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Old 04-30-2012, 09:35 PM
Heph Heph is offline
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Smile Attractive Colorado Couple LF Female


We are a happily married couple of 3 years now although been together for 6 total, we have been looking for the "elusive white unicorn" for quite some time now.

Needless to say our searches have seemed to be in vain, with absolutely zero luck. I stumbled upon this site while looking for poly info, so we figured what the heck.

We are a younger couple fit, attractive and outgoing 23/m 36/f we live in Colorado Springs. We currently have no children although would like to someday.

I am active duty military, and my wife works on base as a civilian, so we are financially secure and stable.

Looking for a like-minded individual to share our lives with. Our interests are pretty wide. Anywhere from snowboarding to playing video games with each other. If you'd like to get to know us better or have any questions please respond to this post or PM us.

Thanks again! *fingers crossed*
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Old 05-01-2012, 05:38 PM
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Hi there - I'm definitely not what you are looking for, but have a question about what you wrote - what is the situation for poly folk in the active military? I have had enough experience in a past life with security clearances, and they often look at extra-marital relationships as security risks. Is that something you have to take into consideration at all?

Does the military have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy around this, or DO they ask, and if you answer truthfully or get caught, you're out?

"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb
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Old 05-01-2012, 07:21 PM
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Our first quad had an active duty Army, and it was very much a don't ask don't tell policy for him.
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Old 05-01-2012, 09:01 PM
Heph Heph is offline
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Hello, very good question. Here's a link I pulled up after some research. It would seem considering some discretion would be beneficial, yet my clearance wouldn't be in jeopardy aslong as I acted responsibly.

However seems the "only 2 cases cited extramarital affairs, and both of these cases involved current sexual relationships about which their spouses were unaware." and "Today sexual behavior is relevant when it is compulsive, self-destructive, high-risk, or criminal; creates susceptibility to coercion; occurs in public; or shows poor judgment. If at least one of these factors is not present, sodomy, promiscuity, adultery, group sex, cyber-sex, swinging, pornography, sadism, masochism, fetishism, bondage and degradation, homosexuality, bisexuality, transsexualism, and transvestism are not disqualifying conditions for a security clearance."

The military has had a "Zero Tolerance" policy when it comes to human trafficking violations i.e. prostitues, sex slaves, ect. Which is why the secret service agents are in deep water.

Anyways great question, here's the link;

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Old 05-04-2012, 07:08 PM
jndmoore jndmoore is offline
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Thank you for this, my wife and I are just starting out down this path and I am also in the military with a clearance so it was a concern. Interestingly enough, I am FROM Colorado Springs, lol. Good luck in your search!
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