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View Poll Results: How much of your leisure time is spent interacting with other poly folk?
0-20% 18 60.00%
21-40% 5 16.67%
41-60% 2 6.67%
61-80% 3 10.00%
81-100% 2 6.67%
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Old 06-16-2012, 04:40 AM
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My only socialising with other poly people (that I'm not dating) is the time I spend in these forums. This being said, I would like to go to a poly convention at some point.
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Old 06-16-2012, 04:48 AM
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Maybe this is just an impression I have: for the mainstream American mindset, at least, poly is near the bottom of the slippery slope, just above (or next to?) bestiality or, as one especially dense public official would have it, marrying inanimate objects.
I think it depends a lot on presentation.

When I tell people I'm dating more than one person and that I live on my parents' property in a tiny mother-in-law apartment, surprisingly, most older people seem to think it's downright normal.

The worst reactions have been from straight monogamous women who are married, of whom you could not pay me enough to sleep with their husbands.
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Old 06-16-2012, 04:39 PM
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The only poly socializing I do is here on the forum - I don't know any polyfolk IRL (I started to try to go to a MeetUp but was but off by how much info I had to give to sign up). Currently that comprises a large chunk of my internet time - but that is my usual pattern on the internet: find a forum/site/game, become intensely involved for a period of months, then move on to the next thing, checking back in occasionally to see what the current state is of my old internet obsessions.
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Old 06-16-2012, 04:43 PM
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Sounds totally familiar, Jane. The same for me. The only poly people I know are virtual. And those where the thing with the child abuse happened ... definitely not the best circle to join.
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Old 06-16-2012, 07:35 PM
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FYI, you could sign up at meet up as Jane Q Smythe, you don't have to be your 'real' self. My local poly group advertised on meet up and I used November Rain to sign up there. AND, you can see their calendar without signing up; I think a lot of groups are 'private'. My local group is also on a facebook group and I participate mostly there. But I had to go to the meeting to find out about, and get in ~ because the fb group is completely private.

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The only poly socializing I do is here on the forum - I don't know any polyfolk IRL (I started to try to go to a MeetUp but was but off by how much info I had to give to sign up).
Interesting questions, hyperskeptic. I knew one couple, self-identified poly. Friends from another fringe social group, and the guy works with CBF. I called him when I was in my first days' hysteria about 'can I really have two boyfriends?' He was very reassuring, mostly by telling me I'm smart and capable. He and his gf are unicorn hunters, and were in a phase of giving up. (I sent them the link to the fb unicorn group that was posted here a while ago)

So, most of my poly socializing is online. However, I met one terrific friend (and her tangle) FROM HERE. Right in polyamory.com. With a capital P and that rhymes with T and that stands for TROUBLE. Not really (I saw Music Man last weekend).

When I discovered I was bi, and shortly after, the gay community (way back before it was even dreamed of being called LGBQTXYZ), I decided that 'bisexuality' was not enough in common for me to hang out in identified 'bi' groups. Sex was just not the biggest interest in my life. And back then, I wasn't hearing enough talk about love to keep me interested.

Dropping into the poly community, feels very similar to me in the way I dropped into the gay community. However, it's a much broader focus, and it is pretty far off the mainstream, so I very much enjoy participating, increasing my participation and just being able to be with other polyfolk. It's really nice to say 'my boyfriends' without having to go into the long explanation, or having to defend it.

I doubt I would be happy living in any exclusive community.
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Old 06-23-2012, 09:09 PM
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I am sure I socialize with some poly people. However, I don't really know who most of them are. See, folks don't necessarily advertise this. No convenient shirts, badges, or tattoos.

I do know a couple of my acquaintances are poly. However, I have never talked about it with them because I am not really interested in them romantically and I haven't really found another reason to bring it up.
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Old 06-24-2012, 01:17 AM
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How would I even know they are poly? Not all of them are OUT to people.

I probably bump into polys undercover all the time but don't know it.

For all I know my cashier at the grocery is poly. I don't care because... she checks my groceries out and I go home?

I don't attend meetings or anything -- I'm not looking to date or seeking or anything. I enjoy online forums just cause I like to talk!

So unless we've been friends for years and I already just know because we've been friends for years?

I just wouldn't know what percentage to put.

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