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Old 07-23-2012, 08:39 PM
Halfcat Halfcat is offline
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Default New to poly, kinda confused.

Me and my Boyfriend have been together for 5 years, and about a year ago, we got into polyamory. We had a girlfriend for 5 months, but she left us, and now we kinda want another one. There is this girl we like, but she just got out of a bad relationship. We knew her when she was with her Boyfriend, and they would come over and hang out. She would sit on my lap or sit close to my boyfriend. Now that she's single she wants to hang out. How should I ask her about being in a relationship with us.
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Old 07-24-2012, 09:42 AM
km34 km34 is offline
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I would caution against getting involved too soon. Rebound relationships rarely work out long-term, and if she is just getting out of a relationship AND the two of you have recently gotten out of one - that's a whole lot of rebounding going on!

Not saying that talking to her and letting her know that you are interested in seeing where things could lead would be bad, but jumping right into a relationship could be.

Why not just try to casually hang out for a while, make sure everyone is in a healthy space, and then start dating?

I would just say something like, "Hey, I know we really enjoy spending time with you and we think that we could really fall for you. I know it's kind of a bad time with you and boyfriend just splitting up, but if you feel the same we would love to see if there is the potential for something between the three of us when you feel ready. If you don't feel that way for us, we understand, and we definitely don't want to lose your friendship"
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