Affection in front of metamours

[LovingRadiance]

Now, I don't think that I would be comfortable right off the bat witnessing them being as physical with a brand-new girlfriend that I wasn't friends with yet...but I would expect to be working toward that if the idea was to include her in our co-habitating poly family (not necessarily in a relationship with more than one of us but a day-to-day full-on full-time cohabitating famly member). If she would want to have a "separate" relationship with either of them (i.e. everyone knows about everyone but metamours having only a cordial acquaintance level of involvement) that would also be fine but I would expect the PDA in my house to approximate what they would do in public (and would modify my PDA with both of them - the one she was involved with AND the other - accordingly).

That you for this explanation! It very much describes how I feel-and I've been struggling for some time to describe it! Very helpful!

[coolkat8]

I feel fortunate in that my husband really LOVES to watch me be affectionate with other guys. When I'm with both of them, at first it was strange but then I relaxed because my hubby just smiles as I kiss and am physical with my secondary. He wants me happy and is turned on when other men like me. My husband has had only one long term relationship with a woman but she would not allow all three of us to be together, she was uncomfortable with it so I'm not sure where I stand with how it will be when he is with a secondary with me around!

[LovingRadiance]

coolkat-that is awesome.
My boyfriend tends to be that way. He loves to watch me-regardless of who Im with or what I'm doing for the most part. (He does draw the line at actual sex).

But, not hubby. He is afraid of what it might mean.