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Old 05-30-2010, 05:58 AM
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Old 05-30-2010, 02:52 PM
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What are the ties that bind you to your lovers?
Can I changes lovers to loves. I currently only have one lover

Wow...thats tough to quantify...if I think about the two people in my life right now

Pengrah - I think this is fluid and has to be. Right now it is responsibility. With her being sick I almost feel required to be by her side. While this doesn't mean, when she gets better i will leave her, its simply a fact of being...responsible. When she is better maybe it will move to something more fun and less load bearing

E - I really wish I knew. In fact I wish I could walk away and not be around her. In some ways she has been a rock that has come in to help Pengrah...which has relieved me of some stress...in other ways I...just don't know. I can't figure out why sometimes...other times its her smile...

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Old 05-30-2010, 03:33 PM
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•A committment we made to each other for "forever."
•Trust
•Undying love
•Respect
•Security
•Our children
•Friendship
•Our history
•Responsibility
•Family

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Hmmmmmm,

Right off the top of my head I'd pick out Respect as #1 with Special memories/connections as a close second.

For me, love would come very hard - if at all - without respect as a foundation.

For more - I'd have to do some thinking.............

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Old 05-31-2010, 01:59 AM
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Old 05-31-2010, 03:30 AM
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What binds us? A mutual desire to remain entangled, and the hundred acts we do every day to prove it.
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common values, our deep way of communicating, and the trust and friendship that occurs because of that communication. All that breeds deep love for me and respect.
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with C: its our long and deep history together. Its a vision of seeing my life and not being able to see it without him. Its also humour - humour binds us.

With A: It is power. There is a power behind our love that simply cannot, cannot, be broken. I have never felt so consumingly and overwhelmingly connected to a person. She is my soulmate.
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there's something...something there. Subtle behavioral patterns we have in common, it's apparent to the people around us that when we talk, we talk from the same source...I can't really explain it :/ But I notice it, and I fall in love anew about everyday.

Our history of pain together...maybe a good foundation, but I consider an indiana jones scenario

Her nerdiness knows no bounds when she's not shy about it...

Her good natured heart, it's inspiring, and I draw god-inspired love from it.
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