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Old 06-27-2012, 03:50 PM
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Hi, my name is Jess, or you can call me Clover.
I'm VERY new to the idea of polyamorous relationships.
I didn't even realize this was an option until I joined
a married couple that I had met online for a threesome.

I can't consider it a poly relationship, as of right now
it's just sexual, but it seems like there is more there.
We have became good friends, she and I hang out,
go shopping, and talk about the situation we are in
but none of us have brought up anything to do with
polyamory yet. I'm not sure if I should bring it up or
give it some time. We've only been involved for a month
or so. I would love some advice on this situation. Thanks!
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Old 06-27-2012, 04:53 PM
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Welcome!

I think that having a "where do we all think this is going" chat might be a really good idea - let everyone have their say on that.
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Old 06-27-2012, 05:38 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I think so, too!
I'm just nervous that it will make things awkward. Haha.
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Old 06-28-2012, 03:18 PM
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Yes, it might, but it will be an awkward in the sense that now everyone has to kind of thing about stuff in a bit more detail, and think about what the others want.

While this may seem strange, open and honest communication is the foundation of good, solid relationships, whether poly or monogamous.
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Old 06-28-2012, 04:27 PM
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Gonna feel a lot weirder awkward down the road if you don't have it now at a month in when you are in the "getting to know you place"... and you come to find you are not on the same page and not even reading the same book!

KISS -- keep it simple, silly.

Have the "so... what's all this mean to you? Where you see it going? What are your wants here?" type talk.

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Old 06-29-2012, 09:18 PM
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Greetings Clover,
Welcome to our forum.

I basically agree with the others: If you're wondering whether this is going to be a polyamorous relationship, then the signs are kind of telling you that this would be a good time to start talking about that with your partners. Even if it's a little awkward now, it'll probably save you some awkwardness down the road.

I hope you'll stay with us, and let us know how things are going!

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
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