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Old 01-26-2010, 11:59 PM
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Okay, so i'm just starting to settle/accept in to the 3person relationship thats kind of risen up around us without us realising. Now i'm looking for some more practical advice... how the heck do you get 3 in a bed on a long term basis??!!!

Two of us are very tall, the other average (i'm 6'9", my bfs are 6'4" and 5'10"), and even with a kingsize bed, its getting to be more and more awkward to 'sleep' 3 to a bed. We always start off cosy and cuddled, then as we all fall asleep and move around, inevitably you end up with someone perched right at the edge of the bed.

And then of course if you happen to be in the middle, you cant exactly get up in the night without waking the others. Is there a slightly more practical solution??? None of us can bear to sleep in seperate rooms or beds but we need sleep. lol. How do you guys manage it?

ps. We used to have the quilt disputes but i managed to resolve that with a superkingsized duvet (yay).

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Old 01-27-2010, 12:15 AM
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I don't have any technical solutions to the threesome bedsharing question, but I can't help wondering whether the two boyfriends are also involved with one another in a loving / intimate relationship -- and of what kind, and how much they are cuddle-friendly with one another(!).

What is the largest bed size available on the market? Can you lay out multiple futons on the floor, side-by-side? Maybe layered several?

>very excited<

oh... wait, all three of you are male! that makes things altogether different from my initial imaginings... so many people to know ... forgetting details ... I think I've seen you three somewhere before! here online, that is.... but a busy life makes for hard remembering. No pun intended!

Okay, now I'm envious!

I want two boyfriends, too!

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Old 01-27-2010, 12:18 AM
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lol, yep - all 3 male.

Just thinking about it, i wonder if we bought two double divan style beds and fixed them together with brackets, would that work? or a king size and single. As long as theyre the same make/height and they fit together....

*thinks*

hmmmm. We'd have to have sheets and bedding made but i guess thats doable...
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Old 01-27-2010, 12:29 AM
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Doable is close to Double, but this is more Triple than Trouble.

Were I you, I'd just create a large room full of multiply layered futons and let things be. Just fill a room full of pillows and count your blessings.

Thanks, YGirl, for smooshing my multiple posts together. .... Now for a nice cold shower.

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Old 01-27-2010, 01:42 AM
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How about a king-size bed, and single duvets? That way you would each have one, can still snuggle, and if the one in the middle needs to get up in the night, there isn't any issue with dealing with duvets. The germans use the single duvet per person arrangement and it works quite well.
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Old 01-27-2010, 02:50 AM
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Ha! A question I actually have practical advice for! At last sleeping in a big puppy pile becomes useful!

1) Wow, you guys are big! We sleep four people in a California king with no problem. However, at our "other" house, we only have a queen, so we are in the process of purchasing another queen to place next to it. This is a solution we have employed in hotel rooms with no problem, but I know that you can also purchase an adaptor to cover the crack between beds, so no one gets lost or even...eek...pinched.

2) Speaking as the person who gets stuck in the middle, solve the blanket problem by buying multiple blankets and overlapping. Then the person who is in the middle can slip out through the overlap (the person in the middle usually slips out from the middle by sliding out of the end of the bed) and also the person who has to sleep in the middle of the furnace can throw off blankets at will.

As for waking the others...well, that's just a hazard of sleeping so many people together, I think. We have no practical solution for it, which is sad because I'm up multiple times in the night so everyone else is, too.
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Old 01-27-2010, 04:12 AM
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I use to sleep with my two girlfriends in a king sized bed. One thing that helped was having three blankets because the person in the middle would get very hot. That way, they can pull their leg out to cool off without having to get out of the blankets entirely. That person could also crawl down the end of the bed if they had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. We took turns with the person in the middle.
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Old 01-27-2010, 02:51 PM
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We took turns with the person in the middle.
I'm betting Quath meant to say "We took turns being in the middle," but what he actually said is so much more fun!
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I'm still searching for my third to have this issue come up!
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Old 01-27-2010, 07:18 PM
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I'm betting Quath meant to say "We took turns being in the middle," but what he actually said is so much more fun!
went back to read it and yes River you are SOOOO right!!!
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