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Old 07-24-2010, 07:30 PM
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thanks gang. i think i will do that as soon as i figure out how to do that.
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Old 07-26-2010, 01:52 AM
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Now I have a new screen name, and I am focused on what I want. I must admit that I'm not entirely sure how to get what I want but things have been progressing to happiness.
Had a great talk with K, she finally admitted her feelings for H. Now I just have to learn to control my insecurities and learn compersion(it will take time).
Making the trip to get my little ones and finally meet her bf.
I think my life is turning around(finally!). I dont want to jinx it so I am trying to patiently wait(hard for me, I see what I want and go get it!).
So here is a huge thank you to all who have posted on this thread and given me advice and insight. I will keep posting and keep you all informed of my progress.
THANK YOU!!!!
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Old 07-26-2010, 02:14 AM
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Here's to your new name *clink* new name, new beginnings? Here's hoping that things are looking up!
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Old 07-26-2010, 05:59 AM
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Old 07-28-2010, 10:01 PM
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT THE F**K!!! What is this? One step forward, two steps back! I don't f**k get this. Now, outta the blue, the whole plan has changed! I was told that I will not meet H! K has decided that I am not ready to meet her bf! Talk about a kick in the nuts! I am so hurt and angry right now! I wanna break something! I have been trying so hard to come to grips with my emotions, and all I asked was one simple little thing! Now, I'm back to square one! This is total bullshit! I'm so frustrated with how I have been treated during this whole mess. I feel like I don't matter. K is gonna keep seeing H no matter what I say or do! We ended up having a HUGE argument last night! All because she is unwilling to help me understand why this dickhead is so important to her. And to top it all off, K is back to the " he's just a friend" crap! I asked her why is he so important, why risk all you have for a "friend"? I don't get it! when we were swinging, there was one lady that made K uncomfortable with the whole situation, K asked me to stop and I did! I ask her to stop and I get a big FUCK OFF!!! This emotion of love really sucks! Wish I could turn it off and walk away! So, it looks like I get to stay home again, while K goes and fucks this douche bag! I'm so done with this whole thing. I think its time to explore the "other" option. I don't know what else to do. I still feel like i'm the only one having to make a change, to be ok with this. UGH!! I need a bottle!
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Old 07-28-2010, 10:37 PM
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I don't know what else to do.
Set her free. AKA..dump her and find someone who deserves you or at least has the emotional maturity to sustain one relationship.
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Old 07-28-2010, 10:46 PM
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I agree with Mono on this one. You've done your best & it seems like your best isn't good enough for her.

Let him have her and give yourself a break from the drama, get your head (& your heart) on straight again and then see what there is in this big ole pond that piques your interest.
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Old 07-29-2010, 01:22 AM
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You've done your best & it seems like your best isn't good enough for her.
I disagree. Racer has done his/her best....It is good enough, yet not accepted. Eitehr way, the result is the same. Oddly enough, I had this same conversation today with one of my ex-students. (I used to teach her and her lover martial arts) There comes a time, when a person has to ask themselves if the relationship is worth the trouble. If it is, shut up and keep trying and quit griping. If not, then bite the bullet, grow a pair, and cut them off. Period. You already know what you need to do.....Now do it.
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Old 07-29-2010, 02:19 AM
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I'm not ready to give up! I have been beat down worse than this! TL those are pretty harsh words, but you do have a point. Thanks. If this marriage is destined to end then it will be K that walks away, not me! I can't(won't) walk away.K must make her choice, whether its good or bad for me!
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