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Old 06-11-2010, 11:14 PM
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read this thread, needed cold shower...then saw William hung...
yup, william hung works SOOOO much better then cold show...thanks, i think?
LOL.
oh oh, i read a quick comment about amateur porn on this thread...hmmm...
casual sex with a video camera + a consenting partner = a possible "excuse" for casual sex for me anyways.
giggle
joking! or am i?
dammit, now u gots me wondering if i still think casual sex is wrong for me cus u've combined my love of videography with casual sex ....
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Old 06-19-2010, 11:35 AM
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way ti kill the thread honestheart...
ok fine, so in the 60's we had free love or casual sex, sex no strings
in the 70's we had disco (still, casual sex no strings)
the in the 80's we had AIDS and SAFE SEX movements
in the 90's we had the movement "sex is special, do it woth somebody you love"
so what do we have for the new millennium? are we now a "do whatever works for you as long as it is done safely" kind of society where casual sex or free love is acceeptable as long as it is done safely?
and another question... with sex can come the baby...
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Old 06-19-2010, 02:44 PM
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Actually I think the thread was heading toward doomage once we started talking about specifics about casually being sexed

hmmm I don't know what the millennium brings in regards to sex. My vision is skewed because of where I live, so I don't know what the kiddies are doing.

I know it appears more people are into experimenting than ever. Thats a natural progressiong because of the internet with kinks and fetishes being so readily available.
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Old 06-19-2010, 02:44 PM
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so what do we have for the new millennium? are we now a "do whatever works for you as long as it is done safely" kind of society where casual sex or free love is acceeptable as long as it is done safely?
My hopes have always been that people can simply understand sex for the basic natural,biological function that it is.
No different that eating or sleeping. Enjoy it, celebrate it, market it if you want to, share it when possible and wash your food !

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Old 06-19-2010, 08:06 PM
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... Enjoy it, celebrate it, market it if you want to, share it when possible and wash your food !
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Nicely said :-)
although i am somebody who believes that, for me anyways,sex is an expression of love and should be treated as something special so as such I don't practice casual sex.... however i respect other opinions and do not thrust mine upon them... so as such i adopt a very " as long as it is safe" kinda mentality to other people's approach on sex. I'm just curious if this is because of me or if it is a society new view kinda thing, or maybe my faith (mostly christian right now )?
so despite disagreeing with casual sex being right for me, i really respect other's opinions and i do like how you put your idea across about how you feel about sex and definitely can see the wisdom in your view :-) because afterall, sex CAN just be sex and nothing more. to me personally, it is more. but i know people who can have sex and it be just sex so again, i see the wisdom in your words... and once again, Grounded, nicely said!
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Old 06-20-2010, 10:04 PM
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Ok, here's my two cents
As someone who hasn't really done the casual sex thing, I can only share what about it appeals to me and what doesn't.

I'm far to self-conscious to just hook up with a total stranger, it may be exciting and fun, but I think I need that trust and connection.

I do like the idea of having a 'friends w/benefits' type thing, a 'casual' arrangement. Someone who I have a connection with but doesn't have an interest in becoming my partner like my husband or boyfriend.

What appeals to be about sex with other people is that it's different. That person is physically different and also comes with a whole different set of experience (and talents!). That's not to say that sex with one person isn't satisfying, I think that sex with different people has the potential to be a great teacher. In my own case, my sexual experience is very limited and upon embracing a non-monogamous life, it's opened my eyes to the possibilities out there.

And for the record, I LOVE giving blow jobs! For all the reasons previously stated in this post.
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Old 06-20-2010, 10:07 PM
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I had casual sex with my husband last night; I gave him a blow-job, too, and it was very casual. Nothing formal about it.
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Old 06-20-2010, 10:38 PM
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I had casual sex with my husband last night; I gave him a blow-job, too, and it was very casual. Nothing formal about it.
Next time have him wear a tux Not so casual then
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Old 06-20-2010, 11:27 PM
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Next time have him wear a tux Not so casual then
That's what I was thinking... we were naked!

Next time.
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Old 06-21-2010, 11:57 AM
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Default Has anyone Read the Book "Ethical SLut" ?

Has anyone Read the Book "Ethical SLut" ?

A very good book that I personally can relate to.

I am accepting of my desire to experience others for the period of time that I am able to spend with them. Be it socialy or sexually and in some cases both.

The books author banters back and forth a little but finally ends up siding with the open minded and sexually adventurous. Considering each of this forums posts it really becomes what is right fo you at the time. It really does not matter what any one else thinks.

Just thought I would provide my thoughts.

RedPepper quote: I agree on there is to much emphasis on threesomes, but being in the Porn Industry I like the emphasis on ASS FUCKING. LOL

Talk soon.
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