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Old 11-14-2010, 03:51 PM
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And we're doing a day of cookies at his house including all the old favorites that don't get made anymore. My niece will have the job we had when we were her age, sitting in a high chair chopping nuts in the enclosed food chopper. i'm bringing home all my decorating gear so she'll prolly decorate some sugar cookies too.
Squeeze bottles work great for little kids hands. I did this for a kids party once. I had a ton of sugar cookies and mini squeeze bottles filled with different colors of royal icing (they do have to be decloged every once in a while). The kids had a blast and the mess was minimal. The cookies looked great.
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Old 11-15-2010, 08:23 AM
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Squeeze bottles work great for little kids hands. I did this for a kids party once. I had a ton of sugar cookies and mini squeeze bottles filled with different colors of royal icing (they do have to be decloged every once in a while). The kids had a blast and the mess was minimal. The cookies looked great.
I'll give it a try. For 19 mos she's got amazing fine motor movement, so she may do really well with it.




Feeling really loved tonight. Stil anxious about leaving but more just missing him and worrying about him.

I know he loves me. Hopefully that'll get me through. But for now I'm going to make the most of time we have before I leave.
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Old 11-17-2010, 07:47 AM
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3 weeks til I leave and prep work is begining. I made some pretty damn good sugar cookies tonight to send off to my future boss. Pictures don't always do justice so I'm sending the real thing.

I am freaking cuz while they taste great, I'm not so sure about the decorating, but Karma says he wouldn't let me send them if they looked bad, so I hope he's telling the truth.

Cleaned the whole apartment today. I wanna scrub carpets sometime this week. We'll see if I can wrangle Karma into that.

I have some of my packing started. I have a good bit of my tools and supplies together and some of the Christmas presents I am making ready to go.

Planning for thanksgiving, which I think we are going to Crickets house then the three of us going to Karmas dads. Waiting on confirmation on that so I know what I am making. Most likely Caramel apple pie and orange cranberry sauce.

Hopefully things aren't too awkward at Crickets. I've never done a holiday with anyone but my family, except for one Thanksgiving and one Cristmas with Karmas dad.

I have lists everywhere. Pack this, buy that, Karma's "while I'm gone" list, Christmas lists and homework lists.

This is actualy a good thing. It means I am more and more coming out of my depression of the summer. The drive to get things completed is usualy my sign that things have fallen back to where they belong. Really proud of Karma and I, I was able to do it without meds this time and wouldn't have if I didn't have his help.


Well that blog was kind of all over the place...gonna go take my aching body to bed.
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Old 11-21-2010, 12:15 PM
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Floating on a bit of a high.

Got to hang out with Cricket and though it was a short visit, it was at least some hang out time.

And decided to jump on OK Cupid just cuz I hadn't been on in awhile. got propostioned to run out and have sex with some random guy. Somehow he missed the whole-no casual sex-part on my profile. When I said so, he said it could be regular, it didn't have to be casual, and then he wanted to cyber. Really! Do people still do that?

Got a few other messages from some interesting possibilities.

Funny how I doubt any of them will go anywhere, and I don't really care one way or another, but it was kind of a mood lift to be so popular.

Oh well off to bed.
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Old 11-29-2010, 10:21 PM
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I need to rant for a moment

I can't move my right arm. I can only sit up for small spans of time. I have a shit ton of stuff to do before I leave for ohio. And how was I woken up?

By my husband telling me he was leaving to go see Cricket!

Not to see how I was feeling.

Not to get ready to go schedule his college classes as we has discussed

Not to get the oil changed in the cars or the 20 other things we talked about

Nope, he woke me to tell me he was leaving

And he woke me up by getting dressed. Had I not heard him, I wonder if I would have even known. Or if I would have woken up to an empty house again.

At least he was here to help me get dressed before he left.

I get that they haven't seen eachother in a week and I get that it's hard taking care of some one.

But I need him here today! I leave in 6 days. They get two weeks to see eachother without me interupting. Is it so fucking hard to stay home and care of someone who can barely move when you get 2 weeks uninterupted with your girlfriend?

And before he leaves, he tells me not to overdo it! How am I going to over do it? Type to hard? cuz that's about all I can fucking do right now!

I think we need to go back 24 hrs notice when they see eachother. Cuz this incondsiderate bullshit just doesn't fly.

It was not my fault they couldn't see eachother last week, but I get punished.

what the fuck ever.

I'm gonna go take some more pain pills and see if they let me breathe for a little while.

What I'd give to ave Panda still around the corner.
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Old 11-29-2010, 10:29 PM
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And I get it isn't his 'job' to be my caretaker. But he is my husband! could he have maybe stuck around an hour and to make sure I got breakfast? Which was pop tarts by the way-the only thing I could reach. Which no doubt make my sugar wonky in about an hour.

Or possibly even a shower to try to work it out?

Or maybe get me a heating pad before running out the door?
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Old 11-30-2010, 12:57 AM
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Wow...*hugs* then *cleansing breath together*

On one hand, I can completely understand you being upset.

On the other hand, I say you should have communicated what you may have needed or desired today, yesterday.

YES...he could have inquired about your needs as well and, if it were me, I would have... allowing some time for you but, also, continuing with my plans.

I'm sorry for being so forward but I don't get the point of the line 'But he is my husband!'. What exactly is the relevance to you in this scenario? I'm just curious about your viewpoint. I have a big soapbox about being married and poly and how some married poly people, though they deny it, still maintain a somewhat traditional mindset about their marriage and the unspoken 'obligation' it entails when it comes to considering the person they are married to. I think, just as a person who cares for you, he could have been more considerate but you, also, could have been more communicative and all would be ... less frustrating right now. Now, because of the situation, you are about to impose your right to reinstate rules to the interaction between the husband and the girlfriend when a little pre-communication could have remedied the situation before it happened.

That's just my uninformed opinion. I hope all goes over well and works out the way you desire. I also hope your travels are safe.
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Old 11-30-2010, 01:26 AM
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Wow...*hugs* then *cleansing breath together*

On one hand, I can completely understand you being upset.

On the other hand, I say you should have communicated what you may have needed or desired today, yesterday.

YES...he could have inquired about your needs as well and, if it were me, I would have... allowing some time for you but, also, continuing with my plans.

I'm sorry for being so forward but I don't get the point of the line 'But he is my husband!'. What exactly is the relevance to you in this scenario? I'm just curious about your viewpoint. I have a big soapbox about being married and poly and how some married poly people, though they deny it, still maintain a somewhat traditional mindset about their marriage and the unspoken 'obligation' it entails when it comes to considering the person they are married to. I think, just as a person who cares for you, he could have been more considerate but you, also, could have been more communicative and all would be ... less frustrating right now. Now, because of the situation, you are about to impose your right to reinstate rules to the interaction between the husband and the girlfriend when a little pre-communication could have remedied the situation before it happened.

That's just my uninformed opinion. I hope all goes over well and works out the way you desire. I also hope your travels are safe.
I can't predict the future and had no way of knowing I would still be in pain today. So communicating my needs yesturday would have impossible.

What was possible was telling him all weekend that come monday we needed to go schedule is classes at the college.

The original 24 hr rule was to have the respect of saying " hey do you have plans that I am going to completely fuck up by going out?" because my time wasn't being respected. Seems to me, my time still isn't being repsected so maybe it's time to start that again.

My comment about him being my husband had nothing to do with Cricket or who's relationship is more important and everything to do with a little common curtesy. He usualy asks me as soon as I wake up how I am feeling. Given that last night was rough because of my shoulder, that simple question would have taken care of that. But for whatever reason, running off to see Cricket was more important. My comment simply meant that he is my husband and I thought that relationship offered a little more curtesy and care than the running running out the door.

If he was injured, as he has been in the past. I am not going to run out the door without making sure he has everything he needs. I jsut found it a little uncaring and down right rude.

He tells me not to over do it, not to do things I can't do, to ask for help, well that's a little hard to do when I'm getting kissed good bye in bed.


But it is what it is. I lived with this before him and I can take care of myself when he isn't here. It's just a little harder to do. My feelings were because I felt like he was more interested in running out the door than taking a few minutes to see if the pain had gone away, if I could move my fucking arm, if I needed anything. I have no problem expressing my needs, when given the chance.
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Old 11-30-2010, 01:38 AM
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I must have misunderstood. I interpreted your statements to mean that you needed help with the things you needed to do prior to going out of town, regardless of the condition of your arm. My apologies.
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Old 11-30-2010, 01:49 AM
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*hugs*
You know we, as women, always seem to be more considerate of the needs of others including quality time, assistance, feelings, etc. so I do understand.

Yes, That is the assumption I am referring to. 'Marriage' doesn't allow for more courtesy. The relationship and actions in them do not (or rather should not) take on any more significance than they do in any other committed, serious relationship (though that is not the case). I think those ideas play a big part in some of the communication issues between 'married' partners. Keep in mind, though, that this is the opinion of an unmarried individual who has never been legally married but has had to go through divorce proceedings more than one (common law) but who studies relationships and aims to counsel couples (traditional and non) somewhere within the next 10 years. However, I do not practice the institute (don't believe in it as it stands) and will not as long as I cannot do it with more than one person legally because, to me, that is unfair to any other partner I may have Knowing that it is the multipartner relationship I seek but I digress.

Hopefully, you guys can have a good sit down tonight. Maybe there was something on his mind or a subconscious need he had that caused him to act more out of character than he normally would have this morning. I hope you both get to thoroughly express yourselves and come to an understanding about expectations and I hope your arm heals well.
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