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Old 07-12-2012, 08:46 PM
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Well, I had never heard about Showtime before, so I had no expectations in particular.
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Old 07-12-2012, 10:19 PM
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Yep-way sexual visuals that don't meet up with the word choices. Hell, don't even match my real life poly experiences...
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Old 07-13-2012, 05:37 AM
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Yeah, sitting around and talking about how to make a relationship work is decidely un-sexy.

Oh well.
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Old 07-13-2012, 02:17 PM
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My hubby and I just watched the first in the Showtime series POLYAMORY: Married & Dating (we recorded it on DVR, and watched it over morning coffee). It had pluses and minuses, but it was disappointing, really. Sex sells, I guess - and that is what it emphasized. It moved TOO QUICKLY, showing two poly families moving in together and having drama - all in a 22 minute segment.

The first show covered way too much ground, with too much drama for me, and I'm a poly person. The show was not an ideal way to introduce poly into mainstream culture.
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Old 07-14-2012, 09:02 PM
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I want to see this! Even if it is super sexualized. I know it will probably make poly look bad, but honestly the people who don't get it, aren't going to watch a tv show and have their minds changed. People are just way to hateful, scared and judgemental about things that are different. This show was being discussed in one of my mommy groups and I had to just walk away from the computer. I try not to argue with people about it because I know it gets me no where but ugh!! And that was before the first episode even aired.....
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Old 07-16-2012, 02:29 AM
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I just tried watching the first episode of Polyamory: Married and Dating (we taped it at a friend's request), and could barely get through it. If it had been a full hour, I wouldn't have been able to.

The best way to describe this show is as the "16 and Pregnant" of polyamory. I wasn't aware that it was classified under "late night" Showtime, or else I might have gotten a clue.

The show is nothing more than a puerile soft porn erotic attempt at a romp, and a rather unsuccessful one at that, with drama thrown in for additional bad measure. Explicit shots of group sex abound (at best, questionably real), and of course all the participants are toned, rock-hard eye candy who have the brains of five-year-olds when it comes to communication.

The show was obviously written for a target audience of drunk horny teens, or mindless adults, who love such drively drama. Other comparable shows are "Cheaters", "Fifth Wheel", and Jerry Springer. And have just about as much connection to actual polyamory as the other shows, or sitcoms, connect to real life.

So honestly...unless you're in the mood to laugh at sheer absurdity or enjoy silly soft-core porn stuff...skip this program. You're not missing anything.
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Old 07-16-2012, 02:48 AM
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Thanks paul16451 for making me feel better for not subscribing to Showtime for the purpose of watching this. I'm poly curious and had hoped this would be an honest attempt to represent polyamory in a modern world. I must say that I was reluctant after seeing the previews and with your honest critique, I'm glad I steered away.
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Old 07-16-2012, 04:58 AM
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You're welcome. The show uses the term "polyamory" as a flimsy excuse for showing wannabe swingers trying to live together and show off their strange sex (by soft core standards) and bodies while Big Brother cameras watch.
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Old 07-16-2012, 04:28 PM
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In fairness, I did want to add that one of the women did say ONE thing at the end of the show that did resonate with me as something of a single redeeming value:

"Yes, I make love all the time. When you make love all the time, you need to consider it a celebration of life."
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Old 07-17-2012, 11:02 PM
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After watching the show my reactions were a bit mixed. On the one hand, it wasn't as bad as I feared it had the potential to be. It wasn't quite what I expected from the promos (which were nothing short of awful).
On the other hand, I was still not impressed and felt it was not a good representation of polyamory or something I would want to be associated with, as a poly person.

I liked the bits which showed the groups communicating. Unfortunately these scenes were brief and blown through to get to the next sex blurb. The whole show feels choppy, random, and poorly edited. The 'sex scenes' are not well integrated and don't add value to the show in any way. Most take the focus away from the actual relationships and basically sexploit poly like I expected (making it seem like orgy city). But even as pure entertainment, they fail because they're not long or involved enough to be terribly interesting or exciting. Either way it just doesn't work. The only redeeming part was when the two couples were together at one point and one of the women showed signs of discomfort, so the other stopped and asked her what she was feeling and what she needed. I thought that was positive. Otherwise, it was just out of place, failed, contrived barely soft-core pornyness.

One scene particularly annoyed me. The triad was having a discussion about their issues surrounding one of the women's new relationship. The issue clearly wasn't resolved for everyone but suddenly they jumped up and ran off to get naked in a very forced manner. It was like someone stepped in and said, "This is boring. Go get it on instead." So the segment skipped straight from actual relationship issues and communication straight to how awesome these three model-esque people are in bed together. No resolution or segway to speak of (unless you count the awkward "I won't be happy til she's naked" comment as a transition).

So, it wasn't as bad as it could have been but it was still uncomfortable and very disappointing/embarrassing.

Most of the interactions with the triad group seemed contrived and staged. The quad's interactions came across as more genuine and positive, but the editing prevented the viewer from getting a clear look into the dynamic and inner workings of these poly relationships. That's what I want to see. Otherwise "Polyamory" should not be the title of the show, IMO. It should just be about group sex, show better sex scenes, and get on with it. (I'm not saying the people involved aren't poly or in multiple loving relationships, I'm just saying that Showtime isn't letting that remain the true focus or be explored to an appropriate extent for a show *titled* "Polyamory".)

One good thing that came of the show... My frustration with the whole thing led to an interesting conversation with my mother about what poly is and isn't.
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