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Old 05-04-2012, 01:10 AM
FFontario FFontario is offline
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Location: Ontario, Canada
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Default So Hard

Ok so I don't get why this is so freaking hard to meet others who are Poly and more importantly who are compatible. I just want to have another gf and maybe a bf and hoave a poly family.
We are ...
K 33, bi
M 32, mostly gay (75%)
And our petting zoo...
Kyla (9yr Black Lab)
O'Malley (4 month old Chihuahua/Minpin)
Arizona and Lexie (1yr cats)
Lavigne (1 yr Rat)
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Old 05-04-2012, 01:19 AM
ThatGirlInGray ThatGirlInGray is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Northern Cali
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There are TONS of single people who could tell you that finding ANY compatible person is difficult. Many of my single friends are currently in their 30's and recount horror stories of people who are either (mono and) already taken, or still single for a REASON! And they aren't even looking for a relationship structure outside of the mainstream.

Add in being open to poly, multiply by the number of people you want in your poly family (squared!) and it's absolutely going to be difficult. But anything worth having is worth being patient and working hard for, right?
Pan Female, Hinge in a V between my mono (straight) husband, Monochrome and my poly (pan) partner, ThatGuyInBlack
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Old 05-07-2012, 07:10 PM
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CielDuMatin CielDuMatin is offline
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Location: Upstate New York, USA
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Yeah, I totally agree - there are VERY few folks that I would be interested in having anything more than a conversation with. Having that whole "poly" thing restricts your available "pool", as it were. once you start weeding out those whose way of doing poly is utterly incompatible with yours, it gets to be slim pickings.

But on the flip side, I have found that compromising and "settling" ends up hitting back at you down the road, and causing drama and grief.

If you are getting frustrated (and it sounds like you are), take a look at your criteria, and explore if there is anything in there that you could relax as a requirement that might open up the pool of folks a little...

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