my natural personality.

But I got REALLY sick and tired of guys thinking that me being friendly with the emphasis on FRIEND meant they were going to get some.

Kind of burned my ass if you know what I mean.
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If kissing a guy like that didn't tend to result in them thinking they could get a piece of ass-that's totally my natural personality.

But I got REALLY sick and tired of guys thinking that me being friendly with the emphasis on FRIEND meant they were going to get some.

Kind of burned my ass if you know what I mean.
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heheheehehehe.
Ari-you are so funny.

And yes-I do believe that Mon's location always said that.
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Hey mono, maybe I have just been blind but has your location always said that Very sweet
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