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Old 05-28-2010, 07:29 PM
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Nerdist would hermit if I didn't entice him out of his thoughts and mind... such is our relationship.
I'm exactly the same way. Think you can handle dragging two people out of their heads? LOL!!!
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Old 05-28-2010, 08:32 PM
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Haha. Well likely I will be able to handle that.
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Nice seeing you this weekend Roly..hope I wasn't too obnoxious after a bottle of Whiskey
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Old 05-31-2010, 03:39 AM
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I wasn't the one who was annoyed.
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I wasn't the one who was annoyed.
oh dear... who was then?
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Old 05-31-2010, 07:38 AM
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Oh, lol, at one point your boy seemed mad when we were making noise and he couldn't sleep. But, the mice and the raccoons were far more "obnoxious".
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I'm going to continue this here. Not a story of success and happiness and belongs in my ongoing, "Oh my god, wtf, I'm ungrounded" thread.

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I can't speak for Redpepper or Polynerdist but "energy" is what seams to give me confidence in the people I meet. I feel it with you and Derby as well as with Redpepper's tersiary. It's easy to be patient for people who have a certain energy about them. It's the kind of energy that doesn't make demands or impose...it says "here I am" and merely shares in a way that is natural and inviting.
(I'm still confused about who RP's tertiary is...) I get exactly what you mean about energy. It's something I've based a lot of my life on. This aspect I have no doubts about. The physical aspects I have trouble fitting.

Love can live outside the physical realm. Some aspects live in the physical - smell, touch... but falling in love can happen outside of all practical borders. So, fitting in terms of energy, personalities, feelings... is not going to erase the physical challenges.

In many ways I'm starting to feel like I fit. In other ways, I feel scared. I need to make a decision fairly soon about where to move (unless I want to spend another winter in a one room cabin by myself with no bath, no indoor toilet, chopping wood, starting fires, slow internet, dark, stormy and windy for six months...)

The truth is that the lifestyle I need to live for the sake of my health is very different from the lifestyle that is already established. And although I can have all the fantasies I want about taking you all with me somewhere that my health can thrive, this is obviously completely a fantasy.

You are all moving in a very certain direction. You've been working at this for a while and deserve to have a successful, happy living arrangement together. I fear that I don't fit into that, despite that energetically it feels great to be with all of you! I feel a lot of love, trust and safety.

This is very hard.
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You haven't met RP's tersiary but he is a great guy and has been in her and Polynerdists' life
practically since they first met. The word Tersiary is not adequate but people understand it as a common term on here....he is much more to her than what the label implies.

I can't speak with any great deal of wisdom about the physical aspect of being closer for you but I do see the challenge in that.

This is very hard...but it doesn't always have to be hard. We're here for you
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No decision that you're going to make is irreversible. If you do decide to move here and your health can't take it there's always the option of moving somewhere else that will work for you. If you decide to stay where you are for the time being there's always the option of moving at a later date. Go with your gut though. Making the best decision with the information that we have at the present time is the best any of us can do.

You have a whole lot of people here who are willing to have stuff bounced off them. Just keep talking, what is right for you will be what happens.

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