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Old 11-11-2012, 07:32 AM
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I said earlier in this thread that it seems I have better luck meeting people in real life, but I am also trying to be more active on OkCupid. So, I went out Friday night with a guy I met on there and I really like him. And I'm chatting with another... so we will see!

There is someone else I am interested in who came into my workplace last week and flirted with me outrageously. I hope he comes by again soon!


As an aside, some of the places I have met guys I dated in the past: work, classes, bars, the laundromat, the subway, an interstate commuter bus (that was Cranky - we went out for about 9 months), the city streets, Starbucks, and the post office (my STBX).
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Old 11-11-2012, 02:55 PM
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I met my husband online 11 years ago.

My boyfriend I met through friends at a car show. Been inseparable every since..
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Old 11-11-2012, 03:07 PM
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I made good friends with a guy & his wife at the local poly meetup a long while back, and have started seeing him a couple months ago.

And last night I had a second date with a guy from okcupid.
That's it for now.



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Old 11-14-2012, 07:07 PM
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I found AF Guy and Bomber online (a lifestyle site).
What is a "lifestyle site?" Is that for swingers?
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Old 11-14-2012, 07:58 PM
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Yes, nycindie, it is a website for swingers. On most, you can register as a couple or a single male or a single female.
Okay, was just checking your use of the word "lifestyle" which I know is a popular term for both swingers and people into 24/7 BDSM (and generally not used for poly). Thanks.
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Old 11-14-2012, 09:57 PM
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Meet my husband through his old roommate 8 years ago, and meet my partner through my husband 2 years ago.
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Question How to know if someone is Poly

I understand there is no way to know for sure if someone is poly without asking but I am wondering if anyone has experience with this and has tips.

So, my husband and I are new to the poly lifestyle, like we haven't even meet anyone yet. Anyway, I am married to my best friend. We talk about everything together. We have a couple who we are best friends with. The wife is my best friend and the husband is his. It is no secret that the wife flirts with my husband and my husband flirts with her. It also is very obvious that the husband is attracted to me and I to him. We don't flirt because we are both very shy (the husband and I). My husband and I talk about it all the time and find it cute. Anyway, we haven't told anyone that we are poly because we are new and just trying to completely understand what we want. It is frustrating because there is so much tension between us but I don't want to ask because I value our friendship and I don't want to scare them off. We all have been flirting with each other's spouses for over a year and in front of each other too.

So the question: Does anyone have any tips on how to find out if they are poly without asking? They are are best friends and we love them. we do not want to scare them off or make it awkward around them. To add to the confusion we all attend church together. Any tips, advise, or experience would help. Thanks
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Old 05-16-2013, 08:25 PM
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I am not sure you can actually find out if someone or a couple are poly unless you are aware if either of them are in a relationship with someone in addition to their spouse or just asking them straight out.

Sounds like all 4 of you are very comfortable with each one flirting with the other SO and it sounds like you all hangout with each other a lot in a friendly setting. Would you and your husband be comfortable enough telling the other couple that you are poly, but without expectations of developing a relationship beyond the friendship you all have?

Or bringing poly up casually over drinks, say you and your husband are considering it and ask the other couple what their thoughts are on poly relationships are, just to see their reaction. If you feel a sense of comfortableness on the subject, than just kind move onto a new conversation.

I do have to admit, from all the flirting that goes on between all of you, bringing up the topic of poly may open all new doors for you all. Might be worth talking about.
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Old 05-16-2013, 08:40 PM
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Maybe they are wondering the same exact thing about you.
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Old 05-16-2013, 08:45 PM
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I am not sure you can actually find out if someone or a couple are poly unless you are aware if either of them are in a relationship with someone in addition to their spouse or just asking them straight out.

Sounds like all 4 of you are very comfortable with each one flirting with the other SO and it sounds like you all hangout with each other a lot in a friendly setting. Would you and your husband be comfortable enough telling the other couple that you are poly, but without expectations of developing a relationship beyond the friendship you all have?

Or bringing poly up casually over drinks, say you and your husband are considering it and ask the other couple what their thoughts are on poly relationships are, just to see their reaction. If you feel a sense of comfortableness on the subject, than just kind move onto a new conversation.

I do have to admit, from all the flirting that goes on between all of you, bringing up the topic of poly may open all new doors for you all. Might be worth talking about.


Great idea. My husband and I will have to try to bring up something on the subject to test their reactions. It is so nerve racking.
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